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So Ns i need your help with my cousin.

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Scott0_robot0
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So my cousin who lives in jersey(inb4 jersey shore pics), im in utah. so my cousin has been having trouble lately lost his job because he was smoking a cig at work at the wrong time. His life is very slowly going downhill. He his pretyt much living in his car or couch surfing at friends houses and stealing food from his parents house late night. Also he just rents out hotel rooms with his credit card remember he has no job , just so he can hook up with his "girlfriend" he is just a mess right now and thinks his whole family hates him but he he the one pushing himself away can anyone help me out with what to say to him he is really hard to talk to about this i really want to help him get his life on track i want to introduce him to skiing and get him out here but not sure that going to happen.

any help NS dont know what to say or do with him dont want to see his life go down hill. except on skis.
Aug 16 2010 11:55PM
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skiierman
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no, get him the fuck out of jersey. seriously.
Aug 16 2010 11:56PM
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Fuck.W.M.E.
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tell him to stop being a dumbass and wasting money just to fuck his girlfriend.
Aug 16 2010 11:56PM
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Shadows
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does he read books? research P-A-C. your whole family should read up on it. its done a lot for people.
sounds like personal problems but someone should at least step in and save him from fuckin his credit up. and tell him to get off da bitch!
Aug 16 2010 11:58PM
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Scott0_robot0
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ill check it out thanks, and yea believe me iv been trying to get him out of jersey for awhile a long while. i am glad my parents brought me to utah i dont know where i would be if i was still there, but our whole family has tried to talk to him he just ignant totally ignant.
Aug 17 2010 12:02AM
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charmander
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pull an ECB
Aug 17 2010 12:05AM
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dispatchQ_main
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kidnap and dump him in mexico. did wonders for me
Aug 17 2010 12:06AM
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Shadows
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so quick googling brought up some inclonclusive pac definitions. to clarify, its Parent-Adult-Child. its transactional analysis "therapy" self help. how old is he? seriously man, PAC has done wonders for soooo many people. its crazy. i just got done reading up on it cause i was kind of in his position. he will learn a ton but the knowledge he gains through it will only be as good as he applies it. so he needs help from YOU and most importantly his parents. you say hes stealing food from his parents house? how does that work. your parents need to step up.
Aug 17 2010 12:06AM
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Shadows
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damn ns is tripping in this thread? i replied after bogez
Aug 17 2010 12:09AM
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Scott0_robot0
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well his parents have stepped up sooooooooo much for him i cant even explain every time they help him he just takes total advantage of it in a very bad way very bad. And iv tried to help him its just hard when i live far away and our whole family is all about family needs, but when we try to do something he just pushes us away unless someone gives him money but after that he just rejects you again and wont speak to you. and he has just trashed the house and he had his own place but stopped paying rent and got in trouble with that. and he refuses to live with his parents its not a huge deal that he is taking food just the fact when his parents have seen him doing it he just tells them to fuck off and takes it and runs. but i will def check out that book thanks man.
Aug 17 2010 12:15AM
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owned
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probably start with this. i live in jersey and it sucks.

That aside, a change of scenery could do wonders.
Aug 17 2010 12:17AM
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Get.Kronk
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clearly ECB him
Aug 17 2010 12:20AM
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Shadows
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yea man, its a tough situation. i used to be like him only not so extreme with it. once you read about PAC youll understand and i may be wrong in saying this but your parents may be coming on TOO strong.
heres a very crude definition/explanation of it
http://changingminds.org/explanations/behaviors/ta.htm
Aug 17 2010 12:24AM
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Shadows
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yea man, its a tough situation. i used to be like him only not so extreme with it. once you read about PAC youll understand and i may be wrong in saying this but your parents may be coming on TOO strong.
heres a very crude definition/explanation of it
http://changingminds.org/explanations/behaviors/ta.htm
i read the book "im ok, youre ok" start with that if you decide to actually read but you can get the gist of it through basic research
Aug 17 2010 12:25AM
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ORDEAL
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Only plausible answer.

But seriously PAC has done a lot of things for a pot of people
Aug 17 2010 12:29AM
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Scott0_robot0
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yea hes not my second cousin though, although...

but i am reading that link as we speak
Aug 17 2010 12:30AM
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ORDEAL
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Maybe If I rephrase.

1. Find legal loophole to make him second cousin.
2. ECB
3. ?????????
4. Profit
Aug 17 2010 12:36AM
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geteducated
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so what you're saying is that he is just lazy?
Aug 17 2010 12:38AM
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Scott0_robot0
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well yes but not just that his mind works in mysterious ways. seriously though he is but there is soooooooo much more shit going on than just that. and thanks for the help everyone im going to try to get his sister to check out this book and talk to him about it.
Aug 17 2010 12:42AM
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Shadows
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i know this may be VERY, VERY controversial but look into tripping with him if he ever comes out your way. understanding PAC should suffice though haha. dont do drugs kids.
Aug 17 2010 12:46AM
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skiierman
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wait... i changed his mind. just kill him.
Aug 17 2010 12:47AM
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geteducated
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well see my brother doesn't do shit either. hasn't had a steady job in 3 years and he is 22. although his reasons for not working and sleeping in til 2 in the afternoon is that the world is going to end in 2012 and that he just wants to enjoy what time he has left. its frustrating, so i feel ya man.
Aug 17 2010 12:50AM
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Scott0_robot0
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i actually already have haha but yea skierman you just changed his mind holy shit man you are magical.
Aug 17 2010 12:50AM
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senorpuppy
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this
Aug 17 2010 12:51AM
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Shadows
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you already tripped with him? weird man, i dont know then haha. maybe he didnt "get" it?
whatever though, best of luck. i feel like ive posted enough in this thread.
Aug 17 2010 12:52AM
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Scott0_robot0
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ha yea but thanks for the help man.
Aug 17 2010 12:53AM
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DOOM.
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Ask ECB, he's got tons of experience with cousins
Aug 17 2010 1:00AM
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