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ryano
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want to go long board? no.
want to go skate? no.
want to go to the desert? no.
want to go rock climbing? no.
want to go downtown? no.
want to go on a hike? no.
want to go film? no.

seriously. all my friends out here are fucking lame as watching mold growing on horse shit. none of them skate. none of them want to try something new. none of them are adventurous. i want to go do stuff, but no one ever will go with. and doing activities such as listed above are not that great of fun by yourself.

seriously. anyone in the same boat?

like. i just got these yesterday. and no one will go with me to climb. ughh

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i got these for a steal too. 25 bucks for evolvs and daescent shoes, near perfect condition. and the chalk bag/chalk. WIN.
Aug 27 2012 6:09PM
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.Jacob
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Neat thread.
Aug 27 2012 6:11PM
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Yeezy
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Totally feel ya. My friends are so god damn lazy. Except they actually do ride and stuff, the answer is always just "No im to tired"
Aug 27 2012 6:16PM
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youngdtay
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Don't worry, I only have like 2 friends in the group that I hang out with, the rest are literally just the biggest tools in the universe. None of the other kids ski, and the only thing they're into is scootering and spending obscene amounts of money on cameras without knowing the first thing about filming/editing, but continue to call themselves filmers anyways.

Aug 27 2012 6:24PM
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Amadeus.
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this whole thread was made to claim this.
Aug 27 2012 6:24PM
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E__
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Haha yep, but I feel for ya, my friends want to do stuff when they're baked like "Oh, let's go skateboard after a couple bowls" and then they get baked and just want to sit around until they pass out and then repeat. Fucking retarded so I'm forced to go skate and film by myself.
Aug 27 2012 6:26PM
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youngdtay
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If you wanna know what I mean by calling themselves filmers without knowing anything about filming/editing, I forgot about this classic gem that this butthole at my school made.

Untitled from Nolan Dersch on Vimeo.

Aug 27 2012 6:30PM
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ryano
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not really. i was planning on just claiming it in the "i bought shit today" thread or whatever its called..

but it all tied in to why i'm ranting about my friends. cuz i got new gear and want to go use it and no one ever wants to do anything active.

AND i'm the only of age person in my friends.. so none of them can go to bars either!!
Aug 27 2012 6:30PM
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Caspaaa
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word haha



my friends at home don't ski freestyle, they don't skate, bike, or really play many sports. we chill a ton though and play xbox/have chill sessions on the front lawn till like 3 am but never a skate sesh or anything which kinda blows.


it'd be sick to have like 2 or 3 close friends who always were up for skating or doing new shit. my brother (who is somewhat into an active/random lifestyle) towed me while on my rollerblades like through town on my bike. random shit like that is so much fun.


hopefully this winter my bros are gonna tow me by car on skis around town..... we'll see how that goes.
Aug 27 2012 6:31PM
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Ricky.
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Vibes bro. lol
Aug 27 2012 6:32PM
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Amadeus.
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haha yeah i totally feel ya i was just joshin
Aug 27 2012 6:33PM
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Troy.
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You got those for $25??? Picked up that same pair at REI a few weeks ago for $80.
Aug 27 2012 6:34PM
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ryano
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hahaha. oh geeze...

and to troy.. yea dude. craigslist FTW. and they fit perfectly.
Aug 27 2012 6:38PM
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Spinoza
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yeah i know, i saw the video














































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Aug 27 2012 6:39PM
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roddy116
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ya i cant get any of my school freinds to go ski with me makes me sad :(
Aug 27 2012 6:43PM
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XtRemE11
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fucking same thing here, it drives me insane, like, how the hell can people be so damn boring, what makes someone want to sit around the house all day when they could be having the greatest time ever? where the fuck does that thinking come from?

