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Dealing with a friends suicide

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SKIDUBAIGUY
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Any idea how to do it? And this isnt any normal suicide, she mentioned ME on her note and everything, the police want to interview me and some other shit, ive been shaking for the past hour since her parents called and told me, and i got a call from the police 15 mins ago, anyone have any experiance with this?

Plus, i just found out my gf was raped when she was 13, my days getting worse and worse.

p.s worthless post i know, but idc, i just need to do smething.

Oct 18 2008 11:32AM
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no_steeze
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shit dude, that's a shitty day
+++vibes i can't imagine what i'd do if a friend committed suicide, but hang in there, it wasn't your fault so don't ever let yourself think it was
Oct 18 2008 11:41AM
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RtC.
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bro, positive vibes to you and all her relatives and friends at the moment.
There's not a lot to say really, but d you know in what context you were mentioned, because if it was in a positive light then you have to take what she wrote and use it as a strength in your life, you were obviously good to her and she clearly meant a lot to you. The wounds are fresh and you're in shock/disbelief now, that's nothing unusual, and you will ask yourself so many times could I have helped or prevented it, but in truth, you couldn't have done anything and it is not on your shoulders so don't put blame upon yourself bro, I had a similar thing happen and it affected me bad but it smashed my friend, turned him crazy with guilt and he is a broken man now, and he couldn't have done a thing. So please just keep positive and focused i know it's hard right now, but it'll get easier with time, and be open, express your hurt, and cry but most of all, talk about it.
Suicide is had, it leaves so many questions, but unfortunately you are not a superhero and you did everything you could. If you were close to her family, then talk with them too, they are going to be putting a lot of blame on themselves and you will be able t support eachother.

As for you girls situation, if she told you, it shows you that she trusts you enough to tell you, I'm assuming she told you...
But the trust thing is something you should be so grateful for, and again, use it as a strength, it didn't affect your relationship before and most likely shouldn't in anyway affect it now, she is exactly who she was before. The past sucks and lead us all to what we are now, you have to accept this and be thankful for what you have and who you are now.

Plus vibes again bro, keep strong and be open.
Feel free to message me if you want to vent some stuff bro, it's all good with me.

Peace, bless and R.I.P
Oct 18 2008 11:47AM
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Microcosm
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oh wow man.
++++++++++++ vibes
Oct 18 2008 11:52AM
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photowill
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shit dude that sucks
i had a friend hang himself in 4th grade (i was in 5th) and that was fucking rough and i wasn't even super close to him

good vibes to you and her family
Oct 18 2008 12:13PM
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860
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+++ vibes man, keep your head up, time will help you. For now talk to your friends, or whoever you hold closest to get through this.
Oct 18 2008 12:15PM
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SKIDUBAIGUY
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The reason she commit suicide was because no one cared for her, i was the last one, she really liked me and wanted a relationship with me, i got a new gf and talked it over with her and she was ok with it, but she then started missing school and when i phoned her she just awnsered then hung up, then this morning, she ended her life, it mkaes me feel real bad, i know i tried and stuff, but its just just knowing i could have prevented it, i wish i could rewind time so bad right now.

And yes, it was my gf who told me that she was raped.

Oct 18 2008 12:19PM
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860
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hey, that was not your fault. As messed up as this sounds, when people think about suicide they think no one cares about them. But look what it did to you, you CARED, she just refused to see it. You called and she hung up. You tried man its not your fault at all, trust me
Oct 18 2008 12:22PM
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RtC.
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Man, by the sounds of it, you tried harder than anyone else out there to care for her as much as possible, in a friend love way you would have given her everything she had needed. What more could you have done? Gone out with her when it didn't suit you, it would have ended up worse when you had broken up. You sound like this girls best friend man, and you should be proud of that. You were open about everything.
You couldn't have prevented it man, she wasn't willing to open up to you after all your efforts, she obviously had some underlying issues there, that were out of your control.
Stay positive man, you're a good kid and you will pull through this.

My thoughts go out to your friend though man.
Peace
Oct 18 2008 12:30PM
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Bab.
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my friends father comited suicide a couple months ago, he loved his kids and all, but his divorce just messed him up. my father tried to help him, as many did, but depressed people arent able to see anything posiitive in their lifes, wich often leads to suicide. most of the time theres nothing you can do for them, many people blamed themselves when it happened, especially his ex-wife who was the one to ask divorce. but shes still strong and knows she could do nothing about it,, his decision was already taken when his friends did their best for him. just stay positive man, best thing to do, you tried your best to help her but it was impossible.                                                                              

hope this can help you out. ++++++++vibes

Oct 18 2008 12:50PM
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