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Formal Date

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so theres this girl that i really like, and shes on my cross country team and swim team, so we hangout like every day during practice, and we're pretty tight. and shes really attactive and funny and nice and everything. and so she had been showing an interest in me starting probably 3 or 4 weeks ago... so this week, i asked her to the formal dance, which is like a month away, and she said yes. but ever since then, she has been completely different, and shes kinda been a bitch. can anyone help me figure out whats going on in her head, so i can try to get her to like me again... cuz i really want to hook up with her, but like i dont know shes just been different.
Nov 12 2005 11:08AM
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Sharpy
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girls liek what they cant have, she knows she owns you now, if you ignore her for a bit, she may change. She may also feel awkward now, you guys have a date set up for 4 weeks but she deosn't know how to at around you, are you her friend, boyfriend, whatever, she may just feel weird so she acts hateful. She may also just be going thorugh a rough time. My advice is don't obsess over her or you will totally lose and talk to her as a friend for now and don't push towards it being more. Wait for after the date and if it works after that then dope.
Nov 12 2005 11:22AM
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GotamaBCshredder
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take her out to a movie dude, she is all thinking "whats goin on" hang out w/ her and spend a little time together. The ignoring path would probably but she might not be attached enough to care that much yet
Nov 12 2005 1:21PM
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lanks
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a) go on dates in the meantime, will make things smooth for the formal dance or what have you.

b) be a subtle asshole. don't treat her like a princess. i've heard a rad technique is to, for lack of a better word, 'insult' your girl verry subtly in everyday conversation. this will bring her ego down a couple notches, back to your level, and she won't think she's better than you. think about that one.
Nov 12 2005 1:30PM
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ISkiSwitch
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Yup, he is correct. I went on not talking to this girl and acting like I was the #### for two days, and she completely turned around being cool again. Seriously, it works. Just be near her when you ignore her, it works better and faster. So like, you said you're in afterschool stuff with her and whatnot, just run around near her, and if she tries to talk to you, make your answer short, but not rude, just don't start conversations yourself no matter how hard it hurts. It's key.
Nov 12 2005 1:38PM
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sniper_6
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there is this girl who liked me and we hooked up last weekend and since then she has been kinda bitchy around me. i think im just gonna be a dick for a few days. ill let you know how it goes
Nov 12 2005 3:21PM
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candidefan04
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im not sure if the "being a dick" method works or not but ive never tried it myself so....
Nov 12 2005 3:50PM
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Sharpy
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nice guys finish last, its a proven fact, girls like guys who seem liek they don't need them, its the want what you cant have. If a girl knows she owns you, you're screwed.
Nov 12 2005 4:04PM
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Ski_Unit_19
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alright this is what you do... get a condom filled with cow sperm (its gotta be cow, nothing else will work) and shove it down her throat... works everytime!!
Nov 12 2005 4:15PM
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jenski*
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don't get worked up and worried about her not talkign to her, just when you see her be yourself and just chill as friends, don't let her think you want her that bad, cuz thats a turnoff, just be chill and act as friends for a lil and shell realize if not then ... no idea
Nov 12 2005 4:49PM
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skogenjake
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take her to a movie!
Nov 12 2005 4:52PM
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Sharpy
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take her to the river...
Nov 12 2005 5:02PM
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supervore
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cows dont have sperm...
Nov 12 2005 5:46PM
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Ski_Unit_19
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i guess you dont know how to work them just right!!
Nov 12 2005 6:12PM
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lcc210
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hahahah thats fucking great, brign that bitch down a few nothce.s
Nov 12 2005 6:21PM
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anti_bunk
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wow im surprised how people are actually giving good advice(other than the sperm thing). usually people are like dude quit playing games and ram her in the ass next time you and her ar in the pool or something.
Nov 12 2005 6:23PM
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supervore
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you're thinking of bulls...not cows(they're females, in case you didn't know)
Nov 12 2005 8:04PM
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squibble
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the ignoring/mysterious usually works frequishly well,
Nov 12 2005 8:10PM
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Ski_Unit_19
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jeez get all techy why dont you
Nov 12 2005 8:18PM
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Schmitz
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hhha pendejos
Nov 13 2005 12:12AM
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J.D.
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Step one would be stop worrying about it so damn much...
Nov 13 2005 12:18AM
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dan_brown
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whip your shit out
Nov 13 2005 12:22AM
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Joe.
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I actually tried this. It didn't work for me. From hearing all of these stories, I guess I have a rare case. I really like this girl. I would go out of my way to see her everyday at school. Then one day she ignored me and it pissed me off. I played the "hard to get" thing as Joel described. No worky. Evetually online one time we were talking, I forget what we were talking about, and she goes "Yeah, whatever, we're really not that good of friends anymore." As if I never meant anything to her. Kind of sucked. Possibly going to OAR this upcoming weekend. Any suggestions?
Nov 13 2005 12:25AM
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TheStamos
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Booya!
Nov 13 2005 12:28AM
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duhamelski
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quit being a bunch of pussy footing fags. be a man and slap the bitch into her place
Nov 13 2005 1:00AM
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skichica128
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just be yourself... dont come on too strong because that's a major turnoff.