none of my friends work much, one guy works like 9-4 5 days a week, the rest work like 3 days a week or not at all, have way more free time than me, but still look for any excuse they can to just pick their buttholes all day instead.
i give them the chance literally every day, and they come up with bullshit excuses that i shut down, like "i gotta move a couch into my room" "well ill come over and move it for you, 30 seconds and its done" then that doesnt work, so they spew out more bullshit, then it gets to the truth "im just tired, i dont feel like doing anything, im just bumming today" in other words, id rather be a mopey little bitch than put in the slightest effort to improve my life.
its like...
Hey, wanna go swimming?
cliff jumping?
wake boarding?
skateboarding?
mountain biking?
movies?
skiing?
build some BC jumps?
offroading?
rally some dirt roads?

none of that sounds fun? laying on the couch sleeping all day beats all that?
we got the next week off, lets drive to some other part of the nation and have an awesome adventure, ill pay all the fucking gas to get your ass off the couch for a fucking couple seconds to make the maneuver to my car, maybe entice you with beer because thats the only thing that gives you any motivation to move. you can dull your mind down to the point where you dont realize your shitty and depressed. i dont care, so long as we can fucking do something.

i dont know what it is, i partly blame bars/drinking, a couple friends have gotten extremely lazy and boring once they discovered they can just go down to a bar and drink themselves stupid so they can get a dull false sense of happiness for a night. its like they dont want to put in the effort it takes to actually go enjoy yourself and have an actual fun time. its easier to fake it.

for the other ones that dont spend every free night at a bar, i dont know what the fuck their excuse is, but they tend to be a little better about doing something every now and then so its not terrible.

sorry for the rant but what the fuck is wrong with some people? how out of my like 8 friends, do none of them enjoy
Aug 27 2012 7:14PM
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rareison
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Same here, all my friends do is play hockey and do redneck ass shit
Aug 27 2012 7:16PM
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HamFaceGirl
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Get some new friends/ start doing more boring things
Aug 27 2012 7:18PM
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theabortionator
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I hear you man. I just started doing shit myself. I'll find people along the way. Driving from northeast ny to michigan>indiana>illionois and back to ny alone(at least it's looking like it)

I wouldn't do anything fun if I relied on my friends. If I had more cool friends where I was living/currently back at for the moment, I would be able to do a lot more stuff.


When I was in Illinois this spring, friends didn't want to go to arkansas because they pussied out last minute. Said alright, fuck it, see you in a few weeks. Found a way there, found a way to tennessee, and made it back to meet them in philly.



I know it sucks, but fuck em, just do it on your own. You'll meet a lot of people out there. Sure it won't be all your friends from directly around you, but you'll still have a fuck ton of friends out there.

It's also harder to get the motivation to do stuff. It's not like we all just jump in the car at the same time to go. Or let's grab our board and go. You gotta be like, well nobody want's to do this? fuck, alright I'm gonna go anyway.

I think it might help with networking. You get used to going places solo and having to make brand new friends to have friends there every where you go. Eventually after all those moments you've got some people all those different places you went. If you were to go do all that stuff with your own circle, you might be less likely to have reached out to all those strangers.


Sparknotes. It sucks but just go do shit anyway. Good luck
Aug 27 2012 7:22PM
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IanAvery-Leaf
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that edit sucks ass
Aug 27 2012 7:29PM
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youngdtay
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... But wait! THERE'S MORE!!!!!1!!!!1!!!!!!!!!!!!111111111!11!!!

Untitled from Nolan Dersch on Vimeo.

Aug 27 2012 7:33PM
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theabortionator
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I hear where you're coming from.


I don't constantly nag people though. I'm not the person you're thinking. I'm fine with just hanging out in the moment. Not the person that needs to do a million things and can't relax. It's more things that the people want to do but they're just bitches.


If you go skiing because your ski buddies just stay home, you go to a concert of a band they love but they're to lazy to go.

You do things they've been talking about doing forever but when the time comes they don't actually do it. When people are stoked about an idea, a mission, adventure, anything, they want to go. Everybody always wants to do everything. They'll talk about it forever. Then when the time comes to go. They'd rather stay. Different reasons for different people. I think for mine safety net. They could just stay home and do the same thing they did the last 100 nights. Or they could go on an adventure and the unknown will almost certainly happen.

I just have that go down a lot with my plans. You have a trip planned with 4 people. Then the time comes to get in the car and go, and you're solo.

