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word man.

Apr 16 2011 12:08PM

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tell me about it. ever go through those times where you feel like you guys arent seeing eye to eye in terms of affection? it's the worst. the best way to describe it is that there's a difference between being nice in return to someone when they're nice to you, and being nice all on your own. if i bring her random flowers, completely unexpected and really surprise her, that puts a smile on her face and makes her feel so good. so loved. now why is it always the guy's job to do shit like that? i shower you with affection all day long, i'm sweet, i compliment you and tell you how beautiful you are and how much i love to be with you and all sorts of things, really trying to make you feel like i love you, and all i get back is 'aw thanks you're sweet' or 'love youuu'. it's like women are receptive to affection and might return the love after you've initiated it, but they don't really think to be affectionate all on their own.

let me put it this way, girls love it when you're randomly sweet like that and make them smile. but, they wont do it themselves. what makes you think i don't love that shit too? sometimes i like to be complimented out of the blue and told why you're into me. why i'm your man. deep down, of course i know that things are good and that we have a strong relationship, but i like to see that you can put some effort into ME too, however you choose to do that.

Apr 16 2011 12:25PM

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Sorry she's not a whore...

Apr 16 2011 12:29PM

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So you're saying you'd love a bouquet of flowers?

It goes back to chivalry. The men courted the woman. The men ask the women to get married... etc, etc.

The same way you feel you have to play that roll some women feel they shouldn't be... that doesn't mean we don't want to. It's just how things have always been.

I always do sweet/nice things for my boyfriend. We're best friends and we do things equally for each other.

I think you have some pent up feelings there, sir. You're reading too much into it.

And to the OP, she's either A. on her period, or B. prude or not into you. Wait a week and you'll be able to subtract one of those.

Apr 16 2011 12:31PM

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i understand the chivalry part. im not asking girls to put a ton of effort into their guys and reverse roles or anything. sometimes, all it takes is a random compliment or random act of kindness, unexpected and unprovoked. be spontaneous, be sweet, without having to wait for him to do it first. shit, even when he's sitting in a desk chair doing his own thing, hop on his lap and start giving him a lapdance.

bottom line, think of shit that makes a guy smile, and just do it. guys like to smile and feel loved too. plus, it's how you really know someone cares about you.. when they can think of doing things for you on their own, without having to be asked or encouraged. most of the time you know your girl loves you, but sometimes you want to see it outright. is that such a sin?

Apr 16 2011 12:39PM

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No means no shithead. Find an some easy girl if you just want to fuck.

Apr 16 2011 12:40PM

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Not at all.

I'm pretty much that girlfriend.

HAAAA. This may be a little more than I should be saying on NS...
but guys are naturally hornier by nature, they can't help it. I feel it's my duty as a girlfriend to take care of that. And well, just make him happy. Like I bought him a dirtbike a few days ago. HA! And then I surprised him again yesterday with clothes for dirtbiking. But not even that, just little things... like making him dinner or wearing my fav outfit of his even if we're just stayin in all night or things I won't say on NSSS.

HAAAAA. Just gotta find the right girl!

Apr 16 2011 12:48PM

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I just don't understand them woman folk. tonights a new night. Maybe I'll take lindsays advice and go for an easy girl.... nah thats not how i roll

Apr 16 2011 12:50PM

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i have to make things riight now... i think i'm in love.

the bbabe sitting on my lap in my pic... gthats her.

Apr 16 2011 1:14PM

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Dude. Word.

I've been there about a dozen times with girls, but I'll tell you right now it's not girls, it's people.

EVERYONE likes to have someone tell them nice things/do cool stuff for them/lick that special spot. It makes you feel special because they were thinking about you and just had to let you know how much, but most people don't really do it because they're thinking about their own shit, super busy or perceive themselves as being in need and not you. It's not just romantic relationships either- when was the last time you called your mom to say I love you? Same thing.

Don't beat yourself up over her iciness, it's just how some people roll. I have dude friends whose girls are super thoughtful and they could give two shits and continue to think of themselves at all times. Personally I've always been a considerate person- a thinker and a doer. I'd make something random like a shoe rack without telling her because her shoes were katrina'd, and y'know I might get a ZJ/reacharound/slap&tickle but then it's right back to the old grind.

No matter what you do it won't change the way they treat you. Period. It's just how they are.

As much as you like your girl now, reality dictates that someday you will probably find someone else that chases you down just to tickle your manparts and coo in your ear in a way that keeps you floating on cloud 9. Fwiw, sometimes it's annoying to be worshiped tho too. You might be overdoing it, but try not to look into it so much- it's just how she is.

OP... Just a few questions... Are you both virgins? Do you go to third base before the game gets called for rain? If you want help you can't just say "she leaves".. wtf goes on before that???

Apr 16 2011 1:17PM

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Dibs when that dude fucks up!

Seriously, you should teach seminars to other girls on how to be awesome.

Apr 16 2011 1:19PM

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I read that as being "You should teach sesame street to other girls on how to be awesome

Pretty sure i'm on crack

Apr 16 2011 1:23PM

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Damn that is great your your man but I think in general with a few exceptions women are taught to be the icy bitch that only returns affection doesnt give it. So in conclusion Fuck the 16th century

Apr 16 2011 1:29PM

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i read that as the kitty in your icon typing that

pretty sure he is on crack

Apr 16 2011 1:31PM

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oh an dub post but my women right now gives some affection without being prompted but sometimes it gets on my nerves too. Men are acctualy just women with chest hair and penises

Apr 16 2011 1:33PM

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this is getting personal now!!

