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ConceptPro153
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hi. im 17 years old. I have been dating my gf for about 7 months now and ive definitally fallen for her. Were the typical high school couple that gets in fights, some bigger than others and mostly her getting mad at me over little shit. For the past couple weeks everything has been really great, the best it ever has been. Last saturday was one of our best nights together. Thursday night i was talking to my bro about our weekends and i kinda slipped up and told him what my gf and I had done that sat. night. So today at lunch my friend hints at my gf with some remark that he knows what went down. Tonight was the typical night (i had just gotten my new 4frnts mounted so i was especially happy) and i called her after dinner. About a half an hour into our conversation she asks if i told my friend about what happend. Knowing that lying about it was only going to make it worse, I told her that yes i did and that i was really sorry and it would never happen again. So now, she is super pissed. I feel so shitty its rediculous. I have this like twist in my stomache that wont let me eat or sleep. This always happends when we get in fights like this. Its just so shitty also because this weekend was going to be so fun but now it will be awkward and hardly fun filled. My question is...am i being a little bitch about this and letting it bother me way to much? I mean i care alot about this girl and i really do feel bad about what i told my friend. The thing that i want to say to her is, "why cant you just realize that it was a little mistake and just tell me it was an asshole move and to not do it again rather than making me feel like the biggest asshole in the world?" I can understand why she is mad but i mean WTF one person knows and they arnt going to tell anyone else. Just let it be. But i cant say these things to her cause im afraid of the worst but sometimes i think the worst might be a good thing cause eventually it would have to end.
Sorry for the rant i just had to let it out for someone to hear,
thanks
Dec 9 2005 2:38AM
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dandoy
Posts: 5522 - Karma: 13
Seeing as she waited for half an hour to ask you about it, she is just playing femal mind tricks on you.
Dec 9 2005 2:43AM
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TheStamos
Posts: 9311 - Karma: 910
So i think 17 is the worst time in your life( FOR A MALE) to have a serious relationship. College is coming fool, you'll live and you deffinatly dont need to be with someone who is always pissed about stupid shit, i wasted 2 fucking years on a hoe that always did that shit. Fuck bees
Dec 9 2005 2:44AM
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freestyle_kyle
Posts: 2620 - Karma: 164
i hate it when my gf is mad at me, i get that stupid twisted feeling too
Dec 9 2005 2:57AM
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pmills
Posts: 7162 - Karma: 59
no worries dude, just be front with her:

i fucked up; my bad

if she's at the same level you are things will be alright.
Dec 9 2005 3:56AM
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P-JO
Posts: 6853 - Karma: 75
haha, you remind myself of me sooo much. I just got out of an 8 month relationship and probably have felt the same you have, and have argued over some petty shit.

Basically this line works all the time (it doesnt have to be a line either) "I already feel horrible, so anything you say won't make me feel worse" Then usually she'll back down a little and feel sorry. Basically if you want your relationship to be its best you want just be upfront and tell her its really stupid to argue about.

It sounds like you told your friend you banged your gf... and thats not a good move. I mean would you rather continuing getting laid or let all your friends know?
Dec 9 2005 4:29AM
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P-JO
Posts: 6853 - Karma: 75
Oh, and you gotta train yourself to not let this stuff get you too down, because if you feel this bad, what do you think the breakup will be like? I mean don't think about losing her, just think theres worse things.
Dec 9 2005 4:31AM
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freestyler540
Posts: 13083 - Karma: 18,725
you sound like my neibourgh...
Dec 9 2005 7:43AM
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Norred
Posts: 3520 - Karma: 13
dude my gf gets mad at me like this probobly 3 times a day. that's what they do best.
Dec 9 2005 10:58AM
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japanada
Posts: 13784 - Karma: 1,957
yeah good advice.

Chances are she prolly told her best girlfriends what you two did anyways. Just apolojize and make it up to her.
Dec 9 2005 11:22AM
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k2yeags
Posts: 2320 - Karma: 27
dane - long time no see

thats a bummer bro... i have some friends i'm pretty open with about stuff my girlfriend and one of them let some of what i said slip to some other people... it made me feel a little shitty but she didn't really have a problem with it... but then again i have a few friends that i talk to about absolutly everything, but my GF is chill with it. i'd just tell her that you want to be able to talk with other friends or just tell your friends not to talk w/ her about it.