Oh well. That's probably why I've met 90% of the people I know these days. I go somewhere alone, I make friends with the people around me.

I don't pester them. It's sort of just like oh word, so now you don't want to go, whatever. Anybody else want to go? nope, fuck it, still going anyway.

I decided to drive 8 hours solo to maine in 2010 because of a whip it on the floor. That was one of the first real big solo adventures. Since then everything's cool.


Even the best friends that you have were all complete strangers at one time.
Aug 27 2012 7:41PM
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mowglii
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lol 90 percent of my friends all just blaze and drink every day, are talentless and miserable at all aspects of life and they say im a fag/loner cause I never hang out with them haha. Thank the lord jesus for my 5-6 friends who actually skate/ski/swim/hike etc.
Aug 27 2012 7:42PM
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theabortionator
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Neat and highly original post
Aug 27 2012 7:46PM
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Errl
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i was annoyed by the first one, but this one makes me want to stick a gerbil in a blender.
Aug 27 2012 7:50PM
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EricaMN.
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Yeah most of my friends are just a waste of oxygen. All of them skip class everyday to smoke and drink, so I stopped hanging out with them.
Aug 27 2012 7:51PM
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XtRemE11
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I completely understand that shit like road trips arent always possible for people. and i dont expect people who are working 5 days a week to be able to drop everything and go. im kinda lucky that i have a pretty random schedule where ill work for like a couple weeks straight then get a week or two off. but this was an example of a scenario that happens a lot, friend doesnt have a job, isnt looking, parents pay for everything, and i even say ill pay all the gas money, which is really the only cost for a road trip.

if somebody says no i cant go cause i gotta work this week then i completely understand, but like half my friends dont have jobs, or like work for their parents a couple days a week and can get as much time off as they want. thats when it gets annoying. its like "hey let me pay for you to go have an awesome adventure" and they would rather sit around doing nothing, including not working.

and not to sound like a dick, but i cannot stand when people say things arent realistic, just cause i hear it a lot as a last resort excuse. i know what your saying, but when i hear it from my friends i think it has a little bit of a different meaning. like "i got nothing going on for an entire month, ive got butt loads of money, but just dropping everything and going somewhere 15 hours away isnt realistic" really, nothing thats fun and awesome is considered realistic to your average boring person. that word shouldnt exist, 200 people flying through the air in a metal jet propelled bird wasnt realistic, but somebody said "fuck it" and hey look fucker, humans can fly.
being the opposite of realistic is IMO, more "realistic" than being realistic if that makes sense. cause being unrealistic is how shit gets done.

when somebody is in the perfect position to be able to drop everything and go with very little no planning, but doesnt want to because its "unrealistic" fuck that, its completely realistic. but yes, taking a week off of your job/quitting to go on a random road trip is "unrealistic". but id still admire someone who could do that.
anyway, i hardly ever ask people to go on road trips, there were three i tried to plan out this summer and only one half way worked. im mostly talking about biking, skating, swimming, etc. over the weekend or after work. ive got about 8 people id consider friends, and im lucky if i can get one of them to go do something active a week.

Aug 27 2012 7:56PM
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IanAvery-Leaf
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goddamn I didn't think they could be any worse
Aug 27 2012 8:00PM
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XtRemE11
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this exactly, all my friends like doing fun cool shit, whenever we go on trips or just doing something active for the day the have an awesome time and keep saying they wanna go again and do more, they get just as stoked as i do. but when it comes to getting up, getting out of the house, putting in the little effort it takes to get your ass up, they bitch out.
like this summer, we had a trip planned (actually not by me this time!) we were gonna go spend a week rafting this river, that ends up at a sweet lake, then camping there for like 4 or 5 days climbing, biking, exploring and shit. anyway, we had 8 people including me who said they could go, the guy that planned it even quit his job. everyone made the time in advance to go. but when it came to like a week before we were gonna leave, one after another they all bitched out, not one of them had a real excuse.
Aug 27 2012 8:08PM
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NotGhood
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you need to come back and read some more because alot of this shit applies to you

