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So Sad: High School Problems! (Are The Words You Say Worth The Life Of Someone?)
There has never been anything to suggest that bullying is healthy. You can definitely say that learning to cope because of bullying is healthy. In the last Zeitgiest (not a fan) movie they talked a lot about how biological traits are passed down. Basically, there isn't ANYTHING that is 100% biological. There are so many factors that make people the way they are it's ridiculous.
I also want to say that the fight over racism and sexism was not easy to stop. For 5000 years everyone was racist and sexist. Then for the next 1000 years it was abnormal to not be racist/sexist. Then in the past 500 years things have changed...
I think bullying could be the exact same way. For 6000 years humans have done it wrong. Now we change. Now there are a TON of things being done to stop bullying. Unfortunately, these efforts are being offset because of things like the internet and how mass media portrays the perfect life and so on.
I'd sasy that's a bit of a move in the wrong direction. We're quickly becoming a world of pussies. Kids who get upset when anyone gives them criticism or sends them a fucking sideways comment. Nothing worse than a kid who can't take criticism and bounces from job to job because he doesn't like his boss being mean to him.
I'm very radical, so most of the things I'm saying won't happen anytime in the near (distant) future.
There is a huge difference between a boss criticizing something and bullying. I agree that people need to harden the fuck up. I just think that people saying things with the intent to hurt other people is wrong.
I think people can't handle criticism BECAUSE of bullying. I think bullying creates predispositions that if you are being criticized, its because they are mean, you aren't good enough, they don't like you/whatever. Now, if you take out bullying, and you only come to know criticism as criticism to make you/your project/whatever better people wouldn't be afraid of it.
Sometimes kids are so thickheaded being an absolute prick is the only way to get it across.
Take this for instance, I was trying to teach a kid how to bench properly.
He kept doing it wrong, and I was trying like hell to tell him how to do it properly, but he kept not listening and trying to counteract what I was telling him with gym guru bullshit. I finally had it and said "Listen Taylor, you bench fucking 115 lbs with your ass off the goddamn bench. Shut the fuck up and listen to me, you said you wanted my help, so prove it and shut your goddamn mouth"
He wasn't happy but he learned how to bench, he's now one of my favorite kids to work out with.
no. you're missing the problem at the core. the major problem is that kids are simply not disciplined. everyone who has teenagers now was likely raised by a hippy, in north america at least, and i'm willing to bet it has a lot to do with how free kids are today. children and teens are seldom appropriate punished for their wrong doings, and there is no longer such a thing as personal responsibility. parents will take it completely personally if their child is punished and will blame the school system or mtv sooner than realize they never took the time to properly instill values on their children. the problem isn't that kids can't take it, it's that they are no longer told it's wrong to give it. if you talked the way you do to people in the 1950's or god forbid the 1900's, you would walk around with califlower ear and a black eye.
parents used to instill respect in their kids, and i'm impressed if i ever seen a kid give their seat up to the elderly on a bus nowadays. today is a free for all for tweens, and girls are allowed to walk around dressed like prostitutes are wear more make up than a drag queen, and guys get to do whatever they want, smoke pot with their dads and drink beers at 15. give me a fucking break. someone needs to smack down some of these kids today. it's impressive. i call someone out for being rude and everyone attacks me. it's flat out ironic and problematic. all kids think about is having sex and getting fucked up, and they're completely missing out on their childhoods. no one under 16 should be thinking about drugs and fucking bitches and getting money, but low and behold.
this fucking generation is a train wreck, and everything our parents or grandparents and so forth worked for is going to be utterly destroyed. i see kids under 12 out past 11, when they should be in bed, and on the buses in cities by themselves. and not to mention kids on the net. i wasn't even allowed in a chat room when i was 14. case in point, lack of respect. there is very few people who aren't rude today. everyone steps on each other for absolutely no reason. we live in a world of wealth and live lives where we aren't forced to starve. we're completely blessed yet we rob everyone else of their dignity just for the fun of it. all enough to make a coin.
That isn't bullying. You didn't say that to try to hurt him.
It's hard to think of the outcomes of what bullying does, but what has been proven is that bullying hurts self esteem. When people's self esteem is better they are more confident, more likely to succeed etc.
