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Legal Help/Emancipation/Living Support

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T.Rex
Posts: 1272 - Karma: 125
so first off ill start by asking if anyone knows any good sites for legal help for emancipation? because i did my research and most websites are outdated and i spent $38 dollars on just answer.com for legal help but im pretty sure i got ripped off
next if there are any kids on NS that are emancipated howd you do it and how long did it take and what support are you living on?
next if there are any kids on NS that are finishing high school, live alone and are over 18, what support are you living on and what type of living space do you have?
sparknotes for people wondering why im asking this cause i know the 12 years olds of NS want some gossip,
parents divorced, dad lives in Seaside Heights, NJ, i live in Moscow, PA roughly 3-4 hour drive, mom is driving me literally insane cant take stress arguments anymore i have been having fucked up thoughts and shit from living here, i have 1 and half more years of high school 17 and will be 18 end of november, want to finish it in my school district here, need to move out, need info and help on finding a suitable lifestyle living space to finish high school, 2 choices as of now live here until i finish high school and go insane, move to dad's do cyber school for senior year and rest of junior work full time leave friends and girlfriend here and drive up occasionally and back on weekends cost around 60$ just for gas every trip, im pretty much fucked either way so im set on finding a place to live by at least november 30th but i need to find some sort of work-program or financial support to live off of
and yes i am responsible i hold 2 jobs, pay for everything but food and for living at my moms, and yes i occasionally drink throughout the school year but mainly focus on school and i smoke, and in the summer lifes a breeze just as long as i get my work done
so just looking for people with same experience and what they did
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Jan 17 2011 10:50PM
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CrazedSkier1080
Posts: 3357 - Karma: 66
that sounds like quite the pickle. I offer no advice, but good luck man
Jan 17 2011 10:53PM
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Zulu
Posts: 61 - Karma: -20
I wish you the best of luck, but my advice would be to actually go to a law firm and see what you can do.
Jan 17 2011 11:00PM
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saucybiscuits
Posts: 2554 - Karma: 173
pm BEARS. i know he had a similar situation
Jan 17 2011 11:18PM
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WestBound
Posts: 17 - Karma: 10
I've had this situation (about 2 weeks ago). I am 18, but still in school so I had the money issue. I moved out for a week and then decided to move back in. As somebody this young it really hurts to be paying for rent, utilities, car, gas, insurance, food, cell phone, etc. Not saying it is undoable, but it will be hard, and you will probably not have the money for luxuries like skiing.
Jan 17 2011 11:21PM
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alexg1687
Posts: 1505 - Karma: 1,581
you shouldn't really need a lawyer for this. you can always seek legal aid (all lawyers do pro bono work every now and then) but it might be a pain in the arse.

on a practical level, try to find a friend's family who'll let you live there til you turn 18. do you have a job? can you afford any sort of rent? will you be going to college/university after school? holding out til college is probably your best option. that way you'll be able to stay there and you wont have to worry about the parents.
Jan 17 2011 11:22PM
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Raz.
Posts: 7456 - Karma: 1,611
damn bro sucks. just try to chill a little though, i mean its only one more year. i think i know what you meen by fucked up thoughts, but if you just make some good choices and do something you love (IE skiing or art or working out, whatever floats your boat) it will really calm you down. but hey who am i too assume its not so bad
Jan 17 2011 11:24PM
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powderdrunkie
Posts: 2034 - Karma: 976
I think to be emancipated you need to provide proof of physical/emotional abuse.

why don't you sit your mom down and just ask nicely if you can move in with a friend or something. Talk about the benefits and stuff. I dunno. I know my mom wouldn't have gone for it, but it's worth a shot.

other than that I would just say tough it out until you turn 18 man. sucks but we all had to do it.
Jan 17 2011 11:25PM
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T.Rex
Posts: 1272 - Karma: 125
just spent the last 2 hours or so looking for legal help, found a free legal clinic to help to figure out my financial aid side, just need to wait till i sell my car with bad tranny get a new one and ill make an appnt
see my mom is not the type of person to discus stuff with she has her set opinion and thats final no matter what she might say
my mom has caught me drinking and smoking once each before and yea i stoped for a while to please her and to keep my shit in line, but she just recently has become restrictive and along with that comes insanity
for example recap of the past 3 days, friday wake for school running late bad mood stepped in dog piss ruined my jeans and socks threw a fucking fit, mom says shed rather me leave shes sick of me and shit, walk out for school still a little pissed went to school, get call in school from mom asking what happened to her windshield of her car cause it was smashed and cracked in about a 2 foot diameter, she thought i punched in when i walked out for school, is making me pay her 250$ or she files a police report on me, and said i was grounded for a month, left that night because she wasnt home and was on a date (shes dating a black dude too which makes me look down on her somewhat, you would too if you met my mom), next morning wake up finish doing work on my car and figuring shit out for the sale of it, tell her im going skiing and to girlfriends and she acts like nothing every happened and is fine with everything, this morning she wanted me to move heavy boxes into the attic with an organizer she hires because we just recently moved, im in the shower come into the basement (my room/ bathroom) freaks out saying she smells smoke and cigarettes which i didnt smoke that morning at all or even last night let alone in my house, told me im staying home for the day to watch her search my room for my "drug stash", tried turning my dad against me say that hes taking her side and all this shit which he didnt, i freaked the fuck out huge screaming fight walked out went out and chilled, got home 2 hours ago,
2 months ago she saw me at the local gas station when i was with my friends stopping at dunkin donuts on our way to the basketball game, she made me leave with her saying that i was on drugs and i was whacked out, took a piss test for her, came out positive, still insisted i was on drugs, shut my phone off called all my friends telling them not to talk to me again that this isnt my phone and shit, i told her i was leaving she said go for it, left for 2 days with her not knowing where i was but my dad did,
my dad supports me in my choices and my actions as long as i do good in school and work, but it just has come to the point with my mom that she has caused me to loose it, we cant speak to eachother without it starting a fight, the stress it has put on me has pushed me further into drugs which i have started to stray from, ive had thoughts of death and fucked up shit, she ruined my previous relationships with friends and my social life and its time to get away from her
Jan 18 2011 12:17AM
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powderdrunkie
Posts: 2034 - Karma: 976
you have no case for emancipation

