Convincing Parents.

just sit them down and explain to them in a very level voice that you are old enough to start making your own decisions about sports, classes you want to take, etc. tell them it is your decision to make, not theirs.

If you're good enough to play varsity lacrosse as a freshman, I'd stick with it. I might get some hate for saying that, but sometimes parents know what's best. If your parents are rich enough, tell them you'll stick with lacrosse if they'll send you to a ski camp like windells over the summer.

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also are your really good at lacross or are you just on varsity because the competition is thin? do you start? do your really like lacrosse or are you just doing it to make people happy?

also having good bargaining chips(good grades, clean room, good behavior) can help sway your parents

If you like skiing more than lacrosse, why won't your parents accept your decision?  Sports are about having fun...

I started on varsity as a Freshman, and in retrospect, high school lacrosse is a ton of fun. That being said, you have to have your priorities.

if you get good grades, your parents will be more willing to let you choose what to do.

i played var. lacrosse freshman year. i took my sophmore year off to ski more. my junior year i went back. i shouldnt have taken off that season. it was a big mistake. i missed out on a lotta good times.

Like someone up there ^^ said, sit down with them and have a talk. Tell them that now that you're in high school you think it's about time for you to start making decisions. Tell them that you aren't passionate about lacrosse (assuming that you aren't) and that skiing is what you really want to do.

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i know it sounds bad, but hes right, if you make varsity as a freshman, that could take you places.
that being said if you hate it, tell your parents you arent happy with it. most parents just want kids to be happy ... hope that helps.

where do you play thats its the varsity team playing over the winter

you must be 18/19? it is your descision not your parents in the end but def talk witht them.

he's a freshman, so hopefully not 18 or 19.

just have a calm talk with them about what you want to do and explain that playing lacrosse isn't going to get your anywhere, but skiing is something you can do for a long long time and there isn't anything else like it. keep in mind though, that parents are often smarter than you might think. of course they are wrong more than we know also.

well first decide what will be more beneficial to you.  is it realistic that u will get at lacrosse scholarship and do u enjoy it.  if u dont enjoy it then dont do it and tell them that if u dont enjoy what u are doing how r u expected to succeed.  you will probably be skiing for the rest of ur life.  my uncle just turned 80 and he still skis but u probably won t be able to play lacrosse forever so tell ur parents in the long run skiing is a better choice

don't quit lacrosse you bum....
seriously, do not quit lacrosse

tell em its your life to live not theirs and that your old enough to make your own decisions....
they did this to me i didn't start skiing till i was a senior.... fml

i played varsity football as a freshman and looking back on it I am happy I played football and unhappy as well. Football/Lacrosse will teach you a lot of good lessons, but I know I would of enjoyed high school more if i was skiing more often.

Thing is, you havent met my parents.

Louisville Kentucky. We have practices on Saturdays allready and I would miss winter break as well. Not to mention all the tournaments.

As gay as it sounds write a letter, it shows commitment. I used this with my parents so much and they never caught on. Type one up use some fancy words and make some strong points and Im sure they will at least be more open to the idea.

sounds like a well-hidden claim to me. i am in the same situation though, lax = taking up skiing time.

oh but it isnt.

Indeed it is not!

whats with all the people telling this kid to play lacrosse even when he doesnt want to just because he's good at it. if you like skiing more than lacrosse just tell your parents that and quit lacrosse. dont play a sport because of where it will take you or what it will get you, do it because you love it.

thats so wierd we dont start any real team stuff till like end of march or somehting

Its complete bullshit. I cant convince my parents at all and they say if I quit lacrosse I can't ski. They also wont let this senior take me to the hill. Fuck. My. Life.

Dude, I just started skiing seriously the past season, and this one. I'm 21. Your... 15? You have so much time ahead of you, you don't have to seriously commit to skiing 100 percent, and dump the other shit in your life.

This, but if it fails, just kill them

this is a good point, especially cause college can be super expensive.

that being said, its true that most parents just want their kids to be driven and happy, so maybe if you explain to them that you're really not happy playing lacrosse anymore, and since you've been doing it for so long that you haven't had the opportunity to try other sports on a more serious level.

even if you really just want to ski more for fun, as long as you tell them that you're considering going somewhere with it and working hard (like you do at lacrosse) they shouldn't have any argument to keep you off the mtn.

be older?

^ every time i see you post i have to say "hurr durr"

I know, as a freshman, you think that Lacrosse is going to take forever, and all you want to do is ski. I've been there, I've felt the exact same feelings that you're feeling right now. And I KNOW that you won't believe me, but your parents are just doing what they know is best for you. You're at that age that you'll NEVER change your mind just because they want you too. In fact, you'd go out of your way to disagree with them. I'm not hating on you, it's the way nature works. At some point you have to start becoming independent from your parents.

And I have a pretty good feeling that you're not going to be convinced by anyone on this website. But, I encourage you to take the time and read this post.

