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bobross
Posts: 468 - Karma: 11
So my first close family member is gonna die soon, my grandma, and I am having a hard time dealing with it, so i got drunk and ranted about it on newschoolers.  It seems very difficult for me.  That's all.  hate if you want...
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Aug 23 2008 11:52PM
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low_fidelity
Posts: 2673 - Karma: 118
i love you bob ross man.


(no homo)
Aug 23 2008 11:55PM
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cab509
Posts: 806 - Karma: 34
dude it's alright everyone handles death differently, I've been through three funerals now for close family members: Grandma (died when I was in 2nd grade), great Grandma (died at 102), and my uncle (died pretty young from cancer). I also lost my dog this last Christmas (had him since first holy communion)

How ever you need to deal with it is fine, I'm the kind of person who more deals with it on the inside, I don't show to much emotion on the outside.  IF you need to rant about it that is fine, it's a way to get it out of your system so you can move forward.


Aug 23 2008 11:57PM
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fragglemuffin
Posts: 3312 - Karma: 444
im in the same boat...my dad is on his deathbed and can die any day now because of lung cancer...i dont really know how to cope with losses too well, so im just trying to block this whole thing out, telling myself its just a bad dream. Anytime i think about him dying i just completely break down.
Unless a miracle happens he wont even live to be there for my 17th birthday, or my graduation...i dont know how to handle this at all.
Aug 24 2008 12:08AM
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i.ski.troll.
Posts: 4692 - Karma: 247
yea im losing my grandpa right now, he has leukemia. and he only has a few months left
and i feel the only way i feel better is if i get drunk, im not proud of it at all



im sorry dude
Aug 24 2008 1:30AM
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BravoWhiskey5280
Posts: 4020 - Karma: 520
++++ vibes..you'll get through it
Aug 24 2008 1:33AM
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JamesR
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really sorry to hear that man. +++ thoughts and vibes

Aug 24 2008 1:36AM
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babujib
Posts: 5039 - Karma: 104
word man my dad passed away from pancreatic cancer 2 years ago, shits wicked whack but keep your head up, life seems like it sucks but try to think about the good times you guys had together and shit theres really not much to say other than im really sorry to hear that shit man + vibes your way man

p.s. im surprised at how chill these responses have been i have a renewed faith in NS
Aug 24 2008 1:36AM
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anxju
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+++++ vibes man, i know what its like

i lost my grandpa and grandma.  my grandpa was sort of sudden, but my grandma had pancreatic cancer so our family knew it was coming for months.  the grandma was a lot easier to deal with, maybe because i was older, but i think its cause i knew it was coming.  i was the closest one in the family to her, but i knew it was coming. 
Aug 24 2008 1:52AM
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aurora.
Posts: 1169 - Karma: 104
+++ vibes....its defintelty hard. i have been to 7 funerals for various family and friends. I always feel uncomfortable becuase a lot of people cry...but i dont deal with death that way...i guess i like to reflect on it more?? but you'll figure it out and feel free to rant on newschoolers anytime your down becuase thats what its here for!
Aug 24 2008 6:34AM
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fragglemuffin
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bad news.....my dad died at around 4 this morning....i feel terrible because i left the hospital yesterday without saying i loved him, thinking i would be able to see him alive today.....my mom who stayed with my dad last night called my bro at around 4 and he woke me up and we drove to the hospital...when i saw my dad's body on the bed i fell to the ground crying and shaking; im still doing that now while typing this...i just dont know what to do...
Aug 24 2008 7:06AM
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SKIDUBAIGUY
Posts: 3018 - Karma: 8
Woah man, +++++ Vibes, i know what it feels like, my whole life has had people die, its really bad to see people go just like that.
Aug 24 2008 7:42AM
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Dylan_
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yeah man +vibes my grandpa is at a stage where he won't live to much longer either, just spend as much time with you're grandma if you can and just remember all the good times you guys shared and it will be easier for you. and if you were like going to see her and didn't and she died before you could you would feel even worse and feel guilty. so go see her as much as you can
Aug 24 2008 7:53AM
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bobross
Posts: 468 - Karma: 11
Dude Im so sorry to here that...I cant even comprehend how you feel.  Do whatever you need to do to feel better and I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.  Stay safe is all I can tell you
Aug 24 2008 10:19AM
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Malcolm
Posts: 15951 - Karma: 9,451

wow so much death that sucks. + vibes to everyone

Aug 24 2008 10:39AM
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j.saaaarela
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ya, my grandma died last month @ age 86... stroke.... i was one of the pallbearers, so i had mixed feelings when we got to the site; sadness cuz she left us, but happines cuz i helped carry her to her final resting place.....my mom is still having a ton of trouble w/ it, and grandpa is a wreck..... just let it out at some point, keepin it all in hurts too much....++++++++++++++vibes
Aug 24 2008 12:40PM
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StevenSegal
Posts: 1716 - Karma: 16
your dad knows you love him man. im really sorry to hear that, i cant even comprehend or begin to imagine what that would be like, i hope your family makes it through it okay, best of wishes.
Aug 24 2008 1:38PM
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errrka
Posts: 2261 - Karma: 6,058
yeah. i lost my grandpa on the 31st so not even a month ago. at the same moment i lost all my friends. i still ahevnt totally dealt with it. the week it happened was probably the hardest, especally with having no friends to turn to. but if you have a very close friend/friends they will help you out. and your family will be your saving grace. like the old saying, blood is thicker than water. but keep your head up and be strong. it all happens for a reason, and if you believe in god, keep having faith and you'll get through it

+++vibes
Aug 24 2008 1:49PM
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Shpadoinkle
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That just made me tear...
Aug 24 2008 1:52PM
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cab509
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I'm sorry to hear about that. My father lost his dad when he was 17 and it was a tough time for him too. But with friends and family he was able to get through it and learned to cherish everyday he has with his kids (me and my two sisters).

