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jarossamdb7
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Ok, so there is this girl that I really really like. I mean, I have never been so sure about liking someone before. Anyway, yesterday I asked her out over the weekend and she said sunday works. That was as far as we got because she needed to go to class. Anyway, I see her today, and she says nothing to me. Just sort of a glance in my direction and thats it. Pretty much, Im clueless as to whats going on. Should I try to ask her whats going on, or do you think it is better to leave her alone for a while?
I also just texted her friend to ask her if she was mad at me, and have not gotten any response yet.
Jan 20 2006 8:03PM
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00000000
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haha oh man, how about you just ask her if things are still good for sunday ?
Jan 20 2006 8:04PM
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casimiro
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there is no telling what anything means with women. they are a strange animal that is remotely like a man. she is probably playing the waiting game, just don't get all worried/clingy/needy/weird about what she is doing and call her on sat. if she ditches you on sunday that is another game they play, its called operation fuck with his mind, well actually the majority of what they do is classified under this mantra. good luck they are smarter and crazier.
Jan 20 2006 8:08PM
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jarossamdb7
Posts: 6322 - Karma: -10
well, thats what im asking about. like sometime before sunday Im going to ask her that, but im trying to figure if it is better to leaver her alone in the meantime considering this shit.
Jan 20 2006 8:08PM
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sneather
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i wouldn't like totally ignore her. like when u saw here in school i would gone up to her and talked to her. it shows her that u care
Jan 20 2006 8:11PM
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jarossamdb7
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no, but thats just it, we never finalized anything on sunday. I was going to ask her if she wanted to go skiing for the day and then to dinner, or if she just wanted to go to dinner and a movie. which means that I kind of need to ask her before sunday.

also, I already left her a message asking "whats up?". did I fuck up? is it too late? its a funky situation, because we are in the same dorm so its hard not to see her until sunday...
Jan 20 2006 8:12PM
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twix_182
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she may have glanced at u in hopes of u going up to her and seeing what was happening on sunday
Jan 20 2006 8:13PM
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jarossamdb7
Posts: 6322 - Karma: -10
no see I was waiting with her frind and this other guy in the dorm lounge and then she comes in the door and just starts talking to her friend and leaves withought saying a word to me and just glances over at me.
Jan 20 2006 8:14PM
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lalalalaura
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just wait it out. there's no sense getting all anxious over something that's not really in your control.
Jan 20 2006 8:19PM
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jarossamdb7
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thats true, but I atleast need to contact her about what and when on sunday, because all that we have figured out is something sunday. How exactly would you suggest I go about doing this?
Jan 20 2006 8:22PM
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Lax_Bro40
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dude call her saturday night say u cant go and go skiing.. girls are overrated and u end up missing time to ski
Jan 20 2006 8:26PM
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lalalalaura
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No, you don't NEED to do anything. If she genuinely wants to go with you on sunday, she'll reply to your text. You can't do much more. Make plans to go skiing, and leave an extra seat if she's decides to be down.

Don't stress out over something that isn't in your control. Give her time. If you really genuinely like her, and she really genuinely likes you, one single day won't make a huge difference to be apart from one another. You've lasted through your entire lives up until this week without one another, just let the universe do its thing, don't force anything.
Jan 20 2006 8:27PM
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jarossamdb7
Posts: 6322 - Karma: -10
ok, im just going to go smoke a fat bowl. im sure its not a big deal...
Jan 20 2006 8:54PM
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cj
Posts: 4032 - Karma: 469
shes just a girl man, dont be afraid, dont over think, just treat her as you would anyone else..if you want to chill this weekend, let her know.
Jan 20 2006 8:55PM
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snoopy
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thats what i would do
Jan 20 2006 8:56PM
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Jake...
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yeah thaat way its also seems like you dont need her, and if it goes to plan she come crawling back to you. THEN who wears the pants in the relationship. YOU do you frined, you do.
may jesus be with you
Jan 20 2006 9:07PM
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lagwagon
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so much wisdom in this thread.
Jan 21 2006 6:17PM
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guillermolongjon2
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ur a hypocrite
Jan 21 2006 8:25PM
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Salomonman
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Why are sketchin out? Just talk to her like you normally would, im guessing you talk to her when you see her? Treat her like she is your friend and finalize some shit. dont be suprised if your plans dont work out either, girls will do that, dont sketch, just let it be
Jan 21 2006 11:19PM
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Ericpbp
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well if you already asked to chill and she said yes. you cant not sa anything otherwise she will think you didnt mean it and you didnt care.
Jan 21 2006 11:30PM
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jimmychung
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stay cool and try not to worry about it. i know it's hard sometimes, but just assume everything's fine, i don't think they like when you seem worrisome alot..
at least that's what i've understood through personal experience.
Jan 21 2006 11:51PM
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Jaskittin
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dude just because she said yes to sunday does not mean you are "going out". Shit will prob be a little awkward for a while til you get things rolling a little bit. Just go up to her in the hall and be like so yeah, I was thinking on sunday.......... After you hang out once or twice things will go smoother.
Jan 22 2006 2:45AM
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PurpleSkier
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man, how fucking old are you? you said you're in college, don't be such a pussy. Try being a man. Go talk to the girl. If you don't she'll think you're a stupid pansy. If she's a chick that's worth pursuing, pursue her. Duh.
Jan 22 2006 4:07AM
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jarossamdb7
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shit dude, I have been trying. whatever, Im sure ill see her sometime today.
Jan 22 2006 12:42PM
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jarossamdb7
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ok, so the deal is that she said she might have too much homework. which could quite possibly be true because she sure as hell has not been around the dorm for much of the weekend. But you would think if she really wanted to go out, she would have planned a little better, no? or maybe its just her way of making it an un-planned, on the go date? something else maybe? anyhow, If shit doesnt go through, I have decided to stick to a quoat by one of my facorite bands The New Bomb Turks, which is:

""There are more fish in the sea" is the only truth to me"
Jan 22 2006 6:32PM
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snoopy
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so true. im sometimes forget that
Jan 22 2006 6:39PM
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J.D.
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You were fucked before you started because you're too nervous about everything and you think too much. That spells instant death.
Jan 22 2006 6:39PM
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thedutchmayn
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Do you still write notes?

