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Should i tell the folks?

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Spritz
Posts: 1162 - Karma: 12
So last night was st. patricks day, and of course the only right thing to do if you're irish is to drink. well my band played a show at a buddy's party and then we all chilled and drank. but of course the cops show up and issue roughly 30 consumption/possesion tickets, me included. now i'm 18 so i'm considered an adult and don't need my parents to be present at my court hearing, so i dont have to tell them anything. i don't know though if i should just go ahead and tell them what happened and face it, or keep it quiet and hope court goes good and i get off free. i need some help..
Mar 18 2006 1:46PM
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1080chubs
Posts: 1001 - Karma: 28
the more "responsible" thing would be to tell them, that way if something does go down they can be there to help you out, ect. plus if they found out afterwards, ohh shit they'd be pissed.
Mar 18 2006 1:51PM
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n-o
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just tell them ..theyll be happy that you were honest
Mar 18 2006 1:51PM
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Calb3rt
Posts: 6005 - Karma: 2,203
i would tell them. i would tell them that i started my first beer when the cops came and that it was st.patty's day so it was legit cause you are irish. i'd tell them a modified dulled down version of what happened
Mar 18 2006 1:51PM
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PimpDaddySkier
Posts: 4221 - Karma: 20
no dont be stupid, dont tell em at all, you wont even get in trouble, mayeb besides a small fine, if you dont wanna lose their trust then dont tell em, would they even care though? i mean you are 18
Mar 18 2006 1:54PM
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Spritz
Posts: 1162 - Karma: 12
they would definately care, but i've never been in this type of situation really with them so i don't know how it will all unfold. but i think that if i didnt tell them now and shit goes down later, then i'd be fucked
Mar 18 2006 1:55PM
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Skipig25
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good call brilliant. no actually, if you don't want to lose their trust, DO tell them.
Mar 18 2006 1:55PM
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Xave
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It depends.... if you tell them they'll probably be pissed, but if they find out by themselves they'll be more pissed...
Idk if it's a risk to take or not..

but I think you'll lose their trust in both ways, tho I think if you tell them , it'll be not as worse as if they find out
Mar 18 2006 2:23PM
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Deafboy
Posts: 643 - Karma: 52
it depends on what your parents are like...

if theyre those kinds that just get pissed at everything, well then i wouldnt.