man up and deal with it like everyone else.

I was raised mormon and hated my parents too but i was being a little bitch

which i now realize
Jan 18 2011 12:23AM
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jason...
Posts: 9006 - Karma: 780
that sucks, good luck. i've never been in a similar situation so i really cant help you, maybe stay with a friend for a while or something like that, might help.
Jan 18 2011 12:25AM
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T.Rex
Posts: 1272 - Karma: 125
yea exactly i have no physical case for emancipation because they cant go off of mental effects, and even if i were to get emancipated by time it went through id be 18, im going to have to end up waiting till 18, but still im looking for stories of people that live on there own at this age and how they do it with out support from their parents, my dad is bankrupt and has been unemployed for 2 years and hes running on disabilities, and my mom will 100% not pay for any of my shit once im 18
Jan 18 2011 12:26AM
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powderdrunkie
Posts: 2034 - Karma: 976
ya man that's the real world. Most people's parents won't pay for shit after they're 18. Mine didn't at ALL.

I never got my own car, college money,allowance, anything from my parents for free. they're broke as shit. Bankrupt as well.

but seriously I see kids just floatin through life with stuff they got for free from their parents. that doesn't help anyone out in the long run. learn to do things ALL on your own and you will be a lot better off. and then, you will feel like everything thing you own is yours and only yours. Your parents will someday totally respect and appreciate that. And you will respect and appreciate yourself a lot more too.

The real world sucks man. It can be fuckin hard as shit sometimes. But fuck the handouts. you can do it

plus don't get caught drinking or smoking cuz it's not gonna help your case at all.
Jan 18 2011 12:39AM
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Liam.Butler
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I was going to try and give advice but I don't know, all I do know is living on welfare fucking sucks.
Jan 18 2011 12:51AM
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T.Rex
Posts: 1272 - Karma: 125
yea i know about that shit, i cant stand to look at kids like that my area is full of them, it straight up sucks, but i know with financial aid i dont want to live off it my whole life, basically until college because then i can board on campus and shit, but i wont be able to sustain paying for my rent, utilities, car, car insurance, cell phone and phone all on my own just when i hit 18, what i really want is some sort of work program where if i get a certain amount of hours in work and sustain certain gpa i have rent payed, car insurance payed, utilities payed, and work a second job for extra cash which i would be willing to do in a heartbeat
Jan 18 2011 12:57AM
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Funkadelic
Posts: 1967 - Karma: 391
A friend of mine moved out of her house when she turned 18, lived with a friend, and worked at a Perkins. When she graduated high school she continued working at Perkins, got an Apartment in the ghetto and went to a community college. She got a 4.0 at the community college and after 2 years got a full ride at Bucknell. If you live in PA I'd recommend looking into it because Bucknell has some community college program that helps you out if you do well. She's a senior now at Bucknell still completely supporting herself and already has an accounting job in NYC starting in the fall.

Just an example of how it can be done if you're willing to work hard.
Jan 18 2011 12:58AM
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californiagrown
Posts: 9794 - Karma: 2,014
you realize that you pay for pretty much nothing then right? how much do you think it costs to rent an apratment+food+unexpected shit that comes up?


just sit her down and ask her what she wants you to do...then do it, save your money so you can move into a place of your own/go to school when you do turn 18
Jan 18 2011 1:02AM
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powderdrunkie
Posts: 2034 - Karma: 976
there is no such thing as these programs you speak of.

if there is sign me the fuck up
Jan 18 2011 2:19AM
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Sno.
Posts: 12155 - Karma: 6,152
honestly, I don't think you'll find what you're looking for (apartment/independent living) without quitting school which i definitely do NOT recommend. I say tough it out until you're done with high school, then move out.
Jan 18 2011 2:28AM
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Sno.
Posts: 12155 - Karma: 6,152

yeah, these programs definitely do not exist. Sign me up too.

Jan 18 2011 2:35AM
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Jaimee.
Posts: 846 - Karma: 87
Everyone deals with family shit, it sucks ass.
It helps to see if you can move in with a friend for a week. Same thing happened to me when I was in grade eleven. Moved in with my cousins for a week until things got settled down at home. I went back home and had a good talk with my parents after that.
Things got better, nothing will be exactly how you want it and you learn to deal with it. Talking to your parents help, and the secret is to not get overly agitated while talking to them. Or in your case, your mom.

I really hope everything works out for you. Keep your head up, life goes on and gets better.
Jan 18 2011 2:43AM
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