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Lonely in college..

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mackattack
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second week of college and feeling incredibly lonely and sad. anyone feel the same? i'm bummed, i was really social in high school, had lots of friends and now...i dont know, its weird.
any advice? i live off-campus, but live close to my college. im ready to give up
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Oct 2 2007 8:57PM
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cobra_commander
Posts: 16909 - Karma: 4,684
that was actually really funny.
Oct 3 2007 11:45AM
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dave44
Posts: 11052 - Karma: 113
Sounds like you need to find some friends.
Oct 3 2007 11:51AM
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Quinny
Posts: 3477 - Karma: 163
Dude, this isn't tough. Walk around and talk to people. If its "breaking the ice" that is giving you trouble, get involved in some on-campus clubs and activities. That'll help you out.
Oct 3 2007 12:51PM
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Delhi11
Posts: 71 - Karma: 10
its my first year in college and at first i was wondering why i couldn't make any friends. Then i met people who knew people and college is sick. You could seriously just walk through a residence hall and say hi to anybody with there door open, or why else would it be open? Just can't be shy, its 100x easier for girls to make friends.
Oct 3 2007 1:17PM
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Shpadoinkle
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word. people do know people. it's amazing.

i'm actually quite a lone wolf this year just because i hate being here and everyone from here is lame. oh and they don't ski or surf. so there really is no point.

january will be the start of a new chapter. i be born again. hehe. anyone wanna be my friend in boulder? hehehe.
Oct 3 2007 1:40PM
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MEGAZORD
Posts: 4531 - Karma: -8
Go to a party and make some friends.
Social Lubricant is the answer.
Oct 3 2007 2:25PM
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Casey
Posts: 7899 - Karma: 25,064
you should come to the downtown throwdown this saturday at sturdevants in bellevue.. its gonna be hot. 7pm
Oct 3 2007 2:53PM
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Scratch*my*Back
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my first year of univ i didnt even go away. i went to a school here in my city. i made a few friends because i took some seminar courses that had a max of 20 students in the class. so that made it real easy to connect with others. however, it was very difficult to make friends in lecture halls considering all the first year students who live on res show up to class with their res buddies and sit together.

when i went away to montreal for a year of school, i lived off campus as well. but i had two roommates that i adored and got along well with. they both had their own groups of friends so it was a little hard to feel included when they have such tight crews...but it got better and better and i squeezed my way in there.

do you have roomies?? make friends with them!

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are you into anything perhaps you could join a club? at my univ there was a film society which allows ppl who are into film to make films together, talk about films together, and then you end up making friends too!

is there a ski club? u could join that as well. sure its tough if you're doing it alone but if its a ski club or any club of sorts someone is going to talk to u and then you will hit it off and they wil introduce you to ppl and such and such and you'll see more and more familiar faces.
Oct 3 2007 3:02PM
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Ryanvdonk
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you obviously have no idea about dorms at UW, they are some of the worst in the country. a very high percentage of freshman do live off campus there.

in another note, you should go hang out with rowen.
Oct 3 2007 3:12PM
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Skillz
Posts: 945 - Karma: 50
!!!! Join Husky Winter Sports

Info meeting in Smith 211 Thursday night at 7!

Seriously do it.  We rock
Oct 3 2007 3:14PM
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beer.
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it wasnt breaking the ice that was hard with me. it was making friends. I can break the ice fine. but I kept thinking to myself when hanging out with people, "gee I dont really feel a connection here."

you cant give up though, you have to keep putting yourself out there and eventually you will meet some really good friends. I had such an urge to just stop trying to make friends for the first month of school, it just wasnt going anywhere. in the first month I had made one friend but then I switched dorms and everyone in my new dorm was cool.
Oct 3 2007 3:27PM
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Quinny
Posts: 3477 - Karma: 163
Hence the on-campus clubs and activities idea. All you need to do is find other people that share some sort of common interest. Thats how friends are made. A club for example, is a good way to facilitate social interaction.
Oct 3 2007 9:18PM
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JoeTheRipper
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I know this may seem a little juvenile, but whatever. I'm really not good at breaking the ice. It is my first year as well and I am also living off campus. I've found out that when I am alone I am very shy, and am horrible at making conversation. Does anybody have any suggestions on what how to start a conversation. I know I need to open up more but just don't know how. Please help!!!
Oct 3 2007 10:02PM
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t-roy
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it would be really hard to make friends starting out off-campus. but like you, a lot of other freshmen in your classes will be in the same situation. ask a few people in your class if they want to study sometime, or just try striking up chat between people you sit with. joining clubs or whatever is good too.
Oct 3 2007 10:31PM
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JATS101
Posts: 882 - Karma: 17
hit up a box social.... or for real, if you are old enough (most likely not if your in the states) hit up your campus bar, also start chattin it up with peeps in your class, you'll start hanging out with all sorts of randoms and in a week or so will find your spot to shine. kill it girl.
Oct 3 2007 10:35PM
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MEGAZORD
Posts: 4531 - Karma: -8
Seriously go to parties, its that simple.  Talk to people there, meet people.
Its really not hard at all
Oct 5 2007 11:00AM
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bitchassphatz
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meet the people that live around you. go out to parties, meet people. if you're cute guys will want to hang out and sleep with you. college is great if you're not a shy person.

you just left you security blanket of friends, make new ones. if you're really a social person it'll be a breeze.
Oct 5 2007 11:43AM
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MEGAZORD
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Seriously girls have it so easy.
Oct 5 2007 8:49PM
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KLovelace
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sounds like you need to live in the dorm. duh.
Oct 5 2007 8:52PM
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PeteyG
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Your a Huskie, thats why. Go to wazzu and your wildest dreams will come true
Oct 5 2007 9:01PM
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zackblain
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drugs  
Oct 5 2007 9:07PM
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Liam.
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i guess theres always suicide...but dont do that
i havent expirienced my first year of college so i cant help u
Oct 5 2007 9:07PM
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skier_boy26
Posts: 11295 - Karma: 502
Haha don't join the ski club..they're ALL about racing. You could probably meet people in the Husky Winter Sports club (but I think you'd have to teach or take lessons). Lunch on Monday!
Oct 5 2007 11:41PM
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KRAMPUSNTROLLZ
Posts: 2715 - Karma: 355
Ok when ski season starts make a bunch of flyers and put them all over the school saying that you are starting like a crew of skiers that are going to ride park or what ever and boom you have a bunch of skiers to hang out with. Now if you are going to college where skiing is not and option then I don't know what you do since i am not in college.
Oct 6 2007 2:22AM
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solitaryman
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well whats the fun in that? you're at college pussy is a currency.
Oct 6 2007 2:41AM
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Skillz
Posts: 945 - Karma: 50
Only six weeks, for two hours only!  Then we shred the rest of the weekend.  Oh and we get a free pass, free cabin.
Oct 6 2007 4:18AM
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derbski
Posts: 3173 - Karma: 62
get a fake ID and let make sure some people know you have it, then you will know where a bunch of parties will be
Oct 9 2007 12:13AM
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St.Steezy
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if your taking any science courses meet people in your labs. I have 3, 3 hour labs a week. Whens you're spending 3 hours at a time doing an experiment, get to know the people around you. Socialize, have some fun. If someone is having difficulty, give them a hand. 
Oct 9 2007 1:05PM
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da-bling
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bc in high school u went to school with those people for 12 years, now your back at the bottom of the food chain where you dont know anyone... it will get better
Oct 9 2007 1:59PM
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