but if they're helpful and supportive of you, then go for it.
Mar 18 2006 2:34PM
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SmoKinSkier
Posts: 5501 - Karma: 20
You should tell them they will find out somehow...but if u live at home and u decide not to tell them make sure you check the mail for the next week... alot of places will send notification through the mail!!
Mar 18 2006 2:44PM
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Tinga
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cant you just pay the fine and not go to court? or do you have to with this kind of ticket?
Mar 18 2006 2:53PM
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St.Steezy
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just ask them (if you do) if they would still get mad at you, if you got drunk in Canada in one of the provinces where it is legal to to drink at 18.
Mar 18 2006 3:07PM
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C-Burg
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tell them b/c more than likely you will get something in the mail and they will find out anyway
Mar 18 2006 3:15PM
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scratchskier170
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ya if you dont tell them and they find out afterwards youre fucked. if your honest and tell them theylle be happy that you told the truth
Mar 18 2006 3:21PM
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Forum*
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Tell them, they'll find out eventually, and then your fucked.
Mar 18 2006 4:22PM
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sherpasrock
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my parents would be PISSED no doubt if i told them something like that, but they would rather have me tell them then a court or something, or have me tell them after the fact of the court date.
Mar 18 2006 4:28PM
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caleBCaleb
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for drinking on st patricks day?? i doubt theyd be too mad
Mar 18 2006 4:31PM
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Spritz
Posts: 1162 - Karma: 12
no they decide the fine in court and any other things like community service and shit
Mar 18 2006 4:34PM
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pommery
Posts: 853 - Karma: 185
if you tell them now they'll be angry but they'll get over it, but if they somehow find out later they'll be way more pissed, because on top of getting caught you lied to them.
Mar 19 2006 12:33AM
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bobbaganouche
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I say, if your not old enough to drink, then you are not an adult.
Mar 19 2006 12:40AM
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jiblove
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you should tell them but play it down completely, just say to them that you want to do the "responsible thing" and be honest i had a similar situation and i didnt tell them, and they were fucking pissed
so just go for it
your 18, tell them it was the first time you drank or something
Mar 19 2006 1:03AM
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sniper_6
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the attitude you seem to have about the situation, pretty nonchalant about getting the ticket, makes me feel like your parents are at least aware of the fact that you drink/ have drank before. i would just tell them, yes they will be pissed but itll be better in the end.
Mar 19 2006 1:10AM
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*Four*Zero*Six*
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u have to bring your parents with u so the judge feels sorry to do anything but give u a slap on the wrist.believe me ive seen it happen many of times in court.so ya just tell them say your sorry and ask them to go with u.
Mar 19 2006 5:26AM
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Thorvildsen
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WTF!?!?! YOU ARE GOING TO COURT BECAUSE YOU DRANK ALCOHOL?
Mar 19 2006 1:23PM
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yellav
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just tell them. my parents fully know that i smoke and drink and have no problem with it because im responsible about it. building trust with the rents is what its all about its always better in the end just to be straight out with it to them.
Mar 19 2006 1:34PM
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Petecanski
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whats the worst that could happen?
Mar 19 2006 1:49PM
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Spritz
Posts: 1162 - Karma: 12
well i told my mom and she was pissed at first but it worked out alright and now she knows i drink and whatnot but im not dumb about it, so i guess it worked out for the best, but i still have to go to court.... dammit.
Mar 19 2006 2:01PM
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J.Bass
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i was in this situation not too long ago except with weed. i told them, they were on my case for a couple weeks but it blew over and everythings cool now
Mar 19 2006 2:10PM
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radskier
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seriously?? you have to go to court for being caught drinking alcohol? that sucks. it would never happen here
Mar 19 2006 2:36PM
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PimpDaddySkier
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OMG thanks for that, why dont you give him some real advice
Mar 19 2006 2:48PM
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radskier
Posts: 685 - Karma: 16
dude chill, it seems to me that he's already done the right thing by telling his parents and hopefully everything turns out good in court. I just think it's ridiculous that the cops even bother sending kids to court for drinking
Mar 19 2006 2:56PM
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Spritz
Posts: 1162 - Karma: 12
yea it was definately bullshit that they took the time to spend about an hour or so writing 30+ tickets to us
Mar 19 2006 3:18PM
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PimpDaddySkier
Posts: 4221 - Karma: 20
well duh its retarded but your not doing him any good by telling us your friggen lifestory
Mar 19 2006 3:25PM
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dandoy
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NO! You should never tell them anything. Deny, deny, deny unless they have perfect evidence that you done the deed. It's your only chance of survival.
Mar 19 2006 3:37PM
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1440ski
Posts: 2049 - Karma: 1,110
My parents are the same as yours
Mar 19 2006 3:38PM
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Petey.
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think what the parents will say if u dont tell them and it doesnt go well, tough decision though
Mar 19 2006 3:41PM
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Ahmets_Brother
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tell them it was either death or drink....and tell them you dont have any idea why you woulda died but it was just meant to be
Mar 19 2006 3:59PM
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rockymountainmilitia
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The 21 year old drinking age is boggles my mind. whats the point in having people wait till they are 21 to drink. My buddy moved down to Arizona state from Calgary and got a drinking ticket when he was 20. they were gonna kick him out of school because the RA found beers and a bottle of jack in his room. That shit is crazy. I suggest you fess up. your parents are not going to be pissed if you down play it to just a couple beers.
Mar 19 2006 4:25PM
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Kevo
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HERE IS THE BIGGER ISSUE HERE- You were issued a ticket for being a MINOR in possesion of alcohol, but you will be tried as an ADULT
Mar 19 2006 4:54PM
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Capt.Flannel
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Tell them dude. I tell my parents everything, like last week I had a couple drinks but had a concussion (doctor at the ER said it was stupid) but I told my dad before hand that I did it and it was stupid so when the doctor asked, my dad wasn't upset (Im 18). It all works out if you're honest.
Mar 19 2006 5:30PM
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chapz
Posts: 10182 - Karma: 66
tell them, they will appreciate your honesty
Mar 19 2006 6:09PM
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pommery
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hmm indeed.
Mar 19 2006 7:27PM
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BigJew
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That's why I like Canada, the legal drinking age is 18 (in alberta).
Mar 19 2006 7:49PM
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TylerS
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Tell em they wont care too much
Mar 19 2006 7:49PM
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manwiththemetalleg
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You said it perfect...i tried to hide a court appeance for drink driving from my parents. Said i couldn't afford to run a car no more so thats why i'd no longer be driving. Two week after court, when i thought everything was fine, my gran spotted it in the local newspapers 'court report'.

Anyway, they were not happy.
Mar 19 2006 8:05PM
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shagalabagala
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naw, man you've gotta go into court and tell the judge that you're an orphan and your parents died in a freak gasoline fight accident
that'll get their sympathy
Mar 19 2006 8:44PM
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--Binger--
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just tell them u didnt drink and the cops considered u guilty by association
Mar 19 2006 8:46PM
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pwallstreet
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so i already had something like that happen.

when you wrote down you info they'll mail you a thing and so will an atourney bc they always give out more info to lawyers for more money. So your gonna get something in the mail. becareful you parents dont see that and youll be in the clear

i told mine after they found out and both were chill with it. id tell them and say you could use some help clearing it out!! you dont want that shit on your record- i hierd an attourny and all is good now!!

good luck pal, pm if you want some more addvice in the sito
Mar 19 2006 8:50PM
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sexy_skier_babii
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just tell them, they may be mad, but you'll feel better knowing they know.
Mar 19 2006 8:52PM
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soulskier
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they probably already know and are waiting for you to confess
Mar 19 2006 9:11PM
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SteezePatrol
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I was gonna just scroll through and say...tell your parents that your gay, teehee

but then Kevo's big large bold printing caughgt my eye.

sex sells
Mar 19 2006 10:53PM
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