didn't say i keep it a secret, I keep it private. Those are different things.
Meaning I go out with the guy to public places with out hesitation. I'm seen at bars with said fellow. We comment on each others facebooks and all that. I don't however go around calling my guy friends telling them how I'm worried that he might be into another girl or asking them advice on better sex positions.
Meaning I can go out with a group of guy friends and not feel a need to talk about the guy I'm seeing, because my assumption is that my guy friends don't want to hear about it. But I guess it's a double edged sword cause I guess it can be mistaken as not really being into the guy or still being available.