My interest in bullying is really because of suicide. I am disgusted that 5,000 American teens kill themselves a year. Bullying is a major cause of suicide. Stop bullying, save lives. It really is that simple.
People need to nut up and stop letting everything make them sad. I guarentuee 1/2 of more of the people who cut them selves are rich brats who get all pissed when something doesn't go their way. I can't stand people like that
Ok I need to start by saying I was bullied at school since grade 4.I had everything against me: I was English speaking kid in a Quebec public school in 1995, I was shy as fuck, I was pretty ugly, I had skin problems just to name a few. I had it rough, in junior high, they placed me in the slow class ( thank fucking God for making slow students so damn strong).
But you know, I dealt with it. I first went to people. No matter who it was, I always got good advice. Sometimes it was enough to stay strong. I also got involved in sports and social activities. Scouts got me some friends near home. Sports gave me courage. I just dont know why kids go straight to cutting themselves. Mutilation and suicide is way to popular, its time we start informing of ways kids can get out of bullying problems.
There is always 2 part to bullying, the aggressor and the victim, if the victim never speaks up we cant help.
EVERY TIME I OPEN THIS THREAD I WANT TO BLOW MY BRAINS ALL OVER THE WALL! THAT SONG IS TERRIBLE AND IT'S THE WORST SOUNDTRACK EVER! THE SOUND QUALITY ISN'T EVEN GOOD! WHAT AN EMO SLUT! SHE CAN'T EVEN GET IT RIGHT! DOWN THE STREET NOT ACROSS THE ROAD DIPSHIT!
i know a good handfull of girls at my highschool who are very good looking, have a good amount of friends and a good social life, do good in school and still cut themselves. doesnt make sense. i feel extremely bad for this girl, and i realize that the majority of the people commenting on this are males and males work waay differently than females becasue we can bury our emotions and forget them, and its fucking awesome. But girls are different.
i feel like this shit is so stupid. everyone gets picked on at least a little bit through out high school, but thats how you find out who your true friends are. if you don't like what someone says about you, fucking ignore it and go on with your life. if she was called a slut, there was probably something that she did to provoke that. i feel like kids these days have fucking gone soft. back in the day if you had a problem with someone, you confronted them and it was over. now kids let all of these things get all pent up, and release their feelings like this. it's fucking sad that people have to resort to cutting, or suicide, but if they just dealt with their problems this kind of thing wouldn't happen.
some people, especially teenage girls, just have very low self esteem. when others reinforce how worthless you are, and bad at life you are, your low self image turns into dangerous depresion. some people just naturally dont cope well.
thats why people say some one is very strong in the face of adversity...because there are many others who are not. some of the time its not a choice to be strong emotionally, sometimes life gets overwhelming.
Me personally, i just live in denial of tradgedies in my life, and so i am not really affected by family deaths, and friend suicides. I dont know any other way to handle it...it is what it is.
Just because you are strong enough to handle adversity in a certain way doesnt mean that others are. everyone is different and everyone has different coping mechanisms.
Even if you think she is being melodramatic, you should still have sympathy for her because, no matter how pretentious yyou think her struggles/pain are, she is still in real emotional pain and distress.
and heres some hippy bullshit that we can all agree on:
i went through a cutting phase, it was awful. it felt like it was the only way to cope with life. its not my crutch anymore, but saying ive completely stopped would be lying
First off, she copied that chick who's mom had alzheimers. Second, she is just trying t get attention. I have a feeling she is the slutty, annoying, obnoxious chick who wants positive attention from everyone 24/7. When she finally wears down people's patience and they tell her off she acts like it was unprovoked.
My advice to her:
Girls have always wanted to be treated equal with everything. Play the same sports everything which I completely agree with. That said guys get called names all the time and its no big deal at all. Just man up really. Tough it out lifes rough but your going to give up when some ones calling you names? If anyone says its tougher for girls thats bullshit.
Can we please take a poll of the ages of all the people posting in this thread? Because all it sounds like to me is a bunch of fucking 14 year old bitches saying how hard their life is and how they got over it, so the girl in the video should too. It's not always that easy. I don't condone self-mutilation, but to the people saying she deserves it and is an attention whore: grow the fuck up, you're part of the problem.