IT'll take some time but crying is a normal process, you have to let the emotions out somehow. I can't imagine what I would be like if I lost my father



Aug 24 2008 2:26PM
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ride-rider
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When I was 12 (three years ago) I lost my 13 year old cus.  We were really close, and I can still remember when my mom told me he died.  He had a blood clot that traveled to his brain.  It put him into a coma and he was in it for 2 weeks.  The docters said there was really no chance in him coming back so my aunt and uncle pulled the plug.  about 2 years ago, I lost my aunt (different aunt) to brain cancer.  It was expected though because she had been fighting it for over 2 years.  Both were very hard times.  It gets better though man. 
Aug 24 2008 9:12PM
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fourhundred
Posts: 2760 - Karma: 21

ya man i had my first real death to deal with a little while ago,
i knew it was coming so when i first found out ( i was sleeping) i kinda just layed in bed for like 2 hours just thinking about it.. i'm not great with talking about that kind of stuff but when i went over to visit my grandma she had laid out a table full of pictures of him and i just lost it and cried for a bit

Aug 24 2008 9:54PM
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Shpadoinkle
Posts: 10437 - Karma: 84

My mom is just getting over chemo, and I think to myself everyday..."What if I didn't have my mom anymore?". I don't have a close relationship with my dad, and I don't tell my mom everything. But I have spent most of my life with my mom, and just the thought of not having her there makes me sick to my stomach. I love both of my parents very much, and even if I lost my dad it would be devastating but my mom has seen me through thick and thin. Whenever I go to the cancer center I just just sit there in a daze for hours just thinking about stuff like that - it sucks. I don't know what I would do. I don't my life without her.

Aug 24 2008 10:59PM
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quixotic
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I don't know what I would do if my dad died... I can't even come close to knowing how you feel right now.  Remember the good times and keep your head up.
Aug 25 2008 12:03AM
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jason...
Posts: 9006 - Karma: 780
death sucks, iv had 2 grandpahs and 1 grandmah die in my lifetime so far, 1 dog and 2 guinea pigs, i know guinea pigs may not sound likemuch but when u have them for 5+ years and play with them and talk to them every day, its hard not to be attached, and for the most recent death account that i had to deal with, i just went skiing, did the thing i loved most, went skiing by myself no music no nothin and just had fun, that was it that was all
Aug 25 2008 12:54AM
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dgcarbs
Posts: 438 - Karma: 11
+++++++++++vibes++++++++++

i can't even remember the few days after my dad died, I lost him the summer before my sophomore year to esophageal cancer, just remember man it'll get better even if that doesn't seem like its possible now everything will get better eventually. those days between when we lost him and the funeral are a complete blur to me now.. remember crying about it is ok, i did alot of it then, and still do now occasionally  three years later... If anybody offers to help you or your family, take them up on it, it'll be good for you and for them.
Aug 25 2008 1:27AM
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skiizy
Posts: 2137 - Karma: 16
i havent lost anyone close to me like that but my i just found out my moms liver is failing, ive never been so unsure on how to feel in my life..
good luck man, it will all turn out for the better
Aug 25 2008 1:37AM
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AALT
Posts: 1775 - Karma: 60
yeah i was really sad when my dad died when i was eith (im 13 now) but i didnt cry, it was weird, i was more shocked then like that...


++++++++vibes.
Aug 25 2008 1:46AM
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charmander
Posts: 10636 - Karma: 373
man im so sorry.
i literally almost started crying over that.

i like to think on ns here we're a community. nobody should hate on you for this kinda stuff.

+++++++vibes man.

and he knew you loved him bro. he knew.
Aug 25 2008 1:48AM
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AALT
Posts: 1775 - Karma: 60
i hate it, since from elementary to middle school i meet a whole lot of new people, then they say stuff about their dad and ask about my dad not know he died, and stuff, its so akward, it makes me then tear up right there, and i told some girls i know i hung out with em and they mentioned my dad forgeting that he passed and their friends look at em.. then i just sorta turn around and tear up.
Aug 25 2008 1:52AM
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PASKIINGSUCKS
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It's hardest now but you'll get through this. Your dad wouldn't have wanted this to break you, you gotta be strong and buck up like your old man would have wanted. We're all gonna lose our parents some day, and it's that time when we have to take their teachings and press on.

My bro was such a motorhead that he was like the go to car guy among our friends here in town. This weekend I ended up in a friends garage watching a buddy install a turbo with much difficulty. Many a times it was stated that "the job would have been done hours ago had Matty still been around to help out". I almost broke down just thinking about how much he helped out me and my friends, but then I decided to do something else. I did what my bro would have done, I got greasy, I got under the car, and I helped a friend who was in need of a hand.(even if we were both kinda shooting in the dark)

In remembering my brother's way of doing things I helped out a friend, and even learned a few things myself while drinking on a friday night. While I was down there turning wrenches like my bro used to, it was almost like he was there with us again driving me to help out just like he used to. So just carry your father's memory with you now and he will never leave your side.
Aug 25 2008 10:39AM
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Shpadoinkle
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Yeah, we are all going to lose our parents someday, but it shouldn't be while we are young and still growing. If I lost my mom I wouldn't have anyone to lean on. I don't get close to people at all.
Aug 25 2008 12:11PM
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