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Don't take life for granted

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kootenayklaus
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Two days ago, my mom and I got into a fight. She started attacking me, insulting me and everything I stood for, the whole deal. After that she kicked me out of the house with no coat, no shoes, nothing, for over an hour. Do you know what it's like to be kicked out of the house in 10 degree weather by your mother? I just lost it. I went back inside and I was told I am leaving. No time to say goodbye to your friends, not even my best friend. In about an hour's notice, I was driven to a rendezvous point and my grandparents picked me up. All of this was around twelve o' clock at night and not only was I driven to that point, my mom just left me there. Three or four people asked me what the hell I was doing out this late with my bags. I just replyed "Life's a bitch, isn't it?" I cannot explain to those who don't know what it's like to not be loved by your own parents and how it affects you. I hope none of you have to go through this and to those who have, I feel absolute sympathy for you. I am currently Living in Scarborough, ON with my grandparents and for the most part, I am extremely happy here. It's a hell of a lot better than the foster home she threatened to put me in.

Dec 16 2010 10:03AM
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SONlC
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What did you do?
Dec 16 2010 10:04AM
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chardi
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you should move
Dec 16 2010 10:05AM
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kootenayklaus
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I'm not even sure. She came home from work and started screaming at me...
Dec 16 2010 10:05AM
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chardi
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that got cut off, idk how old you are, but you should just ski bum if your not living at home
Dec 16 2010 10:06AM
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kootenayklaus
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Not an option, Maybe after high school, but I would like to finish.
Dec 16 2010 10:09AM
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Bar_Down
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lol @ my parents dont love me
Dec 16 2010 10:11AM
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chardi
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oh then nvm, i thought you were just chillin at your grandparents for a while i was gonna say just move out
Dec 16 2010 10:11AM
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MEGAZORD
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How old are you?
Dec 16 2010 10:12AM
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kootenayklaus
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15.
Dec 16 2010 10:15AM
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chardi
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do you smoke a lot of weed and do poorly in high school?
Dec 16 2010 10:16AM
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kootenayklaus
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Nope. Relatively ok student and not into drugs and shit.
Dec 16 2010 10:17AM
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SONlC
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Not to downplay your situation here but you just came home and didn't do anything wrong whatsoever and your mom just came in and started screaming at you then kicked you out of the house? I know parents can be unreasonable sometimes but there has to be more to this story...
Dec 16 2010 10:17AM
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MEGAZORD
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I dont know about canada, but parents are legally obligated to care and provide for their children, despite how much of an ass you might be.
Dec 16 2010 10:18AM
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kootenayklaus
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I haven't done anything wrong really, other than being lazy a couple of times but that's normal. I have 4 other brothers and sisters and I am just the hated one of the family. I don't know why, I just am.
Dec 16 2010 10:20AM
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chardi
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do you have conflicting ideals with your parents, have you ever struck one of them above the shoulders, or do you have a porn addiction?
Dec 16 2010 10:20AM
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eljusto.
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That sucks man. Are you sure there is nothing that you and your mom disagreed on?

Dec 16 2010 10:22AM
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kootenayklaus
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Nope. But one time I hit her on the shoulder shen she was beating me.
Dec 16 2010 10:22AM
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chardi
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so take me through a normal scenario with your parents. give as much detail as you can between the time the two of you walk into a room and the time when you start punching each other
Dec 16 2010 10:25AM
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@skiinmitch
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Yesterday my mom started tO freak out and yell at me for no reason so I just got up from the dinner table and said I am not eating with you if your yelling at me and I left. She calmed down I went downstairs acted lime nothing happened and continued to eat. Later she apologized to me. But ya it sucks to have parents yelling at you and shit.
Dec 16 2010 10:27AM
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kootenayklaus
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Other than just being the hated kid of the family, no. I guess she was just tired of having me around

Dec 16 2010 10:29AM
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Bar_Down
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yo honestly kid, stop victimizing yourself like this, its making you look like an ass hole. well i dunno about these guys but i know i'm starting to think you're an ass hole
Dec 16 2010 10:31AM
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RubberSoul
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unless he's leaving a big part out of the story, he's not much of an asshole to be pissed that he got kicked out of his house at age 15 eh?
Dec 16 2010 10:34AM
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kootenayklaus
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Well, we can sit in a room together, but as soon as I say something it's automatically wrong or disgusting to her. I can't really explain in it depth too well, but usually starts with a normal disagreement, then she starts yelling at me. I  try as hard as I can not to yell back to see if the tension will cool down, but she just won't stop usually. After a certain point, I usually try to leave and that's when it starts getting bad physically. Sometimes she's drunk when it happens, and at other times she's completely sober, so I don't think that has much of a factor in it. That's about all I can tell you.
Dec 16 2010 10:35AM
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Bar_Down
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thats what im sayin, it just seems kinda strange to me that parents who have 4 other kids, and who treat these kids well by the sound of it, just start hating their last kid for no reason whatsoever dont you think?
Dec 16 2010 10:36AM
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kootenayklaus
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I literally am not an asshole, and both of my grandparents agree. They know my mom has deepset problems with me in general and they are always telling me to not listen to a thing she says bad about me.
Dec 16 2010 10:37AM
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kootenayklaus
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My other brother isn't treated too well either, but not nearly to the extent of me. I have three other sisters, and they are treated like princesses.

Dec 16 2010 10:39AM
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Cufe.
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If she is getting physical with you and is often drunk cant you call Child services? it seems like the case would be solid against her.
Dec 16 2010 10:40AM
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14.
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Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again, but life goes on
Dec 16 2010 10:42AM
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kootenayklaus
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She's not a raging alcoholic though, that's the only problem with it.

