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Jamie_Baril
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So, for the past couple months I have been butting heads with my parents. Its getting pretty gnarly so i was wondering if anyone had any advice...The situation is, highschool soccer is quikly approaching and I am thinking that I don't want to play this year. I'm a sophmore, I played JV last year and have a decent chance of making varsity this year. But the problem for me is that it is a whole lot of commitment, practice everyday until five games on two days a week, and practice on saturdays. This would be fine if I didnt absolutely love skiing as much as i do, but the thing is, i really dont want to go from skiing at least 4 days a week to maybe being able to ski 2, maybe. It seems that no matter how well i plan out my arguement, my parents opinion will not budge, and today we had the worst scuffle to date. They ended up saying that If I didnt play highschool soccer, then I wouldnt be allowed to ski...Any way I look at it, that sure as hell seems like a completely ridiculous punishment. I dont know what to do about this. Has anyone been in a similar situation and has any advice?

Thanks

Feb 24 2009 12:52AM
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ECfreeski3
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play soccer dude, youll miss that shit when youre out of school
Feb 24 2009 12:55AM
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uni-corn
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For sure.


I do
Feb 24 2009 1:02AM
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SHastatahoe
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They know more than you do.
Feb 24 2009 1:03AM
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Huckit35
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yea man play soccer, for one your gonna miss it and two, sounds gay but shits gonna help with college too cause these schools are fucking picky cause so many people are trying to get in.
Feb 24 2009 1:04AM
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Rachy
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My friend had this same problem in highschool. His parents said no skiing unless he did a sport. So, he skied. See if your resort has a freestyle team or even if you have to start racing. And then just join a community soccer league. I quit track to ski and joined my high school ski team.

There is always an option. You are what, 15? You are old enough to start making your own decisions, just be willing to compromise somewhat. Your parents just want you to be well rounded.
Feb 24 2009 1:04AM
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hotdog.garbage
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do they pay for participation in both sports?
Feb 24 2009 1:05AM
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Jamie_Baril
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They pay for club soccer, which i love and dont wanna quit, and its like 50/50 for skiing.
Feb 24 2009 1:29AM
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smooticus
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just cry dude a good fake cry always does it
Feb 24 2009 1:36AM
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inactive
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actually my folks were once the same way. than they realized how much i sucked at soccer
Feb 24 2009 1:38AM
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hotdog.garbage
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if you play soccer you still get to ski, a bit. play soccer
Feb 24 2009 1:40AM
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ORski21
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just go to the soccer tryout, do terrible, get on jv, then tell your parents you dont think JV's worth the time cause you wont develope as a player. They'll think you tried hard, or at least tried their way, so they probably wont be as down on you not playing soccer. Dont make it sound like its about skiing though, cause it sounds like they dont support that
Feb 24 2009 1:46AM
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B.G
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dude that skinda fucked up. tell em that skiing is your passion and that is the sport you love. not soccer. also tell em that yourold enuf to make your own decisions and skiing is what you want from life.
Feb 24 2009 1:50AM
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TZP
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letting your parents oblige you to do something youre not down with doing would be beyond ridiculous
Feb 24 2009 2:13AM
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eheath
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How the hell do you ski 4 days a week in high school? And you play soccer dec-april? weird.
Feb 24 2009 2:20AM
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~auddie~
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story of my life dude, I have traditional chinese conservative parents. I went through 9 years of piano, the last 3 or so years was a complete shitshow when I realized that it wasn't what I wanted to be spending so much time doing. I think I was about 16 when I sat them down after a lot of yelling and shit, drew the line, told them that I didn't want to do it anymore, laid down why I didn't want to do it, I also reassured them that I understood that they want what's best for me, but also that I could find whats best for me in things other than piano.

I am sure if you sit them down, be mature about it, they will listen, they might not agree with you or let you out of playing soccer, but they will understand your viewpoint. So if or when shit explodes in their faces, you don't need to say I told you so.
Feb 24 2009 2:30AM
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Squid.
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Nothing beats my headbutting. There was a nice pow day, so my friends and I skied as long as possible (til last chair), but my parents wanted to go home right after lunch because of the scetchy weather, so they were waitign in the lodge. They couldn't get in touch with me to tell me to get to the lodge early, so now I can't ski for the rest of the season. At least my last day was my best day
Feb 24 2009 9:44AM
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kylejames
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play soccer man you will probably miss it when its over and you have the rest of your life to ski.
Feb 24 2009 9:48AM
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Jamie_Baril
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i live thirty minutes away from Snoqualmie Pass in Washington and there is killler night skiing.

Feb 24 2009 10:27AM
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kepler.
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I can't stress just how true this statement is. I played soccer in high school all 4 years. Unfortunately I had some surgeries and had to sit out the end of my senior season. That was one of the hardest things I ever had to do, watch my teammates play their final game and me not be able to play with them.

