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MadSteezin
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This shit is serious so if your just gonna be stupid leave now... Thanks.

Alright so right now my parents are at Starbucks figuring out what to do with me because they found out that I've smoked weed and drank several times... They found out solely because my step dad is a snoop and looked at my gtalk (like AIM or MSN messenger) chats that were saved automatically by gmail and well i left it up not thinking. So my dad got back yesterday night from Europe, so my mom and stepdad have known about this for about 2 weeks... Well they obviously don't trust anything I say anymore. My dad is dissapointed in me and wants me to go to church and "life teen" now which is like having a terrible beating. Also their talking about me needing better grades to go skiing. And they don't trust me with my somewhat "girlfriend" and think all I want out of her is sex which is completely not true at all.

So they'll be back later and want to have a conversation with me. So what should I do or say to regain trust and have less punishment?

Sep 24 2008 9:15PM
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solitaryman
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Okay, i'm gonna make a thread about salvia.  You should never reccomend salvia to a noob.  DMT and acid are my kind of drugs and I don't mess with salvia dude (well ya i do but only once).  Mushrooms are very hard to control but short so they're okay.  But I'd take acid first. 

Tell your parents to fuck off, or just tell them it's not bad and ask them if the government is always right.  Then mention Iraq and walk out.
Sep 24 2008 10:54PM
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ilikeplants
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Not to be a dick but it's not weed that fucked your life up. It's you personal decision to leave the message window open and use an IM program that saves your conversation. On the other hand it was a dick move for your step dad to be a snoop a go through that stuff.

If it was me, I'd own up to it and say that you won't do it again. Nothing else needs to be said. I.E, I just need to escape the strees, etc.

Let it be, do good in school and do it on the weekends and keep it on the DL.

Sep 24 2008 10:55PM
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solitaryman
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Also, marijuana didn't fuck you.  You fucked yourself, grow up and take responsibility.

And don't tell your parents to fuck off.. you know what i ment..
Sep 24 2008 10:56PM
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charmander
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id just be a kissass.

dont be like me and have a fuck you attitude about it. that didnt help me at all.
Sep 24 2008 11:02PM
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solitaryman
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Didn't see this post.. further proves my point.
Sep 24 2008 11:04PM
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spudz
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step dads always smoke weed
Sep 24 2008 11:33PM
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Skroob
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First off I agree with the person above me.  Second off you shouldn't worry too much about punishment from your parents.  Eventually all parents realize that they can't control their kids to such an extent.  Just smoke enough to desensitize them into not caring.  That is what worked for my buddies (my parents just didn't care that much)
Sep 24 2008 11:34PM
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ThaLorax
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My parents were the same way but I was very honest, firm and clear that I did smoke and drink (especially smoke) but I did it responsibly and never let it get to the point where it got in the way of my education.  NEVER lie to your parents though.  The truth, no matter how fucked up, will always get you better off in the long run.  However, I realize that not all parents are that accepting and open to what their children have to say. My parents are generally really easy going.
Sep 24 2008 11:44PM
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cmeriptahoe
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Honestly here's the deal. If your parents think they did a good job raising you and trust you then any punishment will be shortlived. As long as they know they can trust you to be careful with whatever you do then it won't be a problem. If they don't think they did a good job and they don't trust you because of that or because of other things you've done then you have a lot of pain coming that may or may not be your fault. Just ride it out. You are in high school... they still own you. The major problem is the skiing... and girlfriend. Try to work them with that saying that everything was just a one time thing to "experiment."
Sep 24 2008 11:44PM
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THEDICKBUTCHER
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haha I pulled this off in like july and my mom is like thats how they all start!!! then they end up in like cocain addicted and out in the streets robbing to buy more and more drugs haha

I was like hmm everyone does it i do it like once every couple months just to like celebrate something i dont really need it in my life and then had to be a dumbass and tried to convince her that weed was good. told her that its only bad if you get addicted and you just gotta be smart about it and it's not physically addictive. "its only bad if i depend my life on it, so if someone drinks 1 beer like once a month they will become alcoholics? NO!" pretty much my argument for an hr. then she thought i was fucked up and wanted me to take me to a council shit... i refused wtf! i told her i wasn't crazy haha. Anyways hope that helped a bit.


Sep 25 2008 12:07AM
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RudyGarmisch
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Coming from personal experience, as well as seeing many of my tutoring students go through arguments with their parents, this is the best thing to do.

Tell them they are right.

