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MY FRIEND HAS CANCER AT 19??? WHAT THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?
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So a few days ago I got some of the worst news I've gotten in my entire life. Jackie, one of my best friends from high school, has ovarian cancer.(Oh, and it was the same day I got the news that my favorite high school teacher died...of cancer) In high school I had a really close knit group of friends in high school of about 14 guys and girls- we hung out pretty much everyday for 3 years, and she was one of the group. So Jackie is 19. I know it seems like anybody would say this about a friend who has cancer, but seriously, she is the nicest, sweetest girl in the world. It's too early to know the longterm prognosis, but I really really hope she will be ok because she would be the best mom in the world, and ovarian cancer could posibly make it impossible for her to have kids. I haven't talked to her about it yet because my friends and I decided not to bombard her with phone calls that would force her to talk about it- she just found out. What am I supposed to do about this? I think i will call her in the next week (I can't go see her, she now lives about 900 miles away), but any prayers would really be appreciated.
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i'll send some good vibes her way
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sorry to hear that, best wishes.
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Just pretty much be there for her if she wants to talk about it, otherwise don't even mention it. Just be nice.
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Werd. Here is to hoping she'll make it okay. Best wishes.
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That really sucks man, hope she'll be alright
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Sorry bro...my best goes out to her.
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Nothing but love Jackie, get better babe!
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my best man. hope shes ok.
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Too young, I feel really sorry. I hope everything works out.
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damn that sucks. my cousins friend had cancer three times by the time she was 15, and shes doin great, so hopefully eveyrthing works out and i wish you the best of luck and everything.
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Shit, I'm really sorry to hear about this, a friend of mine went through the same thing with his best friend getting cancer... just be there for her as much as you can, and don't waste time dwelling on sad things. that's really all i can say i guess. best of wishes to her
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that sucks. i hope everything works out for her and sorry to hear about your teacher. she'll be in my prayers.
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things happen man. i'm really sorry to hear that, i'll keep jackie in my prayers. just keep her hopes high, visit her and make her happy, high hopes and spirit can really do remarkable things for illness. again, i'm sorry to hear it bud.
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i am really sorry to hear this. You need to call her right now and tell her that you are supporting her and praying for her and if there is anything you can do to let you know. Dont wait a week because she could be thinking that her friends dont even care and that could just make things worse for her. thats just how i would handle it, but i am not in the situation. I will be praying for her.
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Ah, that's so young. Hopefully it turns out all good
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it's a real shitty situation, but i think that even if she can't have her own kids, atleast her cancer should be easy to take care of and she can still be a mother with out having to have kids.
best of luck to her.
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thats nevr good to hear. good luck.
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wow that's terrible i hope everything works out. let us know how she's doing.
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last year my 16years old friend had cerebellum cancer, after mounts of chemotherapy he's 100% recovered. So keep praying and best wishes to your friend..i know what you are passing thru
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Cancer doesn't always mean death. You need to be strong, keep your hopes up and pray for her every day. Besides, ovaries can be removed, last time I checked.
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shit that sux. she will be in my prayers
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just stay positive and hope for the best man, thats all you really can do. the thing with cancer is its partially mental. there are studies that show is she KNOWS that she will get better, then that helps her chances ALOT.
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i fucked a girl for like 6 months that had beat ovarian cancer. she had a hysterectomy, and ended up fine aside from the ability to have kids. your friend has great chances being as young as she is.
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One of my really good friends died last year because of complications from Leukemia at the age of 16. The most you can do is be at her side, or at the very least let her know she has a lot of support behind her. Her treatments are going to be very, VERY hard on her, and you need to make sure your behind her.
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ya, so did my friend. all you can do is think positive and help them have a good time.
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my best friend was diagnosed a few years ago. the one thing he said when everything was over was that he was glad at the people who weren't fake. the people who still loved him of course, but had arguments or disagreements anyways and treated him like they normally would've. Just be supportive and be her friend.
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Call her man and just pray for her... If you could get enough money together, suprise her with a visit.
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that sucks hardcore... you never realize how much it hurts til it happens... just give her a shout sometime in the near future, guaranteed she will bring it up or something in that ballpark and if she does then just go with it and be there... good luck to you and especialy to jackie
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wow man.. i cant imagine what your going through.. i hope everything works out
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call her up, let her know you care, and ill send my thoughts
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fuck you you fucking ass hole. you have no fucking idea about what you are talking about. i hope karma slams you in the face in the form of a large bus, and then you get caught in the undercarriage and get dragged around for miles unbeknownst to the driver as your body slowly desintegrates on the roadway.
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woah, best of luck for youe friend
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get in her will.
actually cancer is really not as bad as everyone makes it. I know a girl who is about 20-21 and she has had cancer since she was 10, went on a 60+ mile hike with me this last summer and still has all of her hair.
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are you saying you want me to die?
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man that really sux my grandma died of the same cancer three years ago. wishing ur friend all the best she is way to young to have to deal wid this stuff
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just be there for her 100%. if she calls you at 3 in the morning because she wants someone to talk to, talk to her for as long as she wants
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just totally support her in anyway you can
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^ ya just support her thats all u can do realy
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I kind of expected somebody to be an asshole about this. I would respond with some pointless e-rage, but it won't make anything better. Your profile listed Boulder as one of your homes. I live at 961 16th Street on the corner of 16th and Broadway across from the UMC. Stop by sometime and I'll show you what karma can do.
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Be her friend like there is nothing different. I had a friend who had juviline lukemia and he hated when everyone was all weird around him. So the best thing to do is be the friend you always were.
I know you're going to have to talk about it sooner or later. Once you both come to terms with the situation the less okward it will be.
You can live without ovaries. She wont have a period ever again (perhaps a good thing hahaha) or be able to produce estrogen or progesterone, but you can get injections for that. So be hopeful.
Wish your friend my best. I hope everything works out fine.
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