Women... Can't live with em', can't cut their throat and watch em bleed slowly...

tell her youve fallen for some chick, maybe shell get jealous and be like aaahhhh i want you in my rectum

FTB, fuck tha bitch,
didnt some famous dude, wrote some poems or some shit, say 'tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all'


Its Lord Tennyson by the way, "In Memoriam," 1850, line 27,

Yeah thats all my money at university well spent, the ability to quote dead victorian poets, and yet still have no foreseeable job future, and i got burned by a girl this week to so im also all pissy (plus i might be drunk, thus that much more introspective)

I'm really sorry bro, i just went through a very similar situation, but she left me for her ex because she all of sudden had feelings for him again. Your best bet is to find a punching bag, and beat the shit out of it. That or find the new kid, and do the same to him. That or you could just think of how much better you are then her for not pulling any of those crazy mind bobbles- hit the gym every day, and try and build yourself into something great; I mean mentally as well. Don't let her break you down, I know that sounds ridiculous but just think of yourself as a walking giant, a veritable King and you will pull through it all.

this is a journey you must make on your own young skywalker.

ah i just got back from a road trip with friends and thought i should add a little clarity and an update. first off i absolutely take back what i said about protecting your women, i did not mean it like that. im the least controling guy i know and i think thats the only way to be. if you truely love and trust someone i believe you have to show them by believeing in them and laying your heart on the line. you will be much better for it because you will really be able to feel the love. but when you do this and you get your heart broken it will hurt like nothing you can imagin..believe me i know! that being said, i think it will be a long time before i can put myself so trustingly into another person again. as for the love thing i think peteybugs hit the nail on the head. i know she loved me, and yes the novelty had warn off but after that is when you truely build a bond, which we had.. or so i thought. and no i cant be mad at her for her feelings ive learned they are a powerful thing. the only thing i am a bit frusterated with is how quickly she is moving with her new flame. which brings me to my update........ so this weekend i went on a roadtrip to st johns(where she is going to school, im on the other side of the province at home on a workterm)to look for an appartment for the upcoming summer school term and to drink some sorrows away. well friday when i got in we all went to visit a buddy in the same apartment building as my ex. as unlucky as it was when we left she and her room mate came out behind us and got into a friends jeep. it was very awkward and nobody really acknoledged eachother. so yeah that sucked but i figured i may see her the weekend.. as it turns out i saw more of her than i cared to durring the weekend. so yeah after that me and my friends all splurged and went out for a $50 steak dinner. after that we all got drunk, reminissed and went downtown. as it happens the first bar i went into, my ex and her gf's showed up at about 5 min after me. there was no avoiding her so i went over and talked to her. we had a conversation for a while and it was the first time i had really seen her since we had split up.she told me how stuff was going but suggested i not go downtown the next night as she was going to be out with her new man and his friends. i said well that was fine but i just had to go out, that was what i came in for. but i guess we still had love in our eyes and she actually started to cry. she admitted that it was the first time she had cried in the last week. i told her not to, she did this to be happy, not sad. so anyway we talked for 20min and i said goodbye. the next day would not be so good... after appartment hunting for the better half of a day we went to a party with friends and proceeded to get drunk.. after that we headed downtown again. when we arrived the first bar we headed to was the one from the night before. i was leading the way through the crowd when i got a real shock. i saw her at the bar into her new guy. they were making out and looking quite happy. i couldnt take it. it put everything together and made it far too real. i had what can only be described as a bad panic attack. i than ran out of the bar, unnoticed by my ex or her bf. i was chased by a few friends, one of which eventually caught me. than i had a breakdown, i was sooo mad and hurt. i freeked out and started kicking a wall and than punching it. this would later proove to be a bad idea as i sit here typing with my left hand. my right hand is broken. i tried to go back into the bar but again had a feeling of panic and had to leave. i ran to another bar, bought a beer and called some friends. they all came over except for one who determined to stay and punch buddy in the face. he was soon talked out of it though and im glad. i dont think a fight wouild have helped anyone here. so the rest of the night was pretty uneventful and we left for home the next morning. the weekend was pretty awefull but it was filled with highs and lows... when i saw her with him that was a new low for me. i was devistated. however this bought about some positive for me. i realized that this was truely the end and started the end of my fantasys of us being together again. i guess from here its all uphill. i know however that ill only be truely happy in the long run in 2 situations. either we refind another and start over whether that be 1 2 5 or 10 years down the road, or i find someone who i fall so hard for that i would literally be able to go on a double date with my ex and her bf and feel nothing but happy for her. untill than though i am only 20 so i dont plan on that for a while. right now im just gonna take things as they come like i always have. i never planned on setelling down at 20 by any means but i guess when you find someone and you know its right, it doesnt matter what age you are. the other thing i realized is how important friends are. they make getting through thi type of thing possible

damn that killed like an hour of work!

damn.

i got cheated on by my gf that i had been with for 6 months, i was quite upset for a while. then after a month i realized she is kinda fat and now i am hooking up with much hotter women and i dont have to worry about a gf. so long story short it was for the best.

that's really, really shitty man. my condolences. here are my thoughts:

1. although a fight wouldnt help things, that guy NEEDS to be beaten to a bloody pulp for not being mature enough to find a single lady, and breaking up your relationship. even though he has feelings for her, she was in a relationship and he needed to accept/respect that. that is not cool whatsoever, and if i were you i'd kick his ass...severely. he needs to learn a fucking lesson.

