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Ahhhhhhhh!!! university!!!

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[_KyLe_]
Posts: 263 - Karma: 15
hey guys i need to vent
im in grade 12 and as i start thinking about university i start thinking about what i'll be leaving behind when i go.

friends - i come from a town of about 900 and i have the most tight knit group of friends that you could imagine. im gonna hate to leave them.

girlfriend - i have the most amazing girlfriend ever. shes applying to the same univerity as me but she has doubts as to whether or not she'll get in. we;ve been dating for almost a year and a half and i love her, i believe its love so dont tell me i dont know what love is at my age.

sense of security - i'm applying to the university of calgary and coming from such a small town i cant even imagine how im going to be able to navigate a city of that size.

i get an overwhelming feeling of anxiety and sadness whenever i think about leaving all this behind. to picture my gf having a good time with all my friends that are staying in manitoba for school tears my heart out. call me oversensitive or a homo or w/e but thinking about all this can and does put me to tears.

i'm considering calgary for school b/c i want to be a doctor and they have a good school, and also the skiing is where its at, being that close to the mountains has always been my dream, but i would leave it all behind and stay in the prairies for school if it meant holding on to all these things that are so important to me. but the question is should i, right? i mean life is about change and embracing it. going to calgary would probably be a good move for school. when the feeling ive talked about creeps in though it makes me want to hold my girlfriend as tight as i can and sit around watching a movie with my buddies, all of us having a good time not worrying about the changes that lie before us all.

what do you guys think about leaving for school, use the thread to talk about it if you want or jsut post whatever is relevant.

peace
Dec 3 2007 12:27AM
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Nicholas.
Posts: 10905 - Karma: 60
yeah its stressful right now for me too.
Dec 3 2007 12:29AM
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cbl718
Posts: 553 - Karma: 10
yeah the first year will be hard, its hard on everyone, most you can do is dont stress about it and enjoy the best days of your life.
Dec 3 2007 12:38AM
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skier_boy26
Posts: 11295 - Karma: 502
the transition might be slightly bumpy at first, but you'll certainly cope quite well. It could be quite a bite in the ass later to not go through with it.
Dec 3 2007 12:42AM
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lalalalaura
Posts: 6753 - Karma: 68
My roommate comes from a town of roughly 200, and he's in Vancouver now, and he's doing okay.
He came from a similar situation as you.
But well, if you don't go, how do you really see yourself growing up and living life? You can stick with what you're used to, or you can take a chance and do something that you can look back on very fondly in years to come. Your choice.
Dec 3 2007 12:49AM
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Alex_G
Posts: 11902 - Karma: 1,019
Just finished my applications 2 weeks ago. Definitely a lot of weight off your shoulders once you finish the process.
Dec 3 2007 12:50AM
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Mr_Bojangles
Posts: 2585 - Karma: 16
I've just finished my first year at uni, and holy shit...

Amazing times, met some amazing people, however a lot of my friends came with me and uni is only 20 minutes away. One girl I met had come all the way from NZ to Melbourne, and had similar feelings about being uprooted in her prime and thrown kicking and screaming over the Tasman into Australia. It took her pretty much the entire year to really settle in, but she wouldn't take it back for the world, and actually looks forward to coming back next year. Do it, otherwise you'll regret it.
Dec 3 2007 12:50AM
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eurotune2
Posts: 1450 - Karma: 10
i know what your going through man, ive been through it, it seems impossible now that you are going to be able to have a good time and enjoy yourself away from the people that you love but it gets easier and im all about living for today and in the moment but you gotta make dreams and go for them at the same time so, its hard to say or hear but if you stayed home with everyone else i think (becasue i would have) you would regret that decision.  You wanna be a doctor mad probs, just go for it, the people you are close to you will always be and should support your decisions.  Hope that helps maybe,  Later
Dec 3 2007 12:53AM
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Itsbackfliptime
Posts: 18901 - Karma: 75
Go for it man. You'll always wonder how it would have been if you don't give it a try.

I had a girlfriend in high school and was totally in love with her. We dated most of high school and when we graduated, we went to schools a few hours away. We made the distance thing work for the whole first year and she didn't dump me until the end of the summer for no apparent reason. Still kinda bitter about that actually. I know this is really cliche but if it is meant to be you'll stay together.

