during my junior/senior years i was talking to some schools in NE and in some in the midwest. the midwest schools had weaker programs but were much more academically competitive. i didnt have too much trouble getting into those schools either but an official visit is recommended. get to know the coach and the team, and set up and interview with someone in admissions. the more face time you have with the coach and the team the more they'll be likely to pull for you, which should help your odds.
also for NESCAC school they'll prob be expecting a 1800 SAT and 3.3-3.5 for athletes(seems to be the standard for school of that caliber). just because your good doesn't mean theyre gonna take you.
in terms of scholarship money, dont expect too much. however those schools do have MASSIVE endowments, so they might be able to cover some expenses if you ask politely but im not too sure how that works.
i hope that covers the basics