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50% divorce rates
justice system that favors the woman.
sucked into an endless spiral of mediocrity.
Yes.
I suppose I can understand the argument for a prenup, especially if you have some wealth. However, isn't it just like saying,"This probably isn't going to work." What happened to the days of working out differences instead of just going to the divorce lawyers. Yeah 50% failure rate is rediculous, but I think it's a product of people's unwillingness to compromise or to actually put in the work needed to make a marriage work.
I think it is just too easy now-a-day to get a divorce. Back in the day people tried to work out problems not just drive to the court house. I also think that many people get married just for the sake of having a wedding. Im 27 and have already been to 3 weddings that havnt lasted a year. Do you know how mad that makes me? I pay for a hotel room, fancy dress for the gf, and a gift for the bride and groom. Then less then 12 months later divirce papers.
I also know plenty of people that have been married for years and still in love. Ive dated my gf for 4 1/2 years now, lived together for 4 of them and have a 2 year old dog. Am i shopping for rings? Hell no. Im skiing 50 days a year and playing with my dog. Maybe a couple years from now, but marriage is a life long commitment that some people just dont think through all the way.
I know this is long but a wise friend once told me "I want a dog, then a kid, then a wife. A kid is half of you, you always love your kids. But finding one woman to love forever, thats a lot harder."
Some do, but it's a bit misguided. I guess it depends on your experience with it. For instance, my parents don't get along that well, but they are still married, they are the only ones who could put up with eachother's shit so somehow it works. I don't think marriage should be about compromise, but a lot of the people i see that get married end up being miserable for the most part, hence the divorce rate. Many people feel pressured to get married if they have been dating for a long time, or they feel that they are getting too "old". Legally it makes sense to get married, but emotionally it's a whole other realm. Age should have nothing to do with it, only finding the right person. The more important question to ask is, do people believe in finding the "one"?