dickhead.
Aug 27 2012 8:08PM
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CheddarJack
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Damn dude that blows. I don't get people like that. Like I would give up so much to go on a trip like that. Sounds like an absolute blast.
Aug 27 2012 8:16PM
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hundreds
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I live in a town of 2000 and everyone is an alcoholic and owns a mudding truck
Aug 27 2012 8:19PM
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CheddarJack
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And my friend problems are more like I have a friend who I longboard with, a friend who I bike with, a friend who I roam around town doing stupid shit with, etc etc. but most of them I can't do the other things with cuz they either don't want to or they suck at it. Like most of my friends ski, but most of them are total gapers who I don't wanna ski with. And then I don't have any good friends who climb or hike or is into the same music as me, etc. It blows. So I feel you OP and everyone else in this thread.
Aug 27 2012 8:20PM
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theabortionator
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I feel like we'd be good friends.

"hey let me pay for you to go have an awesome adventure and they would rather sit around doing nothing, including not working "


3 or 4 years ago I won a contest on jambase for mike doughty at this really fucking awesome venue in troy, ny. So I had 2 vip tickets. I like mike doughty and soul coughing but I'm not the worlds biggest fan or anything. One of my friends who was my neighbor at the time was a huge fan. So I decide to hit him up and see if he wanted to go. Obviously give him my ticket for free. He wasn't working but didn't want to go. It's about an hour 45 each way there(we lived in an area where the nearest anything was an hour. An hour drive is as basic as you going to the store for food. Mcdonalds, walmart, all of that an hour at least) So it's a little bit of a hike but I told him I would pay for the gas since I was going anyway. So free ride there and back, free vip ticket, free cd and whatever else, and a dd to drive the boat home so he could get hammered and not worry about anything.

He let me know that it sounded fun but he was planning on going to the bar. The bar = 1 of 2 bars up here. There's the same 3-6 people kicking it there on your average night. Nothing happening, no chicks, no entertainment. Just 3 people sitting at a bar with the occasional dart game. Also going to the bar for him and other up here, is the same every day of the year, unless somebody throws a "party" in which case they go there instead of the bar.


Long but that sort of sums up what I was talking about.

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I liked what you said about realistic. Instead of saying I don't want to go, or I'm not going "It's unrealistic". Well I just fucking did it bitch so you better believe it's realistic.

Aug 27 2012 8:21PM
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E__
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What a chump.
Aug 27 2012 8:24PM
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theabortionator
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If you don't want to read any of this, don't. Pretty simple


I feel that's something cool you realize at a certain point if you ever stop to think. When you're young, you get put into a box. There's what's possible and what isn't. The more you venture out of that box, and break through that barrier of the unknown, the more doors open up to you.

There was a period where I had bad anxiety just walking down the hall at school, talking to strangers, even normal everyday shit that you have to do. Now I have no problem hopping in the car and driving to fucking illionois or wherever if there's adventure to be had and new people to meet. Just reflecting on even the last few years it's crazy to see how much farther the boundaries have been pushed out. At the same time I find new ways to sort of challenge the limits.

I'm afraid of heights, I'm afraid of a lot of things. Pushing myself got me to ride some of the tallest and fastest roller coasters across the country. It's what keeps snowboarding from ever getting boring. There's almost nothing that I'm not in some way afraid of, and I think that's what makes life so much fun for me. Every time you challenge that barrier there's the fear that builds up, the feeling of uncertainty, and then that rush of adrenaline following when everything's fucking awesome and the biggest grin hit's your face. Now that's life.

I know I post on hear a bunch. I would rather surf the computer than watch tv. I keep an ns tab open and post hard. I have an xbox that I play when I'm home. At the same time, when ever there's an opportunity to anything that isn't those sort of things, I fucking jump on that. (I'll be on here or the xbox every day for a week, then be gone for a month. Or a couple days in a row and the out till the weekend) Fine with going a couple of weeks in a state I've never been without internet of cell service. Fuck when I was in missouri my bag disappeared and I had what I was wearing and that was it. Was def pissed about not having it, but whatever there was no getting it back.(even though it only had some clothes, cell charger, $$ worth of hat pins) and some other shit, it was all I had to get me through a few weeks, my one lifeline)

I think in a way that actually made the trip better. It just added an extra element. In the end, it all worked out. I just feel like there's so much good shit out there to do. I'm not saying it's bad to sit at home and just relax and watch tv, but why is everyone so afraid to change things up a little bit?