Dec 16 2010 10:43AM
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Bar_Down
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Blow
Dec 16 2010 10:44AM
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Cufe.
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still, people have had their kids take away over a spanking when the kid was clearly out of line. It would be easy to get her with abuse of a minor. I am not saying you should go that route, but if she really did step over the line (which it sounds like she did, regularly) then you could go that route.
Dec 16 2010 10:52AM
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14.
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dingbar

I have a question for the OP

How can one not take life for granted if their granted the gift of life?

ouuuuuu
Dec 16 2010 10:53AM
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chardi
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give me an example of what you say to her.


is it like, hey mom do you want to have pork chops for dinner? and shes like, NO! I FUCKING HATE PORK CHOPS!!!

or is it like, hey mom i think abortion is a great idea. and she's like, NO! THATS WRONG AND DISGUSTING!!!
Dec 16 2010 11:01AM
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daskis
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Jesus... that's insane. I'm so sorry bud! 15 years old?! I hope your grandparents are treating you well! If not you should definitely live with a friend or maybe a cousin!
Dec 16 2010 11:12AM
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daskis
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I know what that feels like... sometimes mothers just don't stop with the yelling. I hate it when it's like mom, alright, I get the point, but she just keeps going on and on.
Dec 16 2010 11:19AM
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uosdwiSrjewoH
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this seems like kind of a harsh option, but sue the shit out of her. you're only 15 years old, pretty sure the guy was right when he said she's legally obligated to care for you. get child service, get something, but she's not allowed to do this shit, get what you deserve out of her.
Dec 16 2010 11:19AM
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daskis
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When it's your mother, no matter how badly she treats you, sometimes that is an incredibly hard thing to do.
Dec 16 2010 11:22AM
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geteducated
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how you liking scarberia?
Dec 16 2010 11:39AM
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PowSkierCO
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Honestly, I am not sure why you are all upset. Yeah, it sucks to be thrown out in that way, it sucks to not be able to say by to your close friends and maybe your other brothers and sisters. I am not sure how far away your grandparents live from where your mother does, to be able to see your buddies. i would look at it like this, it seems you are not treated like you should be or feel you should be, it seems that you get picked on by your mother and she has some issues of her own. Be happy to be out of that situation and be in a place where loved ones think highly of you. Think of this as a posative move forward. You will only be held back living in the type of household where you are always blamed and put down. maybe after the situation clears, you can try to be your moms friend or just call and talk to her about nothing. It's a start. For now, be stoked to be out of that situation. That's my two cents.
Dec 16 2010 12:15PM
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Willard
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Oh... you got kicked out for an hour and now your living with your grandparents. Fucking rough life man.
Dec 16 2010 12:23PM
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VT_FLO
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he's probably upset because the person he was raised by and should be closest to rejects and hates him. He's fifteen, still a kid and can't legally get out on his own and hasn't had anything close to a normal childhood. He's just getting into a good situation and he's starting to adapt to, but there will always be that memory of his mom. And it is a fresh memory. I know when I got close to some other friends and hung out with them it was incredibly alien to see a normal family. So that's a pretty ignorant statement for you to say. From the sound of it you have never had anything worse than your parents not buying you a certain set of skis you want happen to you
Dec 16 2010 12:35PM
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Phormat
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Good luck with everything man. It's definitely a tough situation to be in. Having a rough family life sucks, but on the bright side, it makes you much stronger than most people. You develop an immense amount of patience and the capacity to deal with an amount of adversity that most people would crumble under. My mom doesn't hate me, but my parents don't have the best relationship and that has trickled down to me and my siblings many a time. I'm older now and basically out of the house and about to finish college, so I'm looking to the future. One day I hope to provide a better kind of family life for my own children so they can focus on being kids and not having to grow up so fast. Other tips, find friends whose families treat you like one of their own, or a girl that makes you smile.
Dec 16 2010 1:07PM
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XtRemE11
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moms can be fucking insane, id consider mine a pretty nice and happy person, but there are times where she just flips shit over absolutely nothing, and goes around the house yelling at people and shit.

ive got two friends with moms that literally are crazy, one has severe depression, drinks all the time, but acts like the happiest person ever, she's always super nice and excited. but its so easy to tell that its all completely fake.

another friends mom got home from a vacation they were on for like 3 weeks, he was outside when they arrived, she just walked right by him not saying anything and didnt look at him once.
the next day the first thing she said to him since he got back was. "did you feed the dogs every day?"

so basically every woman is like destined to become a complete psycho bitch at sometimes in their lives.
hopefully your mom will get over it.
Dec 16 2010 1:18PM
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Mestenberg
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Well that sucks but its good that you have it better now.
Dec 16 2010 1:25PM
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PowSkierCO
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Actually, I buy my own things. I own my own home and my own truck that I payed for myself. i was not trying to bash the kid. I was saying he should look at it as a more positive way and make the best of it. So that is pretty ignorant of you to assume things about me. :-)
Dec 16 2010 1:34PM
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kootenayklaus
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Not bad... Nothing like the town I used to live in.
Dec 16 2010 3:12PM
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iggs
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sounds like you and your gat need to settle a little problem
Dec 16 2010 3:21PM
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iggs
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sounds like you and your gat need to settle a little problem
Dec 16 2010 3:22PM
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chardi
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looks like you and the reply button need to settle a problem
Dec 16 2010 3:24PM
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Arabian.
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>Don't take life for granted.


FUCK YOU WON'T DO WHAT YA TELL ME.
Dec 16 2010 3:26PM
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