Your parents, no matter how loving and how much they respect your individuality, will only full come to accept your opinions once you move out of the house and live without them. You are dependent on them as it stands now, and unless you want to change all of that, you have to give them respect. It sounds shitty, and it certainly can be. But its the best to be the 'bigger man' and live with it for now. You dont give your parents respect and they wont give you any, and you are on a much shorter 'respect' rope.

So next time you talk, accept what they say, even if you dont believe it. YOU are not the person to tell them that "its just a teenager being a teenager" (which is what it is, believe me). Thats left for your cool uncle or someone else they respect the opinion of. Not you, not now. Shut your mouth, sit there, and dream of driving around in 40 years looking for the cheapest nursing home you can find.

Every kid gets tense with their parents around that age. You'll likely be on better terms when you go to college, move out of the house, and they realize that you can live without them and their rules. And guess what, the further you get away from them, the more choice you get.

Your best bet for your lifestyle and girl is to show them through actions, not by promises and words. Play it up to them for a while afterwards so they see how nice a kid you are, and just do your goddamned best to not get caught. If you get caught doing anything, you are back to zero or worse respect and get to do this all agian.

I know its hard not to talk back, I know its hard to think and be rational instead of angry and brash. But you can be. Be the better and smarter person about this.
Sep 25 2008 12:22AM
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popNfresh44
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true statement. dont blame it on the bud, its your parents. dont feel alone though, most parents are like that. i honestly dont know how my parents would react if they found out, probably pretty badly, my dad can be one serious mofo, but then again he probably grew up with it himself. i really hope i dont ever get caught.
Sep 25 2008 12:52AM
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solitaryman
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Hope= Let down.

There's no way that you will not get caught doing drugs.  Be it by the police, your parents, your teacher etc. you're gonna get caught so give up on hoping now.

The only hope you have is that you get caught once you've moved out, but that isn't very realistic anyways..
Sep 25 2008 12:57AM
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ThaLorax
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maybe i'm just lucky, but i can't relate to not being close enough to my parents to have to lie about what I have/have not done and not even know what they did growing up themselves.
Sep 25 2008 1:00AM
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mmallender.
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k well depending on how comfortable you feel about lying, your feelings toward your stepdad, and how far back he looked/how far your conversations about drinking/smoking go, you could turn it right around on him. There are a few holes in the plan, and it might not work since its been a long time, especially if you already admitted you do smoke/drink, but heres what you could do. Say that you thought that your stepdad was creeping your chat history, and you had made a plan with friends to call him out on it by having "conversations" about activities that he would deem innapropriate and then discipline you for. By doing this you could not only potentially get out of trouble for smoking/drinking, but you could turn it right around on your stepdad and get him in shit for invading your privacy and getting to call him out on it. It's not exactly a good way to get out of trouble, and could even be considered a dick move, but if you feel alright doing it, and you havent passed the point where you can still do it, id say go for it.
Sep 25 2008 1:10AM
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MC_POUTINE
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try peeing in their butts
Sep 25 2008 1:16AM
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Pwn.Mode
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dude it will blow over, i got busted having this party and hooked up with this chick and had to go talk to her uber strict uber gun owning family. you're a big guy now take the punishment and you'll laugh about it in a year.
Sep 25 2008 4:57AM
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Scott~
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Well its late and I have nothing constructive to say so here goes. Sorry you blow so much at hiding shit from your parents. I guess one mistake was enough. Now you have to talk to them and deal with your failure. Also, be sure to remind your step dad he is a piece of shit. Dont worry, you will be out in a year (I hope)~
Sep 25 2008 5:01AM
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killa_cam
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starbucks=amazing

ban
Sep 25 2008 5:35AM
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Goglines
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you'll be okay, its just the initial reaction theyre freaking out about. theyre yoru parents, they wont kill you. theyre just scared. they know in the back of their minds that they were doing the same thing.

my parents have threatened kicking me out if i ever got a tattoo. well i got four now and im still living in my house when i come home from school. they threatened to send me to AA when the came back and found a bottle in my room. now they see the bottles in my apartment up here and just deal.
they wouldnt find out that i smoke pot cuz i dont talk about that on IM lol.

its jsut all in good time, man. just let them yell it out. don't argue back. good luck.
Sep 25 2008 11:35AM
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aurora.
Posts: 1169 - Karma: 104
do what they want and be a kissass.....in my experience this works well. Parents exist to make sure that you don't die or seriously impair your ability to live before you are 18, and they take this role very seriously (as they should). Even though smoking and drinking wont kill you or change you in anyway, under normal circumstances, they just dont want anything bad to happen....They really beleive it is for your own good so its better to just let them think they are right and roll with whatever they propose...