2. i'm sure you had a meaningful relationship, but like you said, ur only 20, you've got years upon years to find someone else. i think you were probably "young and inlove", you just need time to get over it, but you will.


dude, seriously kick his ass. its the whole principle respecting other peoples' relationships.

yea, dont let it get you too down, get back out there

hahahahaha
well played

terrrrrrrible. but yet still so funny.

girls are pretty messed up guy, i would know, cuz i do have boobs. what ur ex did was rrly untasteful though...and i am srry that u had to go trough that. it'll take time...

yeah dude thats understandable, thats a huge change and having it hit liek that expecially when drunk would hurt. I had the same thing at your age well, she fucked some guy in mexico i think ( made out for sure , probably sucked him off) andyways and it sucked ass hurt super bad but i got over it, and your in school dude there are sooo many bueatifull girls in college... hundreds of millions i swear so you will fall hard for some baller shralper girl(thats what i did) and forget all about it. Oh and a good way to get back at her, like call her in 2 weeks and ask her for her sisters phone number because you want to beat those, that will mess her up and then get over it and pown on some new chick.

1. he might not have known, bitches are evil like that.

2. i have friendsthat are 23 who are married and have children and happy lives together (started at 19) so its not just fuck around time for some people.

sorry man. But that sounds like a good plot for a movie.

lets see em.

yes lets

and as for your issues man.
i gotta say, i've had my heartbroken just as bad as that...and quite honestly...everytime it has happened to me i've thought "fuck i've never felt so low" but i have and i probably will again before i find the person i will be with forever. getting through that shit is part of life and even months down the road you can be sad about it every now and then. but your attitude right now is key, how positive you are, your perspective, that's what keeps you in the game. it's aight to be vulnerable at times, because vulnerability too has its strengths.

You have a rough year ahead getting over her, but the faster you move on to someone else and keep your head up the better it will be.

My suggestion... fuck her best friend. That would be the sweetest, and some what immature, revenge.

Relationships suck though, people seem trustworthy but it's so easy to be unreliable with emotions and feelings.


fuck girls..

You have obviously never been to UT. Everyone gets married before 23 here, well all the Mormans at least. I agree though 25 or so is a better time to take the plunge.

Not to say that she is a flake... but this is some flakey ass behavior. Think if she does this twenty years down the road and leaves you, divorce, half your money down the tube (not that money is that important but having your financial security blown for the next decade because she found a new horse to ride isn't too good) Feel the situation out slowly and if it seems to be in her personality run like all hell. Love may be strong... but i believe stupidity in relationships is even stronger

MAKE HER JEALOUS...its the only way. she needs to see you hangin with another girl. ive seen it in so many movies and it always works out in the end. HOLLYWOOD DOESNT LIE!!

fuck my post was too late...well i would say shoot em up shoot em up

1. either way, once the guy found out she already had a bf, he should have backed out out of respect for the relationship.

2. its fuck around time for me!, also do you know what the divorce rate is of couples who marry that young? its extremely high. go figure.

yeah but that doesnt mean everyone^ and nah dude i doubt you would leave some girl who you were stoked on because of some other dude unless you realized she is probably gonna do the same thing again but to you this time. besides its your fuck around time if your getting ass from her you wouldnt give a shit how she came into your fuck zone. i agree and disagree

^im not sayin fuck around time is gettin ass from every girl i can find, just that i dont need to settle down at my ripe age. thats just my opinion, and if ur friends are happy starting families earlier thats awesome cause that's what they want.

for sure

Tell her if she really loves you to shut the fuck up and staple her vagina shut... until you come back.

yeah so i guess i got some closure tonight. after i saw them making out i kinda hit a wall (literally haha)but it helped me move to the next stage. im hurting more now but im getting over the coping mechanism of believeing she will come back. i called her tonight for like an hour to get some closure. its hard to be mad at her because she just feels so guenuinely happy now. and some of the bad stuff about us is comming out now that i wish we could have worked on before. my own fault i guess. but yeah now im moving on to depression and sorro. should be fun times....

Skip all it and just turn gay.
Good luck with that man.

damn, that really does suck, id give her another chance if that her choice and if u rele love her

door number three bro do it cleen tho dont wanna get caught

believe me i would have. i basically begged. shes happy now and were done. it hurts like hell but its reality

the guy who advised you to put all your energy into improving yourself is dead right. whatever it may be, whether its hitting the gym all the time, reading, creative stuff... whatever. just do something that doesnt have anything to do with her.

next, never underestimated the power of jealousy. im serious as a train wreck on christmas on this one. it works like a charm. give it some time, work on improving yourself in whatever way you like, then like some other guy said, hook up with one of her friends/sister.or any girl really. just make sure she knows about it. then youll be the one in the drivers seat.

they treat me so wrong on so many levels.. i say try a little more to keep with her if you love her, if she is still "confused" after a short amount of time.. try to leave her.

Confused us a good reason to fuck somone else,, and its bullshit. Im over that kinda stuff, if my girl was ever confused then its her loss and im out. AKA im not leaniant at all when it comes to that, if she kisses somone else, im out. She wouldnt do that though, she is down to earth enough to realize what that stuff would mean.

no man, shes not confused anymore. she knows now that she made the right decision and i think thats as hard as anything. but im gonna start working out more and ride bike alot this summer and try to get over her.