I'm 25. I played 3 sports in school. Plus I was in the marching band. While in school, I couldn't wait to get out. I hated going to practice instead of hanging out with my friends. It just seemed like a waste of time. I wanted to quit, but my parents would never let me. And I would be so angry with them. And the thing was, I wasn't that good, at least not at football, and somewhat at basketball. I could play baseball. But....I didn't have a future in them. I wasn't going to turn pro. Hell, I wasn't even going to play them in college, let alone get a scholarship for them. But I had to stay with them. And my parents would always say to me "you're going to look back and miss this". I heard it from relatives. I heard it from teachers. I heard it at graduation. I didn't believe them. I just wanted to do my own thing.

Now, fast forward 7 years. I've been out of HS for a while now. And I can look back now, and see EXACTLY what they're talking about. Just today, no lie, I was driving around and passed a HS baseball field. And I began thinking about baseball, and how much I missed it. I wished I would have stayed after and hit more batting practice. I really regret not lifting weights more. It ran to wishing I practiced basketball more, and then wishing I had gotten better at football. There's a lot of stuff that I don't remember from high school. But memories from these sports I played are as clear as yesterday. I remember exact seconds of games. The smells of certain gyms. And the sounds of a baseball bats, basketball shoes, and football pads. These are bonds and friendships that are on a whole different level. Teammates are different than friends. You share experiences that NO ONE else understands. Think about how it feels to score a goal, you won't get those feeling outside of lacrosse. Even landing a new trick isn't the same feeling as a team sport. And now, I can't do any of those. Thanks to snowboarding, I can't play baseball anymore. I can barely throw a baseball. I can't play football or basketball. My knee is so wrecked I can barely run.

And I miss it.

It sounds like you're a hell of a lacrosse player. Maybe a chance to play beyond high school. It will be an experience that you'll remember forever, and never feel again. I know you probably won't take my advice. You'll probably laugh and just call my old. Hell, you might not have even read this far. But I'm telling you, just stick with it. You have the rest of your life to ski, but you only have the next few years to make these memories.

Like I said, I really doubt you'll change your mind. But, I want you to remember this post in about 6 years. When you finally look back and have that "ah ha" moment. Where you see exactly what your parents were encouraging you for.

Guess what?!?! They told me I can quit! ONE DOWNFALL......They wont let me ski if I quit. Yay!

I have to agree with the guy above me. Looking back on high school, one of the major things I miss is sports. I played soccer, dove and ran track, and I can honestly say that some of the best times I had were during games and meets. Nothing beats the competition, and sometimes when I think about meets I still get surges of adrenaline that I have a hard time finding anywhere else.

I'd seriously consider sticking with lacrosse. I know its not the answer you want to hear since you seem to have already made up your mind, but I have a feeling that you'll have some really good times if you stick with it. Skiing isn't going anywhere. High school only lasts 4 years. Enjoy it while you can.

Stick with LAX. It will help you out for college.

read the post above you, take it to heart.

maybe you think you won't be able to ski as much doing lax, but even if your parents let you quit and ski, how many more days does that really give you on the snow? winter vaca, and a couple of saturdays?

it looks like you can do night skiing at PNS, ask your parents if they'd let you ride up with your senior friend whenever you don't have practice.

work around your lax, skiing is fun, but lax helps you more. In the deepest sincerity, don't be a bitch about it. Lax will help you be fit, and get good with your school. I don't know how many other freshman are on the team, but you have the potential to become team captain by senior year. Your last senior game as a team captain will be better than any of the skiing in Kentucky/Indiana

if your not THAT good and your just sitting on the bench then i would say its up to you if you wanna quit. but if your starting and your a quality lacrosse player id say you should stick with it cause it will definetly help you get in to college etc

Alright heres the thing guys. He is playing lacrosse in Kentucky. Its still lacrosse and fun but there is really no way that anyone plays in college. We have only had 2 kids ever play D1 lacrosse from our city.

I have played lacrosse since 5th grade, started varsity goalie since 9th grade, and I really love it and im good, but there no way ill be able to play D1 unless i fully commit myself and go all out.. but thats not gonna happen.

also i am the kid who OP is talking about driving with, im legit. no tickets, crashes, etc... I drive a Volvo XC stationwagon and will pick OP up to take on the 1 hour 45 minute drive...


dude, cameron... tell ur parents that i have 9 pounds of weed in my car

if your playing varsiity freshman year and you go a pretty good lax school def stick with it help you out so much plus getting into college will be much easier

tell them if they dont listen to u r gonna get addicted to crack, leave and you will never see them again, if they call ur bluff, break some plates (preferably paper, just like rip it or something...)

get an arm or wrist "injury" and then tell them you cant play lacrosse

ram that up your moms snatch, that'll teach her

I read what you wrote it's kind of umm not inspirational but good to read. From whta i've experienced this is true and good to read for all the kids going through this making the "convicnce parents" threads.

Made me think a lot...............

ahahahh

tell them that you feel that lacross isn't giving you the pleasure it used to