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Asking girls about previous sexual activity...
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Ok, so my friend and I are having a disagreement. I am dating this girl and my friend says that i need to ask her about what he has done before, like how far she's gone. I told him that i would rather not know and that it seems impolite to me to ask a girl that and that i am generally uninterested in any of her previous activity. He said its important because you need to know if you are gonna get some disease or something. I told him that if we ever reach that stage in our relationship, i'll find out, but for now, i don't really care. He said that she even told him about what shes done and that its not that big of a deal to ask. She told me that it's not a rude question at all but i still don't want to find out. Am I trippin or what?
oh, and by the way, i know this sounds like some straight 6th grade shit but whatever.
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what????????
why would you want to know
my girlfriend told me who shes had sex with before but im not aloud to tell anyone...
i dont see why it is an advantage to know unless shes some whore that has stds
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THANK YOU!!!! i completely agree, its not important at all to know
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TRY NOT TO SUCK ANY DICK ON YOUR WAY THROUGH THE PARKING LOT
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they'll be a time and place to ask that question, but for now, i don't really think its any of your business to ask her.
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thank you, i knew i wasn't trippin by not wanting to know
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DEf not but how long have you been together?
Because after a while or when things start gettin serious comunication and honest are a big part of a relationship...so its not so much needing to know the names of the guys/girls your partners been with but, you both should feel comfortable talking about it with each other
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i'm not so sure...this just occurred on friday. but me and this girl went out and all and i guess we were in the beginning stages of dating but i don't know. we got on that subject and i found out some stuff. real big turn off for me. but to each his own. just don't be be pissed off if you find out shes been around the block
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touchy subject homie. best let the past stay the past.
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how long have you had your icon?
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yeah i need to know what the guy i am dating has done and he'll usually ask back
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my girlfriend told me, i didn't need to ask. its good to be open about stuff like that.
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just dont worry about it. its no big deal and your friend just wants to find out for himself
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I wouldn't press the issue. If it comes up, I'm sure it would be nice to know. If it doesn't then I wouldn't worry about it.
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Don't ask, don't tell. I don't want to know who/what my boyfriend's done, although he's my best friend so we now know some of that stuff about each other, it comes naturally with the territory of 3 years dating off and on, but when the relationship seems like it's going to get physical, just make sure she's had her annual check-up and you've had your's and you're both clean and ready to go. Otherwise, it's just not that important.
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yeah, we've been going out for like 3 weeks. i know she had her last BF for about a year and they broke up cuz he was an asshole and would never pay for anything and was just a dick in general. but i don't really need to know more
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I don't know I slept with my last girl friend and I didn't use a condom and now I have a big fear oh having aids... It sucks so much.
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My gf told me all the dudes she hooked up with when she was a freshman/sophmore (HS) at all these parties, they where nothing more than hooking up kising as far as i know but it still makes me uncomfortable thinking about it months after she told me. Id rather of not known but theres nothing i can do about it now besides try my best to not think about it.
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thats exactly why i don't want to know
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true. hearing what girls have done is such a turnoff
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yeah. man...... touchey subject...
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six dirty dicks in a row...
she sucked sicky dirty dicks in a row...
six dirty dciks in a row...
she once six dirty dirty dicks in a row...
oh yea and your fathers dead, sorry kids.
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Yeah dude, typing that up brought that terrible feeling in my chest that i felt after she first told me. It really shouldn't be that big of a deal but i have a hard time letting it go.
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yeah, cuz at one point she told me that she was the drunken hook up. like she was drunk and some guy hooked up with her cuz she didn't realize what was going on and i know exactly how you feel
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I don't know why you would want to know... and if she wants to talk about it, I'd see that as a sign of WAPCE.
Knowing isn't going to make any difference to the way she is now, so why care?
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its def good to know before you start yo do stuff with her cause you don't want an std. Even if you don't have sex it will prevent you from getting genital warts/herpes on you face. But until you progress to that level don't worry about it.
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Ahahah. Clearks is the greatest movie ever made.
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yeah, except she already knows about mine. the same friend who i'm debating over this was like "oh yea, paul has never even kissed a girl before" and she was like "awww, thats so cute"
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thats harsh mang, yea fuck her past activities... just fuck her as fast as you can.
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haha, yeah, i know. im assuming thats she not a virgin cuz she had her last bf for so long so we'll see how it all goes
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i hate to tell you but you cant get GENITAL warts/herpes on your face...if genital it wouldnt be on your face brah
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why would you be worierd about getting aids wouldent you be more worried about getting her pregnant bings you ddient wear a candom dummy why not
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dude i wouldn't want to know, i never ask a girl about her past sexual activities/bf's etc, and if they offer i just say i don't really care or want to know. one girl i started dating told me she was raped twice, that was fucking awkward.
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man you guys are like 6 graders who the fuck cares if she fucked other guys shit happens when you over 14 years old why would it be a turn off if your gf said she wasnt a vergin and stuff thats pathetic
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its not taht big of a deal i mean unless she is like the school whore i dont care too much i mean its highschool people fuck.....
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#1 Your friend needs to stop acting like a 13 year old girl.
#2 If he doesn't... you need to find some more mature friends. Dudes are supposed to help each other out. I hate when bitch-ass dudes go behind other guy's backs and talk to girls about them. So what if you've never kissed a girl before. Trust me she'll think it's much cuter to learn that intimately from you, rather than your little friend who's probably trying to cock-block you, cause he wants on this girl too.
#3 Who the fuck cares.
From the sounds of it, you guys are younger, probably going to some white, upper-middle class, suburbian highschool. The chance of you getting an STD are EXTREMELY low. Most girls that young have actually had vaginal sex with 0-2 different guys. And they were probably so fucking nervous at the time, they triple bagged it and pulled out. And making out and oral sex has an extremely low probability of STD transmission because saliva is not a good medium for a lot of viruses to reside in, let alone transfer to someone else. The virus has to pass through many membranes to be taken into the blood stream.
Given the situation, you have nothing to worry about as far as STD's go.
I would only be concerned if she's the type of girl that likes to hop in the car with her girlfriends and take drives to the local college campus on weekends, get drunk and stay over "her girlfriend's close guy friend's appartmnet".
Just use your judgeement dude.
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I agree with you on all your points.
however we are not some stupid suburbanities, i live in SF. but yes, we do go to some upper middle class high school, but no it is not all white. and she goes to some big catholic school
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Oh sorry i also forgot...
And trust me you don't really wanna know for your own sanity. I found out this girl i was dating fucked/sucked this other guy i really hated. It really wasn't the same after that. As much as I liked her, I just couldn't look at her the same way. They you get these really disturbing images in your head.
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just get mad trashed with her, and all your problems will be solved.
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nah dude i was never implying you were stupid. I made a generalization for statistical purposes. I'm just saying that STD aren't something you should even consider. Just wrap it up, so she doesn't get pregnant, and thats it.
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I like the part about white upper class suburban highschool. I guess I fit into that catagory there seeing as one of the students dads drives a fucking Maserati. Okay my point being: so many of the girls have been fucked already. I dunno if its just my school but its really sad. Esspecally when your a victim of being cheated on with those standards. I dunno. Just watch out for that one guy who fucks everyone and make sure he's not near your girl
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yeah, thats what i'm afraid of finding otu
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triple bagging it is the worst thing you can do dude they just rip sooooo much easier from the friction on each other so that would give her a better chance of having STD's
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Oh god don't tell me the slash is coming to Newschoolers (see op).
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