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Maturity

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beer.
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its weird I am 20 years old but still feel almost exactly the same as I did when i was 16. I am more mature in some ways but for the most part I feel worse for the wear and no closer to being a man.

when do people change into adults? seeing my friends older bros most of them are really immature until they get a real job out of college. my definition of maturity is doing what needs to be done without complaining.

like I cant imagine myself working 40-50 hours a week and then coming home and paying bills, running errands etc. I'm going to grad school and thankfully that will give me an extra 2 years to grow some balls or something, but if I havent by then I am in trouble!
Sep 24 2007 11:36AM
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RussellK141
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i was just thinking about this the other day. I just turned 19, but i dont really feel any different than i did when i entered highschool. i remember looking up at the highschool seniors and thinking "wow when im a senior i will be old and wise and mature like them." well, now im in college and i still dont feel like that
Sep 24 2007 11:38AM
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beer.
Posts: 3096 - Karma: 44
yeah totally dude, seniors looked so much older than I did. or my friends. but i guess thats the same for everyone.

but some people do just look way older. there are many kids in college who look 25 years old, and I still look like a little boy.

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I dont think I look 20 years old at all.
Sep 24 2007 11:49AM
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Itsbackfliptime
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I feel the same way. I'm as immature as they come. I still get Legos every year for Christmas. Whats the point of growing up if you don't need to? As long as I take care of my responsibilities (rent, cable, homework, etc.) then I don't see why I can't have fun. One more year of school and then I'm out in the real world though. Its crazy.
Sep 24 2007 11:58AM
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kepler.
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i like that first line up there. you're as old as you act. it ok to act immature and have fun and take life as its thrown at you. as long as you get the shit that needs to be done then you're fine. i'm only 18 and still a senior but i know when its time to have fun and time to be serious. but more often its fun.
Sep 24 2007 12:26PM
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beer.
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yeah but thats the thing. as you get older its more and more about being serious and not having fun.
Sep 24 2007 12:30PM
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duhamelski
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i guess you will start being productive when you decide to. its not like some chemical change in your brain makes you get things done. but ur still in college, so why are you sweating it. im a senior in highschool, and i guess i still dont feel that much older than i did when i was a freshman. i might have a wider outlook on things but thats about it
Sep 24 2007 12:31PM
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wrenegade
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You are definitely asking this question on the wrong website.
Sep 24 2007 2:13PM
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snwbrdmilf
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Maybe so.

But, being mature isn't necessarily about going to work for 40 hrs a week, and coming home and paying the bills etc. Being mature is having a strong head on your shoulders, and being able to clearly make some right choices. Being mature is showing that you can stand on your own two feet without having people make decisions for you. Being mature is about holding yourself together in tough situations. I can say that from age 19-24 I have made some drastic changes in my maturity. And it all happens from life's lessons. You learn as you grow.
Sep 24 2007 2:21PM
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XtRemE11
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ha i dont think 20 is when you get mature and become an adult, thats still way young, im not 20 yet but i see 20 year olds that are way less mature than me, and im pretty damn immature, it seems like once you get freedom from your parents some people go crazy and turn into a 5 year old. for girls it seems like around 15-20 is when they get mature and turn into an adult. but for guys its like 25-30, mabye even older.
Sep 24 2007 4:46PM
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SkierX
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Being mature doesn't mean not having fun.

I have a lot of immature times and have alot of fun, but I wouldn't consider myself immature as a whole.
Sep 24 2007 4:53PM
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RudyGarmisch
Posts: 25443 - Karma: 13,844
Maturity is your post count on TGR exceeding your NS one.
Sep 24 2007 5:01PM
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jacqui-la-fripui
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yeah i dont think much changes until you have kids i think
Sep 24 2007 5:16PM
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t-roy
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man...i'm gonna be 22 in a week. i've been mature for a long enough time, but it wasn't until this year that i've really gotten into school related priorities which is surprisingly not bad now that i am studying what i need to know for my career. outside of school though, shoot, i'm still a kid...there is a lot more to maturity than can be explained in a ns post.
Sep 24 2007 5:31PM
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tequila
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...is overrated
Sep 24 2007 5:31PM
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GatoGordo
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working 40 hours a week doesn't really change you at all. i did it this summer, in between my junior and senior year, and its nothing that hard. although, my job just consists of cleaning up a few camp sites, then coming back to the office, and going on NS. 8.68 an hour kind of sucked, but its not that bad having to not need any education, and the 40 hours really wasn't bad, because when you went home, you didn't have to think about your job at all. school sucks so much more, because it actually makes you think, and all of the homework sucks. i don't really know where i went with that, but thats my 2 cents.
Sep 24 2007 6:18PM
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jimmychung
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i remember looking up at 8th graders and thinking that they were all so big and macho and holy shit like....

but no i eat them for breakfast.
Sep 24 2007 6:23PM
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GnarBurger
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still a kid!!!! woot!!!
Sep 24 2007 6:29PM
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beer.
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i would much rather think than spend all day at a boring job.

it just seems like jobs that dont require college/special training suck, I dont know how people work them full time.

but im even worried about working at a job I like that is stimulating full time. 8-10 hours a day is rough.
Sep 24 2007 6:34PM
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first_rodeo
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sorry to bring back this thread.
but i feel like im 21 going on 17. i am a junior in college and overwhelmed with just school work alone.
 i have yet to get an internship or stop getting high every morning noon and night.
Yes i have lived off campus as a single adult for 3 years, but i dont think daddy paying my cable rent beer pot and skiing have made me any more mature than oncoming college freshmen.


i've been thinking about joining the military after my senior year at school to give me a little maturity.
i quit an internship last summer and did not feel mature enough to be in the corporate world.