As far as friends go, you'll still see them if they're really your friends. I keep in touch with most of my friends from home. Just have an awesome summer before you all go away to school.
Dec 3 2007 2:00AM
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USA
Posts: 2201 - Karma: 11
It's hard at first man, but you meet sooooo many new people in college. I go home and its fun to hang out with old friends, but i start to miss my friends at school and you get more used to being at school. Just go into the situation thinking positively and make friends and you'll be just fine. As for the girl friend thing I dunno what to tell you and not to be negative but every couple I've seen split up out of my old friends just want to be together all the time and shit so hopefully she gets into your school bro.
Dec 3 2007 2:15AM
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Skiing_Is_Fun
Posts: 1463 - Karma: 91
university is a lot better then high school, you meet a lot of new people and have a lot more freedom
Dec 3 2007 2:56AM
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PacificRimJob
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Its a hard decision dude... but you're going to have to let go and hit up calgary... That town is so legit, that if Id have been accepted into college up there, I'd so have taken it...

and thats coming from a kid whos lived in sunny california his whole life... BRING ON THE NEGATIVE 50'S!
Dec 3 2007 3:06AM
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brokebutitsworthit
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I go to U of C and can say its a really good school.  Medicine is intense as all hell though so dont plan on endless ski days.  I have some friends who came from Manitoba and they seem to have settled in quite well.  Rez helps, you meet loads of people and make lots of friends, I dont know anyone who lived in Rez that didnt enjoy it immensely.  I am local so I have never done it and I have still made loads of friends and had great times.  Oh and the Den is one of the best campus bars I have ever been to and I travel around for games so I have been to a few.  Plus COP is only 8 minutes from the campus, I've timed it.  What is the GF applying for, i know communications and culture doesnt have uber intense requirements like medicine, Business, or engineering do.
Dec 3 2007 3:10AM
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KenzieMorris
Posts: 68 - Karma: 13
Enjoy those times as memories because you will have that with eneryone forever. To be honest everyone i knew from highschool broke up after some time, you probably don;t want to hear that now, but enjoy it while you live it, and accept it when its over. I grew up in a small ass town too and there is a big world out there, live in it and get as much out of everything you can while you can. Move out and expirence new life, and try and not regret anything.
Dec 3 2007 3:24AM
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anna*
Posts: 1701 - Karma: 10
im possibly moving from australia to nz for uni next year and the three after that.
its not at the nervous stage yet, but im guessing it will be when offers arrive in january.

you'll be sweet.
Dec 3 2007 3:30AM
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Silence
Posts: 16030 - Karma: 150
mate i'm 24, at my third uni and just went back this year - i'm sort of the van wilder token old guy at my campus and at first it was reallly wierd given that i was like 6 years older than most people in my year - but seriously i would consider doing honours or something just so i could stay there, such great times, you meet such great people and you actually learn extremely valuable shit!

do it, you won't end up losing anything out of doing it.
Dec 3 2007 3:37AM
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kepler.
Posts: 8761 - Karma: 139

The way I'm looking at college is an optimistic view. For all your life you have been around the same people. Going to college starts a new point in your life that will take you out of your comfort zone. You have to take this feeling head on and attack it. You are in your room on your first day of college alone; you can either stay in and play video games by yourself, or go knock on the door next to you, introduce yourself and offer them to play with you. Most people would dread knocking on a stranger's door and introducing themself but if you can overcome that fear then your experience in college will be all the better.

College is probably going to be the best experience of your (my) life, so don't fear it. Embrace it and take it as its thrown at you.

Dec 3 2007 9:39AM
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[_KyLe_]
Posts: 263 - Karma: 15
she's gotta do a bachelor of science like me, she wants to be a vet
Dec 3 2007 9:54AM
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[_KyLe_]
Posts: 263 - Karma: 15
man, thats such a god way to look at it, the way of thinking about it thats so depressing is like a slump that i can fall into, everything just seems so bad, then posts like this and many of the others posted just rip you out of that thought process. thanks guys, at least NS will always be there

peace
Dec 3 2007 9:56AM
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