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Eye contact?

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neverbummer
Posts: 196 - Karma: 107
hey when you listen to people is it okay to stare them in the eyes the whole time or is that creepy? and when you listen to people do you look at them in the face or do you look down at the ground?

thanks. much


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i suck at life and need help
Jul 23 2009 3:43PM
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Tortao
Posts: 1292 - Karma: 10
if im talking to a girl i stare at her bOObs
Jul 23 2009 3:44PM
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Stallis-good
Posts: 190 - Karma: 22
make eye contact for sure, but dont be a creeper about it.
like do three seconds on three seconds off.
Jul 23 2009 3:45PM
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Prime
Posts: 82 - Karma: 10
your just thinking about it too much. Just do what feels natural and focus on the conversation not on their eyes.
Jul 23 2009 3:45PM
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TechnoPotamus
Posts: 11626 - Karma: 3,522
yeah, you should look somebody in the face, in the eyes when they're talking. It shows you're listening and are interested in what they're saying. And it shows respect.
Jul 23 2009 3:45PM
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Robert.T
Posts: 230 - Karma: 230
I do that cause i have bad hearing and it helps me understand.  Could that be why?
Jul 23 2009 3:46PM
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I_Am_Mod
Posts: 13214 - Karma: 3,753
definately on job-interviews, exams and with hot girls, make above average eyecontact, for exams and interviews you show them you're not affraid of them and you stand strong in your shoes.
when playing the chiccas, its rather obvious.....
Jul 23 2009 3:52PM
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JibbaTheHutt
Posts: 2132 - Karma: 1,597
wow this is kinda screwed up thread but ohwell i must say i often get the same thought when somebodys talking to me what sucks is when your really bored of what their saying
Jul 23 2009 3:58PM
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neverbummer
Posts: 196 - Karma: 107
yeah its weird i just over think it and i get all fucked up in my head. I guess i just wanted to know how a normal person did it
Jul 23 2009 4:01PM
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seemeski
Posts: 4210 - Karma: 124
I was always intimidated by eye contact so I would look around just glancing at the person. Lately I've been working on eye contact and I feel more confident.
Jul 23 2009 4:03PM
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neverbummer
Posts: 196 - Karma: 107
yeah its the worst when some one you dont really want to talk to comes up and tells you something really boring. you have to force yourself to look at them and it just gives me a head ache and i feel that when i look at them directly in the face for an extended period of time im just creeping them out. I guess my question is when you are talking with someone and they are staring at you does that creep you out?
Jul 23 2009 4:09PM
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Peter.
Posts: 23796 - Karma: 13,014
i hate when someone doesn't look me in the eye, i take it as a lack of self confidence
Jul 23 2009 4:10PM
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yellav
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don't blink, tilt your head slightly to the right and hum the the pledge of allegience.
Jul 23 2009 4:28PM
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SKIDUBAIGUY
Posts: 3018 - Karma: 8
I often stare at peoples mouths too, i reckon thats how i learnt to lipread, but recently ive been trying to look people in the eye, its better that way.
Jul 23 2009 4:30PM
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OhMyBosh
Posts: 5056 - Karma: 171
I look around, mainly at peoples mouth or eyes...



When im talking i look all over the place and never make eye contact. It makes me really uncomfortable to look someone in the eye and talk to them. I fail at life.
Jul 23 2009 7:01PM
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AMG.
Posts: 867 - Karma: 21
the more eye contact you make while talking shows your dominance. the more you make while someone else is talking, shows thier dominance over you. however if you stare all the time its creepy, either way.
Jul 23 2009 7:57PM
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Shark.
Posts: 3158 - Karma: 270
you gotta eye-fuck the shit out of them. 
unless they have nice bewbs
Jul 23 2009 9:34PM
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Mooserz
Posts: 2945 - Karma: 32
I look at the mouth to because if I didnt understand what they were saying I can try and piece it together by what the mouth looked like
Jul 23 2009 9:44PM
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Barefootin_Fiend
Posts: 7618 - Karma: 4,727
looking away from someone when they are talking to you is a sign of weakness.  ALWAYS make eye contact the entire time until the other person looks away.  unless you aren't the dominant type.  (on the same note apologizing is also a sign of weakness.  never apologize {in a professional setting} just correct the mistake.)
Jul 23 2009 9:48PM
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Crack.
Posts: 6020 - Karma: 84
hahahah
Jul 23 2009 9:50PM
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Hack.The.Pow.
Posts: 1294 - Karma: 25
haha this
Jul 23 2009 10:01PM
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OhMyBosh
Posts: 5056 - Karma: 171
I guess im weak as fuck. I get so uncomfortable when im talking and then i look at someone and they make eye contact with me. Fuck that shit.
Being a socially awkward penguin FTW.

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Jul 23 2009 10:05PM
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neverbummer
Posts: 196 - Karma: 107
thanks for all the feed back. I have accepted my place in the world as weak coward who cant look people in the eyes..,. super lame i know............. well i guess when people are talking with you are supposed to look at them the whole time. I wonder how to do it when you are sitting next to them on a bench though,
Sep 10 2009 5:56PM
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b-kul
Posts: 4350 - Karma: 1,111
yes.
Sep 10 2009 5:57PM
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AKburns
Posts: 464 - Karma: 9
turn your body and stare at them, also, make sure you talk too that way its not just you doing all the staring. if needed have something else to do, pretend to check you phone or something, adjust your pants anything if you want to break a stare. get confidence
Sep 10 2009 6:04PM
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AlexGaynor
Posts: 947 - Karma: 148
Put your hand on his/her lap, and look away, and pretend you don't notice you are doing it. Always makes for a funny/awkward moment. If it's a girl, she will probably get insta-turned on, and want to have intercourse with you.
Sep 10 2009 6:23PM
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neverbummer
Posts: 196 - Karma: 107
hahha. nice. so look at them while they are talking with you. regardless of wether this creeps them out or not, it is what a cool kid does. hurray.
Sep 16 2009 7:03PM
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Che~
Posts: 2108 - Karma: 296
look them in the eye, its the polite thing to do. if that just seems weird then you can always look between their eyes, like at the top of the nose
Sep 16 2009 8:55PM
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