Feb 3 2014 7:24PM
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chicken
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i'm 23 and what's maturity?
Feb 3 2014 7:26PM
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Cannaburner
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OP, words of advice, maturity is how well you are acquainted with yourself and who you are. I think people who are mature are people who live good healthy lives and do what they want and how they want with full awareness and respect for them self and their surroundings. To be mature is to accept who you are, embrace it, and live it, you'll know who is more mature based on how they act, but all that matters is what you think.
Feb 3 2014 7:28PM
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Snowtorious_BIG
Posts: 659 - Karma: 1,467
Ha! This guy's probably not a kid anymore. Sucker
Feb 3 2014 7:40PM
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steezyjibber
Posts: 15967 - Karma: 11,026
I'm actually really glad you brought back this thread because I'd love to see if OP replies to it.

Does anybody on here know this user beer.? Looks like he hasn't logged in in awhile.

He should be long out of grad school by now. That'd be wicked interesting to see what he's up to and what has changed.
Feb 3 2014 7:41PM
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BBurt
Posts: 1588 - Karma: 3,781
He definetly needs to respond. I honestly think there is a difference between growing up and maturing, growing up being the thing you should never need to do.
Feb 3 2014 8:06PM
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last_tango
Posts: 2635 - Karma: 2,665
Once you graduate and get everything cut off you will grow up really fuckin fast or you are going to be a bum on the street or even worse live in your parents basement.

Be a ski bum for a year and bump chairs. If you can not get canned right away it will mature you if you last the whole season and still be fun enough.
Feb 3 2014 8:25PM
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lIllI
Posts: 1255 - Karma: 1,986
That's because your 20's are just an extension of your teen years. You are still a clumsy person who is experiencing a great deal of life for the first time, only now you carry the burden of responsibility. Just for reference, you know how you look at high schoolers? That's how the rest of the world looks at people in their 20's. Believe it.
Feb 3 2014 8:30PM
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TheBigApple
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Oh how I long for my youth!
Feb 3 2014 8:55PM
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crab_pretzel
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i feel the same way. im twenty but when im at home i still say the same shit and joke around like a kid as though im like 15 or even younger. when i visit my grandmom's i still bother and annoy her exactly the way i did 10 years ago. i guess its just who i am haha
Feb 3 2014 9:38PM
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whoa-dere
Posts: 10596 - Karma: 7,105
same lol. i guess behaving like an adult isn't my thing
Feb 3 2014 9:54PM
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Threshy
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threads, seeing op deliver in a different way this time...
Feb 3 2014 10:00PM
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daannnnieel
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Maturity isn't about how you feel about yourself though, it's not a feeling you get. It's just something that either happens, or doesn't. I'm positive you have matured a fuck ton from the time you were in highschool to now, in ways that you wouldn't even think of.

Feb 4 2014 1:14AM
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chicken
Posts: 6843 - Karma: 2,121
this was me at like 17. riding skateboards and bicycles through the halls, building rocket powered skateboards, skipping class, smoking weed. high school was boring, but we made the best out of it.



things haven't changed much. voice got a bit deeper.

fuck maturity.
Feb 4 2014 1:25AM
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Sno.
Posts: 12155 - Karma: 6,152
It doesn't change.
Feb 4 2014 1:50AM
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Posts: 1043 - Karma: 938
Totally agree. It's not some sudden lightswich most times; more like a sunrise
Feb 4 2014 2:26AM
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kevmac
Posts: 347 - Karma: 1,172
dildos.....thats how mature i am
Feb 4 2014 8:26AM
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the.hellion.
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Maturity is when you realize there are no days off.
Feb 4 2014 8:38AM
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Bogs
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What do you mean you feel the exact same as when you were 16? I find this extremely hard to believe. You're saying that in the last 4 years you honestly haven't learned anything, or met anybody, or witnessed anything that made you see and think about the world in a slightly different way? You literally have the exact same perceptions and beliefs about the world around you that you had when you were 16?

Maturity is a process that takes place over a long period of time. Obviously you aren't going to one day wake up and think "well, i'm mature now, time to stop watching cartoons and start watching CNN while I drink coffee and read the paper."
Feb 4 2014 9:10AM
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Bogs
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This is, like, the definition of maturity. You seem like a very mature person to me. What ever made you think that maturity and fun are mutually exclusive?
Feb 4 2014 9:11AM
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freestyler540
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maturity is taking responsibility. You can be a partier or a college lifer and still have maturity. However, you were talking more about physical maturity. If it make you feel better, my beard actually came in at 25. Hell, but pubic hair was thicker than my facial hair. I never got interested in relationships until I hit my 20s. And dude, I still fight acnee to this day!

On a positive note, I am healthier than most 18 year olds today. Being active has never been so easy, the more energy you put into a day, the more time you can put into your day in the next month.
There was a study that showed that active people at childhood who still are active in adult life look, feel and genetically 7 years younger. That same study put a direct correlation between work (intensity x duration) and living longer, disable free life in senior years.

be happy to be young!
Feb 4 2014 9:27AM
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