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A Break with my girlfriend
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ok this is kind of weird but I have been with my girlfriend since September, and she just had finals so for the past month she has been really busy with finals, so I didnt really get to see her much.
after her last final I spent the night with her and triedd to have sex with her and she was really confusing. she said that we should have a break from each other. then about 10 minutes later she asked me if I wanted to have sex to which I answered yes and then she just threw it back in my face saying that she was just an object to me and that I didnt love her and alot of mean things undermining all the love I have for her.
yesterday she asked me to come over to help her clean her place, I agreed and made shure she remembered we were on a break. so I go over to her place, clean her kitchen while she cleaned her room,
after that she tried to have sex with me and I refused (not because I didnt want too, I wanted too more than anything) but because I though it was better if we didnt. she said she really wanted to have sex with me but I kept on telling her no (I went down on her to make her feel better.)
so now she is back on the break thing and she is going up to Tahoe for the rest of the month for X-mas and new years.
would I be a horrible person if I went to parties and met someone else while she was gone?
its the second time shes done this and it just seems like everytime the relationship is rolling along fine she pulls the E-brake its really frustrating. especially when all I want to do is make her happy.
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you should have fucker her right there
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So, you said its the second time she's done this to you...maybe its time to move on.
Breaks are the beginning of the end most of the time. It might end up working but it wont last.
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why dont you call her and ask her about it and make sure you are on a real break so that if you do go to that stuff you have an exuse
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if you want to make it work and get through the break i would say dont fool around with girls while shes gone regardless of what she says, this will prove to her you really do care and get her something dope for christmas
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I dont plan on fooling around and getting back with her if I found someone else I would be moving on.
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ah well talk to her more if you can. try to break the shell (she's probably holding something in) and get some communication going, because usually that can help. But if she is looking for a break after only like 2-2½ months of going out, then it sounds sketchy on her end of things, and it would probably only escalate as time went on. So perhaps it wouldn't be the worst thing to move on, especially if communication doesn't really resolve anything.
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And not only is this the second time, its the second time in 3 months. It doesn't sound like she is really committed to things. If you found someone else I would say its time to move on.
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Shoulda done here then broke up with her.
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i wouldnt mess around too much, if she does it again make sure to ask her if you are just an object to her, turn the tables
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jea
this man's got it right
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i would fuck other chicks when shes gone and if she finds out play dumb and be like sorry i was so drunk that night i dont remember much ha
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a break means you can fuck whoever you want. if you go into a relation, then just too bad
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you said no to sex? are you mad?
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sooooo, she is going up to Tahoe ehhh????, not to be a dick or anything, but is she hot???
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I felt so warm and fuzzy when you said at the end, "I just want to make her happy". Clearly you like this girl a lot so don't go fucking around. Wait till she gets back and just explain your whole situation and tell her how much you like her.
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put this in the ladies men cult and u'll get more help
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second "break" since september... sounds like she's mad confused just do your own thing and if she cant figure her shit out that's tough for her you shouldn't have to put your life on hold.
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shes fucking with you, forget her
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YO GOLD! if she cheats on you with him, then you can like bitch her out n shit.
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go back to fucking that woman whose husband is in jail.
Actually i know he is out but thats still my advice.
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head butt that bitch in the baby maker and get out of there
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fuck her. let her do the chasing, if u keep acting like her dormat things are only gonna get worse
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Give her an ultimatum. Breaks are whack. Tell her how you feel about her straight up and then tell her its either you're together or your done. Don't let her play the break card.
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Should have fuckd her. Then went to some parties and fucked other girls.
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I was with my girlfriend for close to 4 years and she did that. Pissed me off.
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we will never understand women and the crazy things they do and say...
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