also make sure you're not acting really immature, because even tho she might have thought you were cool to be friends with, she might start to have doubts about dating you if u act mad immature because she'd b embarassed to admit she's with you.
Nov 13 2005 1:47AM
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010
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i just really dont want her to think that i dont like her anymore, and then have her move on to someone else. cuz i could definately see that happening if i just start ignoring her. like... she could easily get someone thats alot better than i am at handling this exact situation if she wanted to.
Nov 13 2005 10:27PM
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Norred
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Why don't you see if she wants to hang out sometime before then? Don't go to a movie though, do something else where you're able to talk.
Nov 14 2005 3:52PM
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imotion
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so are you on the OC?
Nov 14 2005 4:04PM
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Norred
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me?
Nov 14 2005 4:07PM
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ISkiSwitch
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Get over her then. It's not worth it. Heartbreaks suck. Just stay single and focus on skiing. Hell if you're good enough chicks come to you after you stomp something sweet. Winter's almost here, no distractions needed.
Nov 14 2005 6:33PM
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AFEATHERSTONE
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You should of asked when it came up instead of a month away. something like asking if she wanted to go out to eat after practice could of worked then u guys could talk and hang out for a while some where if it works out.
Nov 14 2005 6:52PM
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Timmy_G
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Yea definitley gotta keep away from them as much as possible when your with them...... I learned that one on my own.
Nov 14 2005 7:07PM
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yeah normally i would have asked her later cuz i procrastinate on everyting... but i did that last year (with a different girl) and asked her like a week beforehand and she was already taken. so i really didnt want that to happen again. and the last few days that i have seen her, i really havent gone out of my way to talk to her, and shes definately getting a little better about not being a bitch. like shes flirting a little now.
Nov 14 2005 8:49PM
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shrEddie
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^NEWSCHOOLERS WINS
Nov 14 2005 9:00PM
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STAUSS
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yeah seriously.
Nov 14 2005 9:08PM
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k2yeags
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or maybe just ask her whats her deal is?
Nov 14 2005 9:19PM
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010
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no but should i like tell her whats up and like tell her how i feel about her and that i really like her? does that actually work? cuz ive never tried. female input would be greatly appreciated on this
Nov 14 2005 10:54PM
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BobYohan
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no and no. sharpy knows whats up, girls like a challenge. unless she is head over heels in love with you (sounds like she isnt) she has to doubt whether she can have you for sure. general disinterest mixed with a few short but flirtatious interactions is the way to go in my experience.
Nov 14 2005 11:03PM
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bdskier
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some girls dig honesty. I am in a situation with a girl who I've been hanging out with for a long time, do lots of stuff together. A month or so ago we went on a date, I could tell she wasn't feeling it, So i came clean. She really liked it, didn't brush me off like I expected. Things are getting better (she's a super slow mover).

But yes, girls can be turned off by coming on too strong. Gotta read her.
Nov 15 2005 1:43AM
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doitbig
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lanks knows whats up, talk some shit once in a while. do it in a joking manner. but pay for her on your dates to. its the right combo of asshole and gentleman.
Nov 15 2005 1:51AM
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girls, what do you think? should i be honest with this girl and just tell her how much i like her? what would you do if you were the girl in this situation and i just told you that i really liked you?
Nov 16 2005 7:59PM
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holyDINOSAURS
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haha NS is the shit.
Nov 16 2005 8:06PM
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