Let them know you are a god kid through your actions and regain that trust, it will take time and it will be hard becuase youre gonna have to keep a lot of stuff on the dl...but its worth it in the end....
Sep 25 2008 11:52AM
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Pipe_Munky
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sorry kid but you fucked you.

if you're going to drink and do drugs YOU need to take responsibility when you get caught. YOU were dumb enough to leave your messenger up and running so you really have no one to blame but yourself


Sep 25 2008 12:18PM
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JibEarth
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Tell them to look back whne they were your age, and ask them if they told their parents everything. Every kids lies to their parents at some time, and thensay do you feel you turned out ok? An if they say yea then be like the only diffrence between me and you is i got caught.
Sep 25 2008 2:34PM
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CJHski
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well, that is just hilarious
Sep 25 2008 2:51PM
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morocco_mole
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yeah your parents sound like losers
Sep 25 2008 2:56PM
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doritos
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I doubt that. Most people our age had parents who grew up in the age of drugs, sex, and rock n' roll. Even if your parents claim they haven't, most have. Mine denied it until I turned 18. My dad is impossible to argue with, all he does is shut me down and claim superiority whenever I start to win, and I still managed to convince them it wasn't that big of a deal. You just have to be smart, polite, and reasonable, but firm. They don't want to know about it but my parents have found my pieces several times and haven't done anything about it, they know I smoke and have no real issues with it other than legal consequences, it's great. It just takes persistence and yes, it will suck for a bit.
Sep 25 2008 3:07PM
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SKI-UH9
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damn thats like my worst nightmare that my parents catch me.
Sep 25 2008 3:31PM
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fuzz.
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Exactly. My rents did the same shit to me in high school then they realized i would be off to college soon and they started to see the things the way i did.  If you drink and smoke but you dont fuck up it souldnt really be a big deal once you gain some trust back and show them that your responsible.  Just dont stress too much, dont lie to them and just kinda go with the flow itll work out in the end.
Sep 25 2008 3:36PM
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2+2=5
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just do good in school and admit that you smoke every week, even if you have to lie. it'll show that its not affecting your life.
Sep 25 2008 3:58PM
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Sno.
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UW pun intended?
Sep 25 2008 4:03PM
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BvK
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be completly honest, and they may gain trust inyou
Sep 25 2008 4:03PM
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Rachy
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Being a kiss ass is about the worst thing you can do. It will leave them in charge and wont allow you for any freedom. But at the same time you don't want to call them assholes or do anything that is going to leave you worse off.

In this situation you have been making "grown up" decisions before you are grown up. You need to understand that your parents have been trying to keep you away from these things and that the probably feel like they have done something wrong as a parent but instead will make you out to be the bad one. I garuntee your mother is sitting there asking where she went wrong.

What you need to do is re assure them that they taught you well and you know the effects and you have done the research and you know what can and can't happen. You know that drinking and driving is horrible and you know that staying out late on a school night getting high is not the smartest thing to do. Let them know that you know these things and you are appreciative that they helped you learn these things. But also let them know that with growning up comes experimentation. From your stand point, you would gradually like to try these things in what you feel is a safe environment so that you are not thrown into them when you go to college or move out and so that you can learn how to make the right decisions in the future. If either your dad or your step dad drink and watch football games or anything like that, say that is a good opportunity for you to find out how you react and that if they would like, you would be willing to keep your drinking restricted to adult supervision. About the weed, help them realize that this is not going to lead you to other things and make sure they know it is not an addictive substance. Offer to go to 1 and I repeat 1 counseling session with them (not a group session, but so that it is just you, your parents, and the counselor. Let them ask questions, the situation will most likely work out in your favor.

As far as school goes, go see a counselor at school and tell them you aren't feeling challenged enough and therefor aren't really inspired to try hard. I did ok through highschool until my senior year where they let me take classes that actually interested me and I ended up with straight A's. But you need to realize, it isn't always grades. Take something that interests you, but maybe you wont be the best at. Then go home and be like, hey mom today I learned that blah blah blah. Also, if you are one to have trouble writing papers, ask if you can give a presentation or make a video. Teachers will always work with you if you are wiling to put in some effort.

With the girlfriend, ask if you can bring her to dinner a few times or if you can all go camping or something like that so that they can get to know her and see how much you really care about her.

