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ethanlong
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Alright so im kinda in a bit of a bind right now. I do cross country for my school and am good at it, but i dont like doing it. I love skiing and i want to just focus on that, but every time i talk about stopping cross country my dad flips out. I really want to stop running cross country but my dad makes it really difficult.  Any suggestions on how i should talk to my dad?
Jul 2 2009 1:00PM
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Hack.The.Pow.
Posts: 1294 - Karma: 25
hahaha I love how a lot of people are good at xc but hate it. and why can't you do both? xc season is in the fall and skiing is in the winter.

If you really wanna stop tell your dad you'll still be staying active by going skiing all the time. It's not like your being a bum
Jul 2 2009 1:05PM
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kepler.
Posts: 8761 - Karma: 139
Unless you live somewhere where you can ski early fall, just do both.

But if it's really getting in the way of skiing, quit. Unless you're amazing, you won't go anywhere past high school. Skiing is a life-long thing, cross-country will be over in a year or two.
Jul 2 2009 1:10PM
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*steeze_is_good
Posts: 2886 - Karma: 721
It's not like he can make you do it so if he keeps saying no just say you cant force me to do something just to make your dreams. Was he a runner and he wants you to "carry on the legacy" or something?
Jul 2 2009 1:10PM
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ethanlong
Posts: 18 - Karma: 10
yeah he was a runner too and i just think he wants me to be great. i would do both but the thing is, i dont like it and it takes up so much of your time when i could be doing other things i like. :/
Jul 2 2009 1:14PM
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charmander
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haha, i do xc too
im not that good though, but seriously, skiing is after cross country, im not doing track because it messes with skiing though
Jul 2 2009 1:15PM
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icrashoften
Posts: 193 - Karma: 11
are you a good enough runner to be looking at scholarship money?

If you don't like doing it there's no reason for you to be forced to do it. If you could potentially get a scholarship for a school it might be worth sticking around for.

as for skiing....i'm gonna +1 the fact that they're in different seasons...so I don't see the conflict there...
does your school have a ski team?
Jul 2 2009 1:17PM
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Talacious[Tally]
Posts: 1686 - Karma: 189
my dad is a crazy runner and wanted me to run like him, so i did cross country for a year and finally got to stop because he finally took me to the doctor for my chest/lung area pains and they dont know whats wrong so they said stop cross country since it hurts. it just sucks tho cause they still dont really know what it is
Jul 2 2009 1:19PM
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EH_DUBS
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aids
Jul 2 2009 1:21PM
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ethanlong
Posts: 18 - Karma: 10
bump
Jul 2 2009 4:54PM
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Posts: 8969 - Karma: 3,846
you could always tell him you just don't like it. If that doesn't work just continue doing it, its good exercise.
Jul 2 2009 4:56PM
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Talacious[Tally]
Posts: 1686 - Karma: 189

you caught me!

Jul 2 2009 11:05PM
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corona
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has their ever been a "i got aids" thread?
Jul 2 2009 11:10PM
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.peter
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I'm npt sure what "the other things you like are" but if you really don't like it just quit.
explain to your dad without getting mad or yelling at him how you feel. tell him that even though you may be good at it it's just not your thing and that you have other things you wanna focus on. (if smoking weed is one of the other things than ignore everything I just said) but whatever you do don't say something like "I'm not you!" or "stop trying to control me!" He probably doesn't want you to regret it some day. And if he's really mad just find something else to do that he doesn't care about and thats complete bullshit like some club or something.
Jul 2 2009 11:34PM
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Ian.Ham
Posts: 1688 - Karma: 1,154
say your knees hurt and you need to stop running

Jul 3 2009 1:17AM
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Hank
Posts: 316 - Karma: 15
just tell him? but its not like cross country ever interferes with skiing, does it?
Jul 3 2009 1:35AM
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JTL
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Jul 7 2009 5:57PM
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paige.
Posts: 1932 - Karma: 924
If you don't want to run your dad can't force you. We had a girl on my xcountry team that would get "lost" every single practice and some of us would take the occasional Starbucks break. If talking to him doesn't work you can stop putting any effort into it. Once you do terrible at a few meets he'll get pissed off but probably let you do what you want.
Jul 7 2009 6:07PM
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70794Willow
Posts: 334 - Karma: 38
idk about that one.
i wouldn't want my dad to get pissed at me.

just do what other people said, try to talk to him and don't give him a reason to freak out on u so don't tell him "u can't force me" and things like that cuz a wise man, ur dad surely is, will say i can force u to run as i can force u to stop skiing cuz i won't give u money to spend on skiing anymore.
^okay, that would be really harsh but u get the point.

ask him if there is anything else he would like u to do like just staying in shape (gym or so) or doing sth else for the school like a club.
Jul 7 2009 6:34PM
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paige.
Posts: 1932 - Karma: 924
Thats why I said only try that if talking to him doesn't work. Obviously this is the best solution, but sometimes its going to take more. And you don't say "u can't force me" you just start slacking off in practice (not necessarily obviously so). It might take awhile but eventually the kids dad will get tired of nagging.
I'm sure if I was still somewhat competitive my parents would still be forcing me to run five days a week.
Jul 7 2009 7:08PM
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Dr.Dickless
Posts: 2620 - Karma: 1,392
i did cross country and i got a lot of pressure from my coach so this year I'm just not going to show up on the first day of practice then I'll do track to smooth it over
Jul 7 2009 8:52PM
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Uncle.Badness
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That is tough, well what would you dad do if you quit x-country? If there aren't any big consequences then I would just ski.
Jul 7 2009 10:12PM
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epoxiedtip
Posts: 535 - Karma: 56
try out and fail on purpose
Jul 8 2009 2:26AM
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