Replying to Entry Level DSLR Help

Ok so I dont have the money to get into videography, and ive always loved taking pictures at my cottage with my moms dslr. So I think Im going to get a DSLR, probably a d40, d60, d3000, or rebel xsi. So after SEARCHBARING for a bit, i found that the d60 isnt worth it. the d40 is pretty much the same except more megapixels that dont really matter anymore and the iso which adds to much noise on the d60. so then i looked at the d3000. its a new camera from nikon which is pretty much the new d60. dont know much about this camera. anyone help with that? also, ive looked at the canon rebel xsi. i heard people saying that it is flimsier then the d60 but it also has a more advanced body. my other question is, what are some good lenses that i could pick up for these cameras. i know the d40 and d60 dont have an auto focus motor so i need a lense with those. i shoot alot of scenery at my cottage in the summer, i will be shooting skiing this winter, and im going on a family trip to paris around christmas so i want a camera that will be good for all those things. thanks alot for any help. +k