OES is really wierd like that though... pretty much everyone hears everything, but people are chill about it

Peace Bro
Dec 9 2005 2:14PM
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jimmychung
Posts: 6857 - Karma: 25
don't let it get to you. just admit your mistake, tell her you understand why she's mad at you, and tell her you won't do it again. i've been on the exact same page as you, i did the exact same thing and my girlfriend of the time got so mad at me. just try what i mentioned and try not to worry about it.
Dec 9 2005 3:24PM
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delete2
Posts: 1443 - Karma: 13
Man she probley isnt even that mad at you. Seriously women just make shit up to try and get you to feel bad. If you think in your head that you didnt fuck up to bad dont let her convince you that you did. Shes just being a girl man, its in their blood to make all men unhappy.

Oh and i am in a year long relationship and love my girlfriend so much, you just gota learn these things.
Dec 9 2005 4:45PM
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skifiend
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Yes, very good advice. And I wouldn't be telling your friends shit in the future. If you know it will get you in trouble, then don't do it.
Dec 9 2005 4:50PM
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Petey.
Posts: 5736 - Karma: 4,885
yeah...otherwise, she would have told you before that amount of time
Dec 9 2005 4:53PM
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CooksCorner
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ya dude. FUCK bees
Dec 9 2005 4:54PM
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skisebski
Posts: 5970 - Karma: 21
i dont think you can be in love at 17. but hey. thats my opinion.
Dec 9 2005 4:58PM
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Ski_Instructor_Mike
Posts: 6146 - Karma: 73
^ I'd agree man, you'll look back at this and laugh that you thought you were in love.

you're only 17 man, you've got a lot of growin up to do (i'm 21 and I still do too!) Don't worry about it man, and do you honestly believe that it was a REALLY asshole thing to do or are you just an asshole now because she found out?

Don't let some girl ruin your life because you told your brother you fingerbanged her.

And smack your friend for being such a bitch.
Dec 9 2005 5:20PM
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skisebski
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worrrd
Dec 9 2005 5:57PM
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radskier
Posts: 685 - Karma: 16
good advice.

I totally believe that you can be in love when you're 17, just not in the same way as I believe grown ups are. just try to be front with her, and if it all goes to hell there will def be other girls later, even tho it would suck right now.
Dec 9 2005 6:07PM
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pmills
Posts: 7162 - Karma: 59
best thing to do right now would be to go out and spend 15 bucks on some roses,

may seem stupid but it will say you're sorry,
Dec 9 2005 6:35PM
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spin
Posts: 1330 - Karma: 11
im gonna disagree. best thing to do would be to call her up and mention it. be upfront- the fact that your calling about it means you feel bad and know she does too, but that you want to fix it. buying her roses is (in my mind) kinda a scapegoat move, you end up with less money, she ends up with some plants, and nobody is the better for it. talk to her
Dec 9 2005 6:57PM
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Timmy_G
Posts: 3735 - Karma: 15
See you cant be this weak over something like that. You have to let that bitch know you dont have a soft spot for her. You have to let her know she can't beat you at some stupid thing like you telling your riend what you did. YOU DONT THINK SHE TALKED TO HER FRIENDS???!!! she is a FEMALE they talk alooooot. She probably told them what a small wanker you have.
Dec 9 2005 7:09PM
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grubix2
Posts: 2628 - Karma: 25
I was the same way, worrying about shit like this when I was in highschool. I'm not saying you're wrong for feeling weaird about it, cause it's natural. But you just wait until you're in college. It was too hard to keep a relationship like that going. We had to call it off, and it was probably one of the best decisions I've ever made. Looking back on highschool, all I see is this thick, festering cloud of pointless drama. When you get to college you won't want a girlfriend. Freshman girls are HORN-AY.
Dec 9 2005 7:11PM
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deleted000
Posts: 1185 - Karma: 11
If she lets you hit her in the ass then keep her. If not shes a stupid bitch like everyother girl.
Dec 9 2005 7:49PM
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pmills
Posts: 7162 - Karma: 59
if you do it meaningfully, actions speak louder than words, it works.
Dec 9 2005 7:53PM
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delete2
Posts: 1443 - Karma: 13
This guys got it down.
Dec 10 2005 5:15PM
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