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twin-tip-hero
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Alright so I'm 17 and i have a 21 yearold brother who is in his 4th year of college.  But for somereason he has never seen that I have grown past the age of 5, and that is the way he treats me.  Whenever i am around him or his friends he treats me like trash, and talks to me like he owns me.  People come up and ask me why he acts different, and i say what do you mean this is the way he always acts.  so i guess when he is around me, or my family he is a different person.  So to get to the basis of the thread.  I have recently decided to join the Air Force.  I have thought about it alot and talked about it with my parents, and this is something that I honestly want to do.  i want to be someone in my life. So my brother and I were talking about my friend who jsut joined the marines, and i said you know that is what i want to do right? and this is where the conversation picks up.

BROTHER (7:31:20 PM): why?
ME (7:31:28 PM): its what i want to do
BROTHER (7:32:10 PM): you can do something better with your life
ME (7:33:42 PM): like what
BROTHER (7:33:47 PM): college
ME (7:34:07 PM): expensive
BROTHER (7:34:11 PM): work at the grand union
ME (7:34:59 PM): its what i want to do
BROTHER (7:36:04 PM): well i think what you want to do is pointless and changes people
ME (7:36:19 PM): thanks for supporting me
ME (7:36:46 PM): ya know out of all people i would think that you would understand
BROTHER (7:37:42 PM): oh well
ME (7:39:40 PM): thats it, thats all you have to say is oh well. fuck you your my brother your supposed to be there for me when i need you to be, and to support my choices. i really fucking hope your happy with yourself
BROTHER (7:40:39 PM): looks like you've already changed
ME (7:41:40 PM): you honestly have been one of the shittiest brothers, you honestly have never been there for me. wherever the fuck we are you always fucking make fun of me and put me down in front of your friends and my friends
ME(7:41:45 PM): you treat me like shit
ME (7:41:49 PM): and im fucking sick of it
BROTHER (7:42:00 PM): good bye
ME (7:42:05 PM): fuck you
BROTHER (7:42:39 PM): good talk, real effective with the 'fucks' and dramatic phrases

I mean how do you respond to your own brother saying that your dreams, and what you want to do in your life is pointless.  I broke down crying because my own brother, my brother that i have been living with my entire life does not support me and thinks my dreams are pointless.  I mean i could see if i told him i wanted to be a pro skier.  yeah something i would really want to happen, but its not practical. but joining the air force, its going to happen and im really happy about it, and he tells me its pointless.  This is just something i would never expect from him, and i am deeply hurt by this.

anyways sorry for the rant i just need to vent, and let it all out, sorry that youguys had to take the heat of it.

Apr 10 2009 12:18AM
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twin-tip-hero
Posts: 2896 - Karma: 277
Click for larger image this is the hole in my wall i punched because i was so mad.  the quarter is there to size up the hole.
Apr 10 2009 12:22AM
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skiminnesota
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wow. your brother made a HUGE  dick move right there..

props on serving your country!
Apr 10 2009 12:22AM
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jayo.
Posts: 5015 - Karma: 34
jesus, how's your hand feeling?

and yeah he should support your choice even if he doesnt agree with it
Apr 10 2009 12:24AM
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cclan
Posts: 742 - Karma: 19
step1-harden the fuck up
step2-get over it, not a big deal
Apr 10 2009 12:24AM
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Peter.
Posts: 23796 - Karma: 13,014
i almost want to agree with this. just because he's your brother doesn't mean he is always going to be super nice. there are people that aren't going to like you in the world, you just have to deal with it
Apr 10 2009 12:34AM
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twin-tip-hero
Posts: 2896 - Karma: 277
im not pissed about him having a moody day and being mean.  but the fact that i tell him what i want to do in my life, and what my dream is and he tells me to do something better with my life and that it is pointless.  im sure if someone told you that your dream to do whatever was stupid and pointless you would be hurt.
Apr 10 2009 12:37AM
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An10a_Eng
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step1 - shut the fuck up
step2 - shut the fuck up again

dont sweat it dude, it seems like hes worried youll amount to more than him. do what you want to do and do it the best you can and just tell him to fuck off
Apr 10 2009 12:38AM
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wnab21
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Man i feel you so much. I think that sometimes my brother just wants to be an asshole to me. He will always say you suck at this and that and idk how you have any friends and just always likes to try and make an ass of me and piss me off. Then at times hes cool and wants to hang out and toke with me. Sometimes i just dont understand
Apr 10 2009 12:38AM
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bangarangmules
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i don't know what you'd be doing in the air force exactly or how dangerous it might be, but maybe he's just afraid of losing you somehow, or of you changing (whether or not you really will) and with his sub-par brother skills thats the only way he could let it out?

just a thought, just follow your heart man
Apr 10 2009 12:39AM
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[~_~]
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Your first mistake was caring what other people thought of your dreams.
Apr 10 2009 12:40AM
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Mr.Panda
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dude, i wish you the best of luck.  i have some really good friends in the military, one in the air force, one in the marines, one is a SEAL, and another is in the airborne, good luck and thanks.
Apr 10 2009 12:42AM
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Style+eeze
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send him a link to this thread, so he can see that i think he's a straight ass hole.

maybe you should punch him when you get the chance, cause fuck, that's quite an epic hole.

Apr 10 2009 12:42AM
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Delphi
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damn dude. I love my brother and would be devastated if he even remotely said something like this to me. You two are brothers, and there isn't really a familial bond that can match up to what that relationship means. I really feel for you here dude, I hope he comes around. It sounds like he needs to grow up, and by the looks of it, he may be having a hard time realizing that the kid he usually tools on is growing up into a real man with a strong sense of duty and responsibility. He may feel threatened because he can't amount to what you are becoming.
Apr 10 2009 12:45AM
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Swaggermager
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that makes me want to kill your brother
Apr 10 2009 12:48AM
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Peter.
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exactly what i was trying to say. you shouldn't care what other people think about what you are going to do with your life at all
Apr 10 2009 12:51AM
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twin-tip-hero
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although i am pissed off so bad i really cant descibe it in words, i still do not wish death upon him, so can we please keep death comments out thanks.  but thanks for careing man.
Apr 10 2009 12:52AM
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Delphi
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are you kidding me? its his brother. a blood relative, who he grew up with and shared a home with. If you think it doesn't matter what your family thinks of your dreams, you are delusional. That is really important stuff, and rightly so, he should care about getting his brothers support.
Apr 10 2009 12:54AM
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DYFI
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Apr 10 2009 12:56AM
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twin-tip-hero
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exactly my point,  now if some kid from school said that, i would not care at all.  but the fact that it is my brother means everything.
Apr 10 2009 12:57AM
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hartig
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i love my brother to death, but i wouldn't care at all if he didnt approve of what i wanted to do with my life..
Apr 10 2009 12:59AM
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[~_~]
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I don't see what loving your family has to do with pursuing your goals.
Apr 10 2009 1:14AM
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WillStart
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that is true. but i understand that he is your brother, and his opinion must mean a ton to you. i agree with what somebody above me said about how me might just be worried youll amount to more than him. joining the air force is a huge commitment and major props for doing it, i wouldnt. and if you go to college, then you two will be even, which is probably more what he wants.
Apr 10 2009 1:34AM
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cclan
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man up, "ohhh noooo, my big bro doesnt like my career choice". shouldnt matter what ANYONE else thinks of what you want to do, worse things could be happening to you.
Apr 10 2009 1:37AM
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ElbridgeGerry
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My brother is the same way, he takes massive metaphorical SHITS on everyone of my good ideas or dreams. He constantly tells me im a shitty skiier and treats me like crap. Fuck brothers!(no homoincestuous)
Apr 10 2009 1:47AM
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eastside
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honestly dude, he is right. you are younger than him, so he knows better than you. If he thinks college is best for you, then you should go to college. you need to grow the fuck up. there was no reason to bring that much fake drama into the conversation.
Apr 10 2009 1:59AM
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Z_rob
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step 1- Think about your post before you post it, was it worth it?

step 2- Don't be a dickfuck

my brothers dont even talk to me anymore if that makes you feel any better
Apr 10 2009 1:59AM
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eastside
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i completely agree. if money is the reason you dont want to go to college, then you are a dumbass. there are plenty of scholarships and grants you can get from the government if you are that poor, which you probably aren't because you ski.
Apr 10 2009 2:03AM
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eastside
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i know, right. he is your elder, you should respect him and not be a pussy.
Apr 10 2009 2:05AM
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eastside
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that is so true.

also.


Apr 10 2009 2:06AM
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wh@t
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 yup. go for it dude. fuck your brother. if he doesnt need you, dont feel like you need him.
Apr 10 2009 2:06AM
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hartig
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just to vary it up a little bit, i agree too. he's not going to try to make you do something that could be dangerous for you

also, there was way too much drama for this, and it wasn't needed. your brother's probably thinking the same thing. maybe try taking his advice for a little while, then going to the airforce if you really feel the need to do so
Apr 10 2009 2:08AM
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Jordan
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I am getting so fed up with your worthless posts.


Its ridiculous to waltz in here and ask this kid to grow the fuck up because his brother knows what's best for him? 1) His brother is 21 I would say that's not a mature enough age to give other people life lessons about. 2) Its his brother, thats what a family is. Even though he doesn't have to agree with his decision to join the airforce, he should respect and support his little brother. Just because you are so cool that you don't need support from your family and can call kids out in this forum for being a "pussy" because they are upset their own kin doesn't support their choice doesn't mean everyone is.

 This isn't NSG and you should get the hell out if you continue to post like this. Its not supportive at all, and I am so glad you can offer this kid life advice about college, and his future decisions and are still somehow mature enough to post the picture of shit in a toilet. That was a little sarcasm there if you didn't catch it. As for the original poster of the thread, its sad bro, I understand what you are saying completely. If your brother isn't mature enough (like eastside) and after confronting him like this, I would start to just dismiss him. Later on he'll look back in a couple years and realize what  prick he was to his little bro and be sorry for it.
Apr 10 2009 2:22AM
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hartig
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this definitely is nsg..
Apr 10 2009 2:24AM
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Jordan
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Oh wow. I thought this was in ladies men.... damn't hahaha.


I apologize for that part of my post. But most if not all of it still applies.
Apr 10 2009 2:25AM
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Bob_Gnarley
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why the fuck are you agreeing with your own posts, you dumbass.
Apr 10 2009 3:06AM
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hartig
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hahahahaha funny stuff
Apr 10 2009 3:13AM
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Scott2~
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Fairly personal issue, seems like you just needed to rant. Were here to listen, im sure youll figure things out.
My only advice is to control your anger in the future, im sure your superiors wont take too kindly to you breaking shit in the air force haha~
Apr 10 2009 3:15AM
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PatSul
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you know what man u are better then him just let it go for now do what u gotta do and when he see's what u accomplish he will regret never giving u suport. man me and my brother we never got along he fucking gave me stiches cause i tried to talk to him about somthing when i was 8. we never talked but no he is done collage and i am in grade 12 and we r starting to get along again. it will all work its self out in time just do your best until it does.


All the best to ya man!!
Apr 10 2009 3:58AM
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freezed
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going into the forces does change people. he's your brother and he cares about you (even if you can't tell) and doesn't want you to get hurt, throw your life away, come back changed, etc (all the bad things that can happen...not saying they will necessarily). it's a serious decision, and it's not realistic to expect everyone to just jump on board, because it's something that will affect the course of the rest of your life, so maybe you should think about his and other family members' input before just getting mad for "not supporting" you.
Apr 10 2009 4:33AM
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conman2800
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im goin to the marines right after i get graduated
Apr 10 2009 4:41AM
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Static
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haha, you cry baby punchin' 75cent holes in the dry wall
Apr 10 2009 5:01AM
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SKIDUBAIGUY
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When you said "but joining the air force, its going to happen and im really happy about it" Sorry to break your bubble buddy, but you have no guarentee of joining the airforce at any stage no matter how much you think you may have prepared yourself.
Apr 10 2009 6:16AM
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martin.
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your brother sounds like me.

ahhh
Apr 10 2009 8:53AM
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Barefootin_Fiend
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this.

think about this too - if you go to the airforce for 4 years, you will be a freshman in college at 21 or 22. You won't be done with college until 25 - 26. Most people your age will be several years into their career when you're just getting ready to start. Definitely not saying your decision is a bad one. I'm sure you've given it plenty of thought. I only suggest to look further out than just a couple of years. I know a lot of people who went in to the military and ended up kicking themselves in the ass 3 years in to the deal. Your friends will be getting hammered and chasing freshman pussy and you'll be waking up at 4 a.m. to run 8 miles with 60 lbs of gear, taking 30 second cold showers, sleeping (bunking) with 50 dudes instead of going home with random women, eating shitty mess hall food instead of eating, well, shitty cafeteria food.
I definitely have respect for those who serve and I obviously wish you the best with whatever you decide.
Apr 10 2009 10:08AM
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g.off
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its creeps me out that you are gonna join the air force or marines solely because your on NS and they play that army vid before every video. like 'join the army'
Apr 10 2009 10:15AM
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soulskier
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do it and show him that its what you want to do, prove yourself

and going back to my senior year of football....our motto was
"Deeds not words"
Apr 10 2009 10:38AM
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Golden.
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but he's joining the air force... not the army.
Apr 10 2009 2:36PM
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gbirrd
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yea i got problems at home. i hate my sister.
Apr 10 2009 2:40PM
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k-rob
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i don't have a brother, but my dad tells me everything i do is stupid and pointless. all my friends think my dad is a huge dick to me and some think he doesn't care about me, but i know he does so whatever.
some people just don't know how to show that they care, i'm cool with that.
Apr 10 2009 2:51PM
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