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Kevski
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So I just realized that since I've been in residence, my parents have divorced, my mom moved to Nova Scotia for some reason, my friend took my cat to Toronto since they're not allowed in dorms and my dad has closed off half of my house and turned it into a basement suite to pay for the mortgage of paying off my mom.

So the house that I've lived in for my whole life is definitely not "home" any more, and I just realized this in time for what will probably be a pretty fucked up Christmas break. It's still my house but not home, you know? Like I've lived there for my whole life, and the year I move to a new city for uni the situation back where I'm from completely changed. Just really strange, and I think I'd rather stay in res to be honest.

Thought I'd post this because everyone else in res is stoked on going home and I don't really care other than the fact that I am going to be able to go skiing almost every day. Anyone else have similar situations?

This is probably a downer thread, so yeah. Sorry about that.
Dec 18 2009 4:55AM
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Mr.Panda
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I can understand it. I have friends in the same situation here in my home town and it definitely sucks.

See if you can hang with friends as much as possible possibly?
Dec 18 2009 4:56AM
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shragler
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could be worse

Could be EASTER!


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Dec 18 2009 4:59AM
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eheath
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My parents moved from montana to washington as soon as i went to college, i find myself going to mt first then going to wa after.
Dec 18 2009 4:59AM
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nickyp
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I know what you mean man, it sucks. Everyone should have a place they go to whenever they need, that they can call home
Dec 18 2009 5:00AM
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SHastatahoe
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Thank you for making me laugh.

anyways, that does suck, but you just need to move on and learn from the experience I suppose.  Living in the dorms sucks, but next year you will probably have your own place and can stay there over break.

Dec 18 2009 5:05AM
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h_bar
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wow.. that must suck pretty hard. i cant imagine how it would feel if my mom and dad got divorced and moved out of their house.
Dec 18 2009 5:30AM
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Static
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meh, that home was a charade, I'm sure your parents didn't like faking their marriage until you left
Dec 18 2009 5:34AM
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DutchhGutss
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dude sorry to hear that just go skiing and chill with all your freinds and keep your mind off of shit, it seems ur pretty pumped on skiing anyways

Dec 18 2009 8:33AM
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thelittlebiggs
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I've never really had like a "home", the longest I've stayed consecutively in a city is 6 years, from like birth to 6 so I don't really remember the majority, and the longest I've lived in a house is like 3 years, so it's a little bit hard when people ask me where I'm from. So I feel ya
Dec 18 2009 8:56AM
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Ski..4..Life
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im in the exact same boat as you man, people always ask me where im from or what my home town is, there is no answer to the question.
i just end up telling my life story pretty much, its crazy.

im only 18 and have
lived in 9 different houses
gone to 9 different schools

i hate it and love it at the same, i kinda wish i didn't move as much as i did but at the same
time i am so grateful i did as i got to experience more of the world then most people do in their
life as well as meet tons of new and amazing people then i otherwise would of.

but im in Uni now so i have a home for 4 years at least
Dec 18 2009 10:00AM
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snwbrdmilf
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Great post...couldn't have said it better myself.
Dec 18 2009 10:13AM
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neutralzombie
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my brother's interestingly enough having a christmas on the 25 for a bunch of his friends who can't go home for christmas. though he almost didn't make plans to see his own family...
Dec 18 2009 10:37AM
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Kevski
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Thanks everyone. Super nice to see that people understand. And to those of you without a home base, I guess it's just something you get used to eh?

Advice taken, thanks a bunch. Heading off on a road trip through BC to ski at 3 different mountains tonight, so I'm STOKED. I won't be spending much time at my house anyways, so I won't really have to feel strange much.
Dec 18 2009 5:28PM
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M+M
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yeah i just got home for break and my grandfather died today - the first day i was home. the rest of this break my mom will be so out of it, i am just going to try and support her as much as i can to keep her hopes up
Dec 18 2009 5:31PM
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timmi
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i came home from school one weekend, and found that my bedroom had been packed up, repainted, and completely redone. non of my stuff is in it anymore, years worth of a poster-collage thing was taken down.

so my parents turned my bedroom into a spare room, becuase they are trying to stage it to sell. it was a real bummer for me. ive lived in that room for 19 years.

my parents also go to florida for half of the year, so most of the time when i go home its to a big empty house. in a town where i no longer really have friends. its a real bummer.

i know what your saying with that, but you just gotta think of it as its just a bedroom. its just a house. keep your chin up.
Dec 18 2009 5:38PM
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fujarome
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i think thats a fantastic thing to do.

find some friends who don't have a home scenario to go back to, and have christmas with them. Come on, it's christmas! No one wants to be alone that day!
Dec 18 2009 5:42PM
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gunstalk
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this year has been such a shitty year for me in febuary i got bleeding in my brain from overshooting a jump, then a month later my best friend commited suicide. in june i barowed my moms car and totaled it and i broke my wrist. After all that i feel like my family resents me so the holidays have been one of the most depressing times for me
Dec 18 2009 5:46PM
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hurrisun
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smoookkkee weeed evereee dayyyy
Dec 18 2009 5:46PM
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bhill2.0
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my flights are canclled to go home due to 2 feet of fresh. awesome shit.
Dec 18 2009 7:21PM
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infedel_one
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i feel yah here mano...my mom's dad has been day to day for the past few weeks and so she's ready to drive to jersey when he passes...i'm jewish so its gonna be a really hectic week seeing as you've gotta get the body buried in 24 hours...to OP that def. sucks but make the most of your ski trip!!
Dec 18 2009 7:27PM
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