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if a girl who you really liked came over your house for 3 hours with no one around...and you wanted to get some... but cared about her and didn't want to make it awkward...but you think she'd do you if you take it slow and make good moves... what move would you make first...?...p.s. this girl already kisses me on the cheek and stuff like every day, and occasionally touches my leg/ crotch...but its kinda like just a joke... what move to make???
Ask if she wants a massage.
It's all about the massage, then slowly work your way down to her ass :) and if she doesnt care that you are giving her an ass massage then you are home free.
don't do anything sober. make a move once you've both been drinking. that way her inhibitions will be gone and things will most likely go well. However, should she shut you down, you can blame it on the fact that you were drunk.
unless you dont drink. in which case i dont want to be one to condone drinking. Watch a movie with her with the lights out on the couch, if she shares a blanket/snuggles up on you, she wants it.
well then just maybe try and be playful, tease her or something till you end up play fighting, then gently tackle her to the ground and kiss her.
When a guy asks if you want a massage, we all know its go get in our pants immediately if not sooner. Having a guy who is not my friend ask me if i want a massage i pretty much just decide right then if i want to get on him or not. Having a guy who IS my friend ask me if i want a massage would kind of weird me out.
Even if i liked him, i would think that our friendship would warrant a less-cheesy approach
actually, i wasnt thinking it in terms of taking advantage of her. if both people are buzzing it makes things less awkward.
"but from the sounds of it you wouldnt know anything about that..."
stfu. I'm 24 years old, I've had enough relationships, both meaningful and not to give advice, and i certainly have more experience than just drunken encounters. but thanks.
So play fighting is not a cheesy approach? lol, that shit sounds like something an elementary kid would do to me.
I personally think massages and shit are natural. It's girls like you
that make everything seem so awkward. Any time a guy is hanging out
with a chick, the only reason he is probably doing it is to get into
her pants...sooo, I dont see your point. What is so wrong with having
a friend give you a massage? Massages feel really good. Monkies and
shit pick bugs out of their friends hair and you are afraid of a guy
giving you a massage?
well, from my experience, a move is either going to work or it isnt. i either like him or i dont. So no matter what you do, she's either going to reciprocate, or lay you down gently. I tend to find the best moments for guys to try and kiss me/make a pass on me is a time when we're both feeling eachother. I dont know how to make this sound less confusing..
but lets say he says something funny, and im laughing at it, and he's laughing, well in that moment im already attracted to him cause he just made me laugh, and we're connecting cause we're both laughing, so leaning in after that to kiss me would be super cute.
well i suppose it would be cheesy if its out of nowhere and not something that you ordinarily do. although i tend to play-fight with all of my guy friends on a regular basis. So no, it wouldnt be cheesy, it wouldnt be out of the ordinary. Them asking to give me a massage would be out of the ordinary.
im not trying to get into arguments here. i was just offering advice.
Once again, the only reason those guys probably hang out with you is to possibly get in your pants. Dont be fooled.
The thing with a massage is, if she doesnt want you near her, then yes, she will refuse, so then you have your answer and you can move on.
If she says yes, than that means she trusts you and wants to get closer or is just a cool friend who doesnt think every time that you touch her has to be sexual.
If you want to be smooth though, just be like," if you give me a massage, ill give you one too. Im really sore from skiing"....hehe :)
oh, the "if you give me a massage i'll give you one too" isnt bad, nor is the "will you give me a massage"...cause then, if she wants one back she can playfully say "now you owe me one!"
the thing i dont like/think is weird is when they're like "can i give you a massage/do you need a massage"
Play fighting is not cheesy. If you're just poking each other in the stomach, play slapping, tickling, whatever... and then you gently tackle and kiss, most girls I know would find that spontaneous and romantic.
Massage is too played, it used to be a good idea.
As long as she's not piss drunk I don't see it as taking advantage here. Buzzing just makes things less awkward, which is simply going to make your move more likely to be accepted... not because she's wasted, but because everything is less weird.
If you both smoke, go for it while blazing. Not only will it be amazing once it works, but people get outrageously horny on weed, and yet there's not the "Oh shit, why did I do that?" feeling you get with alcohol. You know exactly what you're doing, the hormones are just a little more active hehe.
The best way to do it really is after you've both been laughing, preferably if you made the joke, and when your eyes kind of meet and there's clearly nothing to say, just lean in. The official distance as decided by Ladies Men is to go in 90% and let her cover the remaining 10%.
that's not the best idea..if you want to go with this then prolly get her drunk more than you that way you are making somewhat of conscience decisions and can control your way of behavior so you don't look totally fucked up
I would go with the pussy shit as it tends to do exactly as its name suggests... get pussy. However, if you're going to whip it out, you better be packing at least 7. Less than that and it won't overcome the anger from you pulling out your dick and expecting her to do something about it.
that's like everything i just said...i got a hicky you leeched that so much off of me. But anyway, cept for the weed part, which was a good idea, and on a related note...mouth-to-mouth buddy hits are a good way to let a girl know you're not opposed to a little lip touching.
Someone attacked your play fighting idea, so I defended it. Same with the alcohol thing, someone said it was taking advantage so I defended that as well. Both good ideas that needed additional support, sorry if it looked like I stole 'em haha...
No no, you see... You don't even cop a feel until you make your move. You poke them in the stomach, shoulder, any place that ISN'T sexual. If you're wrestling, that's a little harder, but still try and keep it as non-sexual as possible. Light and fun. If both of you aren't laughing something is wrong. Then at some point gently tackle her to a couch, bed, whatever as if it's still part of the play fighting and instead of continuing the fight, just kind of lock eyes for a little then go for the kiss. Trust me, this is GOLD.
Yeah, I got all the stuff about keeping it non-sexual from movies too. Idiot. Shit works for me all the time, I'm telling you... try it. I guess looking at it again it sounds corny, but in the moment it doesn't feel like that. All the girls I've known have found it spontaneous and romantic. If you wrestle them sexually during the fighting it's a different story, then they're expecting it and it doesn't have the same effect. I don't know what your experience is, but it has never failed once for me.
do what feels right. if a girl kisses you and agrees to go over to your house to hang out with you you have nothing to worry about. she likes you. if she touches your leg jokingly then she is just trying to get you to be more confident. just be confident and dont go too fast. It will happen