If you truly like eachother then she'll put one day of not seeing you behind everything and all will be well. Good luck.
Jan 22 2006 7:08PM
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ihatemyscratches
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does she know you like her? that is the most important detail possible.
Jan 22 2006 7:19PM
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jarossamdb7
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I would think that me asking her out would imply this, pretty decently, no?
Jan 23 2006 2:06PM
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timmi
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thats some deep shit right there.
Jan 23 2006 2:11PM
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jarossamdb7
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so, its settled. we are just frinds. shit, I dont have to worry about her getting all bitchey at me atleast.
Jan 23 2006 4:41PM
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Sarah_eats_snow
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Just casually go up to her and like see if things r still on, if its ment it wil lhappen and if not Fuck her
Jan 23 2006 6:47PM
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SwitchUp1
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dude just talk with her but dont say wats goin on, its prolly nuthin she jus dint have time im guessin good luck
Jan 23 2006 6:51PM
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jarossamdb7
Posts: 6322 - Karma: -10
its pretty much late now. read my last post.



one question though. if we concluded just friends, does that mean that now or at a later point in time she has no interest?

heres the full story in an email I just sent my friend if that helps:

Pretty much, I asked a girl out on thirsday and She said sunday works. she was being kind of weird and was seeming kind of cold around me. I finally got ahold of her sunday at like noon to work out the time and everything but she said that she had not been on campus all day and that she may have homework that needed to be done. We pretty much settled that I would come by around 6 to see what was up (we are in the same dorm). Well at 5 the cafiteria here opens and I was a little hungry at that point so I figured I would go get a little something to eat. As it turned out she was there and I asked her if she still had homework and all she said was "I'm tired." Then she sort of hinted that she wanted to go to the hotsprings and she said something like "if only I had the money." The thing was that she said it to her friend, but so that I would hear it and I know she wanted me to take her but it just seemed really sleezey to say it that way and it just wasnt right. Maybe you had to be there, but my firend who has had much more girl expeirence was at the table, and he said it didnt seem right at all. Pretty much our conversation today concluded with "Just friends." The thing is, it is hard to tell if she got all cold about it because I freeked out and tryed to find out what was going on with her (I only called her twice but I guess I sounded worried), or if she never really wanted to go out but she said yes to be "nice." I hope it is the first one, because then I know what to do better next time.
Jan 23 2006 8:07PM
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Sarah_eats_snow
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aww sorry thats ok least she was nice about it
Jan 23 2006 8:18PM
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wdbo.
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weird story
Jan 23 2006 8:33PM
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HuckerGently
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well dont let that discourage you from trying with other girls. a lot of girls dont have a fucking hold on their feelings and emotions so its not suprising that she was shadey. just keep on keepin on man, you'll find one eventually
Jan 23 2006 8:40PM
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ski8990
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what a terribly depressing thread
Jan 23 2006 8:43PM
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Peetri
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bro just go right up to her and tell her whats what. shes prolly to shy to talk to you. you gotta do the work man.
Jan 23 2006 10:15PM
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Deafboy
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since when do fellow ns'ers have to make your fucking desicions...

honestly what sounds more right to you?
dont just stand there and stare back at her.....i bet shes thinking exactly what you thought.




now im gunna read the rest to see what you said...........after the first post.
Jan 23 2006 11:15PM
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jarossamdb7
Posts: 6322 - Karma: -10
make my desicions? never, but some casual advice can help sometimes.

and I dont think she is, considering what I just said up there^
Jan 24 2006 3:19AM
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grubix2
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I know how you feel. When I was in highschool, there was this girl I liked more than any other girl ever. Well same sort of story. But not quite as weird. Like she was the type that would lead to on for a little, then wait and leave you hanging, then try to use the shit out of you. This is what you need to do:

Go to a party, get piss drunk, lower your standards a bit, then hook up with some chick... thats the best thing I can say. I mean I had a hard time getting over her. But don't forget to lower your standards a little so it's a guarenteed lay. Trust me these "users" are a dime a dozen... honostly she probably she has 7 other guys waiting like you. Don't take it personally, i know it's hard, but you'll get over her.
Jan 24 2006 8:43AM
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adil
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;)
Jan 24 2006 9:48AM
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FUUUCK
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play it cool
Jan 24 2006 10:10AM
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jarossamdb7
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this was helpful, although im not just interested in "getting hooked up"

as pussy as this may sound, im actually interested in a long term relationship!
Jan 24 2006 1:42PM
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J.D.
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Wow.

You got owned.

By yourself.
Jan 24 2006 1:45PM
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duhamelski
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she knows that she is not to speak unless spoken to now that you are officially dating. everyone knows that one... god
Jan 24 2006 1:46PM
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jarossamdb7
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i think I figured out what it is too. its her cokehead friend who told me flat out "im going to marry for money first, then divorce and marry someone I actually like"

she got her to try coke too, I sure as hell fucking hope she doesnt try it again!
Jan 24 2006 1:49PM
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jsg
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wow.....dont rush things....say hi when u pas sher and smile

pretty much what everyone else said
Jan 24 2006 1:53PM
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