Neither of us are virgins, I know for a fact that shes fucked other dudes, but I also know that when its over, she doesn't talk to them again afterwards. Shes hot enough to do what she wants and get away with it i guess.

Every night she comes over its fucking groundhog day. she sits/lays on my bed while theres mad people in and out of my room. We'll make out for a while i try to progress further, but she wants to see whats going on outside the room. (normally mad people in my suite every fri/sat)

It's just driving me nuts because I'd go for other girls, but she's there and shes prettier than most othergirls. She also comes over to my suite uninvited like last night. Either shes the devil and shes playing with me or shes mad shy. IDK NS fucking help me!

But i did throw her out last night which might have ended it for good... haha I grabbed her by the waste and dragged her out....

I'm glad to hear that people have similar stories... it's just a mindfuck

Apr 16 2011 1:33PM

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It takes some nuts to say something like that. A lot of dudes have too much pride built up to admit they want some affection and not just sex.

It seems like a lot of relationships I have been in are one way. Either the girl expects me to do everything for her or she just does whatever I do. A relationship should be reciprocal.

Apr 16 2011 1:36PM

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Dude, in all honesty you're getting fucked with. If she shuts you down every time and acts weird, it probably is not going to stop being weird at any point. You say she's hooked up with other dudes then bounced, so you really want to open yourself up to success followed by an even bigger mindfuck? I'd hit the bricks while you still have thousands of other prospects at your fingertips personally.

Best of luck, and don't let shit get to you man... Happens to the best of us

Apr 16 2011 1:41PM

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Dude being 100 percent honest. I was "with" a girl EXACTLY like that. She was at my apartment every single day. Most of the time she would be there when I got back from school. We would do shit all the time, but when it came to sex she would just shake her head. Probably cause she couldn't talk. hehe. anyways it really fucks with you mind when a girl throws herself at you day in and day out but she won't have sex. And its not like we never did other sexually related activities.

At least she was a professional cook.

Apr 16 2011 1:53PM

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awesome, no vagina time but you sure got yourself a sandwich now and then?

As a girl, I can totally relate to hanging around at guys places but get all cold when things get too intense. Personally, I think its because I dont have enough feelings for that guy to just randomly fuck him. I dont know, all girls are different of course but to me it takes a bit more than just a nice person who happens to have a penis to make me put out.

Apr 16 2011 2:42PM

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Way to make my statement sexist.

I had strong feelings for the girl, she was using me to fucking orgasm 5 times a week. We cooked together too so the reason it was cool that she was a professional cook was because I learned a shit ton from her and the dinner was always bomb.

So maybe Im taking what you said too seriously but in all honesty, fuck off.

Apr 16 2011 3:33PM

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dude, chill, thought you were joking, but hey thats awesome that you could do stuff like that together, and I'm sorry it didnt work out for you. Will not fuck off though, sorry.

Apr 16 2011 3:42PM

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orrr you could just tell her "look, i like you. i wanna be physical with you, but if you are not into that right now thats cool, but i need to know if you are not into me either cause its not fair to me if youre just stringing me along. "

talk to her and find out what her deal is. you gotta initiate, and you gotta put your feelings out there first.

Apr 16 2011 3:44PM

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Haaa!! Well seriously. Like you guys bug the shit out of me on NS sometimes with all your nasty sexism jokes and raging testosterone but in real life and overall I really think I understand guys... or at least mine anyway.

We're a lot a like in ways and a lot different in ways and I accept that. It's nature. It's all about communication.

And to the OP... next time just ask her what the fuck is up. She knows what she's doing so she can't get mad at you for asking.

Apr 16 2011 3:53PM

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Sowy, got a little riled up.

Apr 16 2011 5:00PM

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dub. I was joking btw. She is a professional cook and with the consistent sexist jokes on NS it fit nicely.

Apr 16 2011 5:04PM

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that's why I come up here! GOULET!

Apr 16 2011 5:08PM

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STARRING CONTEST!

YOU WIN. YOU ALLLLWAYS DO..

Apr 16 2011 5:10PM

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I don't care if he is the Notorious BIG- CAN HE CROON!?!???

Apr 16 2011 5:12PM

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No means yes, and yes means anal. Get it right you dumb bitch troll.

Apr 16 2011 5:27PM

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wait.what

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What is going on in this thread.

Apr 16 2011 5:42PM

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nice on the goulet bit. nice.

Apr 16 2011 5:52PM

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So much truth to this in my life right now, it's unreal. The shit I do for the girlfriend, and the absence of any affection returned my way? It's ridiculous, and you literally find yourself wondering whether it's worth it half the time. BLAH. Sore spot.

Apr 16 2011 6:10PM

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yeah man. and to me it isnt even about returning it, it's about doing it on your own. dont just say 'i love you too' when i say it to you, find a random time to say it on your own. surprise me with affection and be enthusiastic about it. that's what i find builds the foundation for a relationship. if you both make each other happy and smile all the time, you're always cute together and treat each other like something special - something more than how you treat everyone else - you give each other confidence and, in turn, it makes everything else better.

i get a lot of hate for being too 'needy' or too 'sensitive' or whatever, but it seems like a reasonable thing to expect from someone who cares about you. it needs to go both ways. cause if i just feel like im doing everything for the girl and that she isn't initiating at all herself, im going to start doing other things that make me happy, or just be arguing all the time because i just dont feel loved. that's when your insecurities come out. even though maybe i AM loved, it needs to be apparent. i need to feel it. you know? if you care enough about me, you could at least do that for me.

that's my perspective on relationships and how people should treat each other, any way. it's just heartbreaking when you have a girl you care so much about and it just doesn't feel like it's coming back.

Apr 16 2011 6:30PM

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