They can't control you forever, but they can help you learn how to make the right decisions. You just need to show them that this is a lesson you have learned and that now you are just seeking their advice.
Sep 25 2008 4:04PM
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Sno.
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^good post
Sep 25 2008 4:06PM
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sick-as-aids
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i just told my parents that i smoked weed and took pills, dad didnt care coz now he knew what i was up 2 rather than not knowing at all. idk just tell them it alllgoood!
Sep 25 2008 4:16PM
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doritos
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Listen to her/him.
Sep 25 2008 4:18PM
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MadSteezin
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Actually to be precise, I my mom has Windows Vista... I left Gtalk minimized and clicked switch user so that when someone got on the computer it would be at the main screen where all the user names are. And well my step dad was a snoop and decided to check my shit out...
Sep 25 2008 5:53PM
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upthebrackette
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Suggest going to a psychiatrist to talk about it. They told my parents that it was completely normal and nothing to worry about since I did well in school and was involved with extra curriculars
Sep 25 2008 6:06PM
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Treestman
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marijuana didnt fuck you, your parents did
Sep 25 2008 6:10PM
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Scott~
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Fuck yea UW, class day number 2 of the year in the books~
Sep 25 2008 6:17PM
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Treestman
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what would suck is having the psychitrist telling your rents that you have a problem and that you need to continue counseling and your parents to continue being that strict
Sep 25 2008 6:17PM
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Fish_Sandwich.
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Fuck ya, WWU, class day number 2 of the year in the books.

Sep 25 2008 6:18PM
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SHampson
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the cops caught me like 3 weeks ago doing the taco bell heist where you get a friend to order, then another friend runs and takes the food at the drive thru. the cops got called and the taco bell people kinda freaked and my parents got called by the cops.
i kinda screwed up talking to them.  i went in to it thinking to tell them that they are right and that it was a terrible idea.  but i ended up getting pissed off and told them that it wasn't a bad thing at all and i screwed up, but not completely.   i say tell your side of the argument, but be completely respectful with it, and open.   and listen to whatever they say.   should prob stay clean for a bit too man.  i feel for you, that sucks.
Sep 25 2008 6:31PM
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Fish_Sandwich.
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Yo, I think the kid who posted this is probably dead by now.  He hasn't posted in here in a while.
Sep 25 2008 6:34PM
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MadSteezin
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No, I'm fine. My punishment is basically the following...
- Do homework right when I get home, then I can do whatever
- Chores (That won't be too hard, just mowing the yard, washing the dishes)
- Church (Waste of 1-1.5 hours but a good place to get some shut eye)
- Life Teen (I'll probably kill myself after going to that shit)
- A's/B's to ski (That'll be hard for me)
- Get more organized (Easy)
- Sleep at my mom's house (She lives LITERALLY RIGHT across the street from my dad's house, I'm still able to go back and forth like I do all the time anyways)

BUT MY NEW PROBLEM IS THAT MY DAD IS GONNA TELL MY BEST FRIEND'S MOM THAT WE'VE SMOKED. If she finds out she'll punish him like no other, but his dad used to smoke weed back in the day unlike my parents. She probably won't let him ski, take away his car, license, be suspicious about some of our other friends, and basically lay it down much harder than I've gotten... PLEASE HELP!!!

Sep 25 2008 6:54PM
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RudyGarmisch
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WTF is life teen?


Also, your friend smoked too, its his problem.
Sep 25 2008 7:04PM
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hoodSlayer
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thats a bit humorous...I live in portland and when I get in big trouble my parents go to starbucks
Sep 25 2008 7:05PM
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MadSteezin
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Life Teen is what you go to after church for another hour to learn more about Jesus and the gang. They do little activities which is super fagish.

And about my friend, its my fault that I left Gtalk which mentions him smoking. Otherwise no one would know he smoked...
Sep 25 2008 7:09PM
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H0NKY
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just say that you wanted to act cool talking about it and your really dont do it.....just bs them
Sep 25 2008 7:13PM
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RudyGarmisch
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Yeah, but he still smokes and its still his mom freaking out about his habits. You may feel guilty, but the choice was ultimately his.

Tell your mom you're having a crisis of faith and that instead of church you need to do some soul searching and find the religion that best fits your outlook on life.
Sep 25 2008 7:13PM
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Fish_Sandwich.
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Ya word.

your punishment isn't that bad really, you should get A's and B's in the first place.
Bummer for your friend.

The only bad thing is church, your parents making you do that is just over the top and absolutely ridiculous.  Them forcing you to be religious is just fucked up.
Sep 25 2008 7:16PM
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