I really doubt the most memorable events in your life will be tv shows you watched deep in the past. There's a whole world out there.


Aug 27 2012 8:26PM
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Panda_with_Guns
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when i was little, me and my best friend would always go out on "adventurres" like progressing from exploring the neighborhood park, climbing trees, riding bikes to the lake and through neoghboring neighbor hoods, to sneeking out, long boarding around town and etc.he moved away recently from across the street so we havent done much of that recently. all my friends do is go to the same house everyday, smoke at the same time every day, and dont do shit except for the occassional munchie run. it sucks.
Aug 27 2012 8:48PM
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theabortionator
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Try 18 and a half hours from boston. Plus you can hit a 10+ hour traffic jam for the last few miles. And yeah, it's hot as balls on the farm in the middle of june.


I hate when kids commit to something and back out. But also, sometimes I'll mention something in passing that I want to do. One of my friends always takes that as me making definite plans.

I hear you. I'm pretty clear with people when I don't want to do something. Also no amount of trying to make me go is happening. There's some things that I was on the fence about but somebody badgered me to the point I said fuck this. Almost out of principle I avoid things where somebody is going far beyond the normal "you should go it'll be fun". (Or just go without said person if I wanted to go.



Back to your guys' dilemmas, I'd say just expand the friend group. Invite those guys on trips that you are going on with (hopefully) cooler friends that you met elsewhere maybe at college or a bar or whatever. That way, if they go, it makes the trip even better. But if they don't, it's just their loss and you are still going with a bunch of your friends and have an awesome time. Eventually the friends from home will realize what they are missing out on and start to be more proactive. If they don't, ditch them as friends. No reason to chill with people who want to sleep all day and bring you down.

Yeah, they pretty much don't. The kids in the town where my parent live I have ditched. The only thing to do is go to the bar there anyway and I'm not drinking + the scene blows. There's one friend I keep in contact from there that's more on my level, more tied down and not as down for random adventure but still much better than the rest of the town.

I don't really ditch people as friends as much as I just don't stay in touch with people that there's no point in keeping up with. There's no active canceling them out of my friends book but I will just give up and focus on more interesting people and all the strangers I still haven't met(preferably none creepers, but I have encountered lots of creepers)
Aug 27 2012 8:51PM
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KillaSteeze
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how did you get your N at 16?
Aug 27 2012 8:54PM
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E__
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I second this. Maybe he's from Alberta or somewhere else where the legal age is lowered?
Aug 27 2012 8:57PM
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youngdtay
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Yep says he's from Calgary. Beats BC's new shitty ass driving laws. I'm 15, I don't have an L, and apparently I need to wait until I'm 18 before I get my N. Shit sucks.
Aug 27 2012 9:07PM
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E__
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Yeah dude, I'm from BC but I got my licences before the laws were implied so I'm all good with N, almost 1 year left.
Aug 27 2012 9:12PM
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Aiden-P
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also 15, same deal here. vibes
Aug 27 2012 9:18PM
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SkiJay.
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lol.. it just stops at 45 secs
Aug 27 2012 9:41PM
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Poop_nugget
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nifty
Aug 27 2012 9:46PM
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E__
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Be glad it does.
Aug 27 2012 9:47PM
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Backyard.Skier
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TRASHY. Ftw
Aug 27 2012 10:32PM
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act.resist
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everyone obviously hates you
Aug 27 2012 10:38PM
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KillaSteeze
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yeah i got my L but i havent heard of these new driving laws? in BC you can get your N one year after you get your L, so by 17
Aug 27 2012 10:42PM
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Download-My-Apps
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best part about going to university or moving to a ski town is there are way more people with similar interests as you. You don't feel like a kid cause you want to have fun.
Aug 27 2012 10:47PM
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E__
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But I'm pretty sure it changed to two years for the L too.
Aug 27 2012 10:49PM
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