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BravoWhiskey5280
Posts: 4020 - Karma: 520
So this may seem like a rant, but when do parents learn to accept behavior of teens,  in this case me. This summer my mom was released to all the so called "bad" things Ive been doing. Ive been caught drinking, smoking, and tonight she found my can of skoal and was all pissed. I know that its her good parenting for her to get mad at me but i just wanna know if she'll always be pissed and ever let it go. Im not a fuck or anything. Im a honors student on my way going to a good college and just want to live life. I'll be 18 in 20 days if that means anything. Its now a constant day strugle to hide my highschool life from my home life and im getting tired of it. This is pretty much a vent on NS...+++Vibes needed.
Sep 9 2009 12:54AM
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kool.aid.man
Posts: 1416 - Karma: 526
Just a typical parent trying to do what is best for their kid. My mom is a smoker and when I got caught with my pack of cigs sophmore year she was disappointed but understood because she got into the same thing around the same age. some parents will understand others wont. it all depends on how they were exposed to it as kids. unfortunately all i gotta say is its life and sometimes thats just how things work.
Sep 9 2009 1:03AM
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GORlLLA
Posts: 1950 - Karma: 45
Dude be careful tho, my parents caught me with all that stuff and lying to them and they sent me to live in the woods for 2 months and then to a treatment boarding school. ++Vibes, just watch out.
Sep 9 2009 1:03AM
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Mr.Panda
Posts: 17711 - Karma: 564
she will stay annoyed/pissed probably until you go off to college.  and then when you get home if you dont tell her about anything that you do and get good grades the annoying feeling she has will hopefully go away.  at least thats how my parents ended up working out with my chew addiction and shit
Sep 9 2009 1:03AM
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Funnel
Posts: 7816 - Karma: 1,531
See, it doesn't make any sense to me why someone would ever smoke a cig, regardless of how old they are.  That is coming from someone who has never smoked or drank anything and is 15 years old.  Go ahead and hate away, but I'll save a few hundred, maybe even thousand dollars and not risk getting in trouble with the cops because the harsh reality is, even if it might not be damaging, it is still illegal. 
Sep 9 2009 1:13AM
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Tortao
Posts: 1292 - Karma: 10
just give it time, i used to be way sketch around my parents with my "doings" but my parents are more about honesty than anything. so one day it just kinda came out, and now i can have beers with my dad. im 18 btw.

not tryin to be preachy, but i would give up that skoal, shits no good
Sep 9 2009 1:13AM
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AlexGaynor
Posts: 947 - Karma: 148
Compromise..
Stop smoking because it's retarded, and tell them to let you continue drinking.

Also make an agreement that if your grades drop you can no longer go out.

Basically im in the same boat.. I just haven't been caught yet. But when my dad figures out I plan on dropping the "I have a 4.0." and making a deal with him that I am a free person until my grades drop.
Sep 9 2009 1:16AM
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Funnel
Posts: 7816 - Karma: 1,531
Oh, also forgot to say, my parents would really restrict my skiing and anything fun if I was found doing shit like that.  I could mention some of my reasons for choosing to shy away from that stuff, but it would create a hate fest, so I will keep it at this.
Sep 9 2009 1:17AM
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BravoWhiskey5280
Posts: 4020 - Karma: 520
All i can say is just wait...
Sep 9 2009 1:19AM
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Elijah.
Posts: 9322 - Karma: 76
Meh, my parents would kill me if they caught me chewin', but they don't care if I smoke weed. They're both in the medical field too, so I trust them.
Sep 9 2009 1:21AM
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Funnel
Posts: 7816 - Karma: 1,531
Oh I know.  You're not the first too say this, hahaha.  I know for sure I will drink before I am out of high school haha.
Sep 9 2009 1:25AM
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BravoWhiskey5280
Posts: 4020 - Karma: 520
yea my mom is a nurse but my dad has chewing since he was 12. So i dont know what to think ha
Sep 9 2009 1:35AM
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Frank_Spinatra
Posts: 1203 - Karma: 75
Is it because you're a jesus loving creationist republican who loves guns, opposes health care reform and is close-minded in threads for "intelligent" people only??  If that's the case then ya, I wouldn't get NS all fired up again...
Sep 9 2009 1:37AM
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[~_~]
Posts: 20239 - Karma: 1,273
As much as it sucks, you really can't blame them for getting upset. They're parents; it's their job to make sure you don't fail at life. Unfortunately, getting good grades in secondary school doesn't mean shit regarding a person's intelligence, so of course they're going to be upset at your questionable behavior.

Try to show them that you can be responsible while doing these things, even if they don't present an opportunity to you on a silver platter. Call their bluff and show them for the better. And above all, do NOT lie to them. Who you are as a person means nothing if you're untrustworthy. Any rational parent would rather find their kid doing drugs than lying to their face.
Sep 9 2009 1:41AM
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babysteeze84
Posts: 720 - Karma: 285
Well put.  Lying to your parents gets you no where, and they really are just trying to make sure you're getting your stuff together and keeping it together.
Sep 9 2009 4:13AM
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