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Helping someone with biiig biig issues.

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Capurnicus
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Ok so I'm really trying to help my friend out here. He's been through some pretty rough stuff. His dad left the family, his mom had cancer, his big brother is leaving for college. He's been pretty happy for awhile, but all the sudden its all 'catching up to him' persay.

Anyways, I'm just wondering if you guys have anythoughts on how to help him. I know that he can be ok with it. He just has to decided that in his mind.

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Aug 27 2003 1:55AM
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caylorswift
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talk to him a lot, and hang out with him as much as you can, make him feel like someone is actually there for him, be a big brother i guess or just a brother, and just hang out with him a lot


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Aug 27 2003 1:57AM
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Nickskier
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take him out for ice cream with a bunch of girls
Aug 27 2003 1:59AM
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Ghost
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the ice cream is the ticket.

Deep down inside what they really want and need is for someone to just listen to them. Try to see where he's coming for, just be there for him as a friend, don't downplay his situation, but at the same time let him know that there are so many people out there that have it worse.

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Aug 27 2003 2:04AM
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Papa
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just hang out with him, probably all he wants is a friend




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Aug 27 2003 2:06AM
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*Neil
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buy him a 12 pack each day...

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Aug 27 2003 2:07AM
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rossignol_rider
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jsut be there for him whenever he needs something, talk him through it, and try to act a normal as possible

i hope the topic on this thread doesnt change, thats ssome pretty deep stuff to happen to someone
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Aug 27 2003 2:07AM
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ThisAngelicRage
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As others are saying just listening can be one of the nicest things someone can do. And you know just hanging out, simple things that make you a little bit happier.




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Aug 27 2003 2:09AM
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CTripper
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yeah make him feel wanted or appreciated. like others said, hang out with him a lot, and talk with him. one of my friends is sorta like that. his dad died when he was 2 but he steal can't come to terms with that. his sister just left for college, who he's close with, and his neighbor went to college, who he's known forever. and his brother, who's been his only real father figure and someone he looks up to a lot, is moving to nyc.
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Aug 27 2003 2:10AM
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Ghost
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It sucks.. close ones going off to college, but there are by far worse things.
Like for me, alot of my friends and family are in jail. haven't been able to talk to them for a while.

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Aug 27 2003 2:13AM
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PhattSarah
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Listening is often the best thing that you can do for someone. Let him know that you're there for him and always try to fully listen to him. Even if you can't help him, being able to talk to someone is great. Often all people need is a sounding board, and it helps them figure out their problem. You sound like a good friend though, to be concerned about him like this, so good on you :-)


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Aug 27 2003 2:21AM
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dilla_says_go
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when my friends mom died i went over to her house and cooked her dinner
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Aug 27 2003 2:27AM
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Capurnicus
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Thanks a ton guys...thank you!

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Aug 27 2003 2:45AM
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rossignol_rider
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^im glad to help anyone whos doen as much for this site as you
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Aug 27 2003 2:51AM
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Capurnicus
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Haha thanks man!

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Aug 27 2003 2:52AM
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ThisAngelicRage
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Yeah seriously, I think it's great how much you've done.




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Aug 27 2003 3:09AM
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PhaedeD
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wrap up a blunt go out spark it then go have a fun night out on the town or something go do something you like man.











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Aug 27 2003 5:12AM
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rsd
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get him a girl and he is good to go
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Aug 27 2003 6:53AM
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SaraJ
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Sometimes (not always the case), it's best to stay away from large groups in a situation like this too cause then they might feel like left out and that nobody cares what he's going through while everybody is having a great time. If you do stuff in a group with him, make sure he's included. But ya, like everybody else said, just hang with him, and if he wants to talk about it, listen.

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Aug 27 2003 7:53AM
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Ski_Instructor_Mike
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but it depends on what kind of person he is, hanging out in big groups might make him feel better and forget about his problems it does for me.
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Aug 27 2003 7:58AM
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SaraJ
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yeah, that's true too.

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Aug 27 2003 8:16AM
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hucksterjibber15
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ya the world is a shitty place sometimes, my cousin who im pretty close with's parents just got divorced. then, about a month later he got diagnosed with leukemia. me and him used to jam a lot on the guiitar. so like at least twice every week i take the hour and a half trip to the hospital to go see him and play with him. he is in a childrens hospital, so me and him play for all the other sick littler kids up there, its pretty cool that if you take 3 hours out of your day it can make so many people happier. he is gettin to be a really good guitar player, seein as that is the only thing he can really enjoy anymore. i ont know, i kinda trailed off there but im tryin to say is just hang out with em, and find something that u both enjoy to do together
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Aug 27 2003 8:47PM
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Lateralis
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just chill with him and make him have a good time to forget about the sour shit thats going on,im all depressed and shit and the only time i forget about the stuff is when im out with friends getting fucked up and laughing all the time


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