You have no idea just the bonds and memories that soccer brings, any highschool sport for that matter. It'll probably be one of your most cherished memories from school. I'd give almost anything to be able to go back and do all the running, lifting, and training all over again.
Feb 24 2009 11:52AM
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the_shitty_K2s
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play soccer bro, my dad was in the exact situation when he was in high school and he chose to play soccer. He doesn't regret one bit of it, he still made it as a pro skier and got to travel the world but guess when all that happened........after high school.....so think about that and unless your really that good at skiing and planning on making big money from it, id play soccer.
Feb 24 2009 12:13PM
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Captain-T
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Play soccer but put a .44 hollowpoint in their leg. That will teach them to question you.
Feb 24 2009 2:29PM
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PaleCelery
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Do what Chris Porco did. make sure you buy a yellow jeep.
Feb 24 2009 2:33PM
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TheBeardedOne
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That's not right man.. It wasn't your fault they couldn't get in touch with you was it? That was just unlucky ..

To the OP, I had some pretty gnarly fights with my parents when I was in high school and I still do sometimes. If you absolutely don't want to play soccer, tell them that. They will understand if you are reasonable with them. Just remember they do want what is best for you, and even though it doesn't make sense to you it can still be a better choice.
Feb 24 2009 2:42PM
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eheath
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So couldn't you go skiing after practice when its dark? Sure you'd be tired but if you're core you still would, lolz.


And explain this soccer you play in the winter.
Feb 24 2009 2:50PM
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Balto
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why do your rents care? if you dont wanna play it they shouldnt make you
Feb 24 2009 3:06PM
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mattridesskis
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im so glad my mom isnt like that, she lets me do what i want, never been forced to do shit...ive played soccer, baseball, and hockey, and i quit them all after like 2 years roughly on each. just tell your parents that your old enough to make your own decisions. and if you do regret it at least you can push all the blame onto yourself...because it was your choice...
Feb 24 2009 3:19PM
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ClownPrince
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I would say if you really don't want to play, then don't play. But I don't really have much to go off of - the only sport I've ever been serious about is baseball, and I've been playing since I was about 6, now I'm a freshman in college.

But I've always loved playing baseball. I do it because I want to, not because my parents want me to (although they support it). I can't imagine putting that much time into something I didn't want to be doing. Like everyone else said, you will miss it, so it's really up to you, but I wouldn't do it just so I could ski. Your parents should understand.
Feb 24 2009 3:25PM
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.Asain-Skiier
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i ski 7 hours then play 2 games in a row. I think I am hard core
Feb 24 2009 3:38PM
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skier_boy26
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i said fuck it to high school sports senior year so I could just do whatever I wanted (viable through online classes) and to ski a shit ton, and never looked back. It was lovely.

Granted, something like team sports are a different dynamic than more individualistic sports, since they can be hard to participate in after school and so on.  But in college, and beyond, you could easily still play with friends/school groups, and usually that's pretty fun, but it takes a lot more initiative on your part to partake in something like soccer.

But to your question, it sounds like your parents have that "we know what's better for you than you while you're in high school" bug up their ass. or perhaps they feel you've put too much time into soccer to abandon it. Not much you can do in this society, where all this extracurricular shit is so highly coveted (maybe I'm too presumptuous, but it sounds like some of the tension is based on that?). You can try to be reasonable: propose your desire to ski and all that, its benefits now and in the long term (e.g. you can do it all your life, you're only a youngin so long to do shit like park, it's great for socializing/connections, can be great as extracurricular, blah blah), the dialectal tension you're in and the ramifications of your choices, etc, but if they're throwing out that kind of ultimatum, you're probably fucked. Good luck!
Feb 24 2009 3:41PM
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SpaceTiger
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do what you want when you want damn, if you don't want to play don't play if you do, do.
i'm glad my parents don't give a shit what I do
Feb 24 2009 3:45PM
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hank_hill
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dude im a jr in high school, i make it out a minimum of 5 times a week, but i also live less then 10mins away from my resort
Feb 24 2009 4:06PM
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Bo_bot9
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I was thinking the same thing how is soccer december to april?
Feb 24 2009 5:33PM
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Jamie_Baril
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i do still have a shitload of homework, all of my possible rides are not guna wait around
Feb 24 2009 5:42PM
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gstoneskier
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play, it will get you in shape for skiing and you'll still be able to ski when your out of high school. i can't fuckin believe I'm saying this but i wish i would have played basketball my junior and senior year. make your parents happy and soon you'll be able to move out and then you can do whatever the hell you want.
but in the end skiing trumps all. when i played b-ball i skipped practice all the time to ski and i don't regret any of that at all. this advice is just getting more and more contradicting. whatever.
Feb